Douglas Wexler Kincaid, Jr

Mr. Douglas Wexler Kincaid, Jr., died on November 5, 2026, in Lynchburg, Virginia. Born in Suffolk on December 12, 1943, he was the son of Esta Everett Kincaid and Douglas Wexler Kincaid.

Doug is survived by his wife of 59 years, Brenda Darden Kincaid, and four children, Julia Kincaid Hollon (John Oaks Hollon), of Lexington, Kentucky, Douglas Wexler Kincaid, III, of Roanoke, Virginia, Sarah Kincaid Lesko of Lynchburg, Virginia, and James Everett Darden Kincaid (Valerie Cornwall Kincaid) of Sacramento, California. He is also survived by eight grandchildren: Elizabeth Hollon Smallwood (Steven Smallwood), John Oaks Hollon, Jr., Ann Everett Hollon, Edmund Hardt Lesko, Douglas Crawford Long Lesko, James Darden Lesko, Everett Cornwall Kincaid and Katherine Darden Kincaid. He is also survived by his sister Julia Kincaid Wheeler (Don Wheeler), his sisters-in-law Alice Darden Nicks (John Nicks) and Nancy Darden Esber (Dale Esber) and his brother-in-law Jim Darden (Laura Hewlitt Darden) as well as his former son-in-law John Michael Lesko.

Doug attended Woodberry Forest School and graduated from Suffolk High School with the class of 1962. He was a proud graduate of the University of Virginia in 1966, where he majored in economics and was a member of Beta Theta Pi Fraternity.

Doug was commissioned as an officer in the United States Air Force in April 1967. He trained at Keesler Air Force Base in Biloxi, Mississippi and then spent his next four years at Patrick Air Force Base, Cocoa Beach, Florida. There he worked as a Mission Controller on specially equipped airplanes that supported the missions of the Apollo Space Program. In addition to meeting the Apollo astronauts, he was privileged to be on the plane that brought the first moon rocks back from American Samoa to Houston. He was on duty in the Patrick AFB Air Operations Control Center when the Apollo 13 astronauts announced they had a critical problem. Doug earned the Meritorious Service Medal and a Junior Officer Recognition Award during his service to the Air Force.

In 1971 Doug and his family returned to Suffolk where he worked in the banking industry, first with Virginia National Bank (Bank of America) and then with United Virginia Bank (present day Truist).

In 1976, Doug became a founding partner of a peanut brokerage business, a field he worked in for the next 15 years. Following the sale of his business, Doug worked in the development department of the Portsmouth Redevelopment and Housing Authority for almost two decades.

Doug served the city of Suffolk as a member of the Suffolk City School Board and as a past chairman of the Suffolk Redevelopment and Housing Authority. A lifelong member of St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, he was a former Vestryman and Trustee. He was also a past member of the Suffolk Lions Club, the Portsmouth Assembly, the Jolly Boys and Cedar Point Country Club.

Doug and Brenda shared many interests including entertaining, traveling, attending Family Camp at Camp Alleghany in West Virginia and tailgating before UVA football games. The most special times for both, but especially for Doug, were the days he spent vacationing with his children and grandchildren on the Outer Banks of North Carolina.

In 2017 Doug and Brenda moved to Lynchburg, Virginia, to be closer to their children and grandchildren. They found Lynchburg to be a very welcoming community where they enjoyed making new friends both at St. John’s Episcopal Church and at Oakwood Country Club.

The family would like to give special thanks to the staff of the fifth floor of Drinkard at Westminster Canterbury in Lynchburg for their patience, kindness and care for Doug during his final months of life.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that memorial donations be made to the Free Clinic of Central Virginia, St. John’s Episcopal Church or to Woodberry Forest School.

A funeral service will be held at 2:00 pm on Monday, December 21, at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church in Suffolk with a reception following the service in the church Parish Hall.