Funeral visitations are a way for friends and loved ones to support the family and offer condolences in their time of grief. In today’s ever-changing society, where things are becoming more and more informal, it can be difficult to know just what the proper etiquette is when attending a funeral visitation.

Funeral visitation can vary greatly from family to family, so most importantly, you should take your cues from the family and atmosphere to avoid any faux pas. In most situations, visitation is open to anyone who knew the person who passed, or who is a friend of someone in the family. This is generally a solemn event (unless otherwise specified), so your attire should be subdued, this is no time to be making any fashion statements.

It is completely appropriate to express sadness, but remember that the family is still dealing with their own grief and shock. Do your best to stay focused on them and on paying your respects.

What do you say to the family during a visitation? Think carefully before you speak and if you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to say, then don’t say it.

Here are some examples of things you might say:

If a member of the family doesn’t know you, be sure to introduce yourself and briefly explain your relationship with the person who has passed before you offer your sympathy and condolences. When you approach the family, say something that comes from the heart, but be brief about it. The family will appreciate hearing that the deceased is fondly remembered and missed by their friends.

If you need further assistance or have questions, please call our helpful staff at Tharp Funeral Home at (540) 586-3443