The funeral service is just one of the initial steps of dealing with the death of a loved one, and those who are grieving may still be in a state of shock. In fact, sometimes dealing with loss after the funeral is even harder than the funeral service itself. So what can you do to comfort someone after the funeral is over? Here are some ideas.

What to say

Knowing what to say to someone who is dealing with the grief of a loved one passing is difficult. Mostly, they just want to know that you care, you miss their loved one too, and that you are available if they need anything. They might not need help with anything, but know that someone is willing to offer is a great support when dealing with the pain of loss.

Offer to help with the reception

If they have not hired a catering service for the reception, you could offer to make some meals, or help set up the reception area with tables and chairs. You could also offer to make tea or coffee, and serve it at the reception to the other guests. If they are hiring chairs, crockery, and cutlery, offer to fetch it for them before the funeral and return it to the hiring company afterwards.

Offer to watch their children

They may not want to be away from their family during this difficult time, but there are things that they will need to take care of, and they may need someone to watch their children. Offering to take their kids for a couple hours can be a huge help to someone after the funeral.

Send flowers

Send them some flowers in the days or weeks following the funeral, just so they know you are thinking of them. Don’t forget to attach a little greeting card with an uplifting message to the bouquet.

Visit them at home or invite them out

You don’t want to impose, but visiting the bereaved at home for just a few minutes can lift their spirits and get their minds off of their grief. They may not feel like socializing much, but you could ask them to join you for lunch or coffee when they’re ready. Maybe bring them some home-cooked food, or invite them over for dinner to get them out of their house.

It’s difficult to know how to help after the funeral is over, but the important thing is letting the bereaved know that you are there for them and available to help however you can.