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The Quiet Gift of Planning Ahead: Why Preplanning Matters More Than You Think

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 19:51:10 GMT

Planning ahead isn’t always something we naturally gravitate toward—especially when it comes to end-of-life decisions. It’s easy to put off, to say “someday,” or to assume there will always be more time.

But preplanning your funeral or cremation arrangements is one of the most thoughtful and meaningful gifts you can leave behind for the people you love.

What Is Preplanning?

Preplanning is simply the process of making your final wishes known ahead of time. This can include decisions about burial or cremation, the type of service you’d like, music, readings, and even the small personal touches that reflect your life.

It doesn’t have to be complicated. In fact, even a simple plan written down can provide clarity and comfort when it’s needed most.

Why More Families Are Choosing to Plan Ahead

1. It Relieves Emotional Burden

When a loved one passes, families are often faced with dozens of decisions in a very short time, many of them while navigating deep grief. By preplanning, you remove that weight. Your family won’t have to wonder what you would have wanted, they’ll already know.

2. It Protects Your Family Financially

Funeral costs can add up quickly depending on services selected. Preplanning gives you the opportunity to guarantee certain services and merchandise, avoid future inflation, and prevent overspending during emotional decision-making.

3. It Ensures Your Wishes Are Honored

Every life is unique and every service should reflect that. When you plan ahead, you can choose burial or cremation, select meaningful music or readings, and include personal touches that tell your story.

4. It Gives You Time and Control

Planning in advance allows you to make decisions thoughtfully and without pressure. There’s no urgency. No rushed decisions. Just clarity and confidence.

5. It Brings Peace of Mind

Knowing everything is taken care of allows you to focus on what matters most: living fully and spending time with loved ones.

Preplanning Doesn’t Have to Mean Prepaying

You have options: document your wishes, set aside funds gradually, or explore pre-need plans or insurance options. Families are guided through these choices with no pressure—just support and information.

A Simple Step Today Can Make All the Difference Tomorrow

Preplanning is about easing the path for those you love. It gives them space to grieve, remember, and heal—without added stress.

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Whether you’re ready to start a plan or simply have questions, speaking with a preplanning specialist can help you explore your options in a comfortable, no-pressure setting.

Because the greatest gift you can leave behind isn’t just memories—it’s peace of mind.

Finding Hope and Healing: Coping with Grief as Spring Approaches

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 19:48:48 GMT

Finding Hope and Healing This Spring | Discover ways to cope with grief, honor loved ones, and find support this season. Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory serves families in Lynchburg, Bedford, Madison Heights, Moneta and Roanoke.

The Meaning of Seeing a Red Cardinal at Christmas: A Message from Heaven

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 14:45:58 GMT

The vivid red cardinal holds a special place in the hearts of many, especially during the Christmas season. Its striking presence amidst the stillness of winter carries a powerful meaning for those grieving the loss of a loved one. This article explores the meaning of seeing a red cardinal , particularly at Christmas, and how this cherished bird symbolizes hope, comfort, and an enduring connection with those who have passed.

Cardinals and the Christmas Spirit

Over time, the cardinal has come to be known as the Christmas bird. Christmas is a season of joy, reflection, and love. Amidst the festivities, it can also be a poignant time for those who are grieving. For many, the appearance of a red cardinal at Christmas becomes more than a fleeting moment—it feels like a message from heaven.

The bright red plumage of the cardinal stands out against the muted tones of winter, symbolizing life, vitality, and warmth in a season of cold and stillness. In Christian and Catholic traditions, red is associated with the blood of Christ, signifying redemption and divine love. For those of these faiths, the cardinal’s appearance at Christmas often carries spiritual significance, offering a sense of divine presence and hope. However, even for those outside of religious contexts, the cardinal can represent themes of perseverance and renewal, which resonate universally.

The color red has become synonymous with Christmas, a season that celebrates love, connection, and hope. The cardinal, with its vibrant crimson feathers, serves as a striking reminder of these values. It symbolizes the constancy of life and faith, even amidst the stillness of winter. Unlike many other northern birds, cardinals remain in their habitats year-round, making them a rare and beautiful sight in the colder months, embodying the enduring spirit of the season.

The Cardinal and Messages From Beyond

Many believe that seeing a red cardinal is a spiritual sign that a departed loved one is near. The saying, “When a cardinal appears, an angel is near,” resonates deeply with those searching for comfort after loss. The bird’s sudden appearance, often in quiet, reflective moments, feels like a reminder that the spirit of the deceased continues to surround us.

This belief is rooted in the symbolism of birds as messengers. Across cultures, birds have been seen as harbingers of the soul, connecting the earthly realm to the divine. Cardinals, with their brilliant hue and serene presence, seem to carry this role with a special grace.

Read this article about birds and their symbolism in a loved one’s passing.

The Christmas Cardinal: A Bridge Between Loss and Love

The cardinal’s significance becomes even more poignant during the holiday season, when memories of loved ones fill our hearts. For many, the appearance of a cardinal rekindles cherished memories, serving as a gentle reminder of the enduring love shared with those who have passed.

When a cardinal visits your garden or perches near your window during Christmas, it may feel like a comforting whisper of reassurance:

This connection can transform feelings of grief into a sense of peace, as if the loved one is reminding us of the joy they wish for us, especially during the holidays.

Honoring the Presence of Cardinals

For those who find solace in the meaning of seeing a red cardinal , there are meaningful ways to honor their presence during Christmas:

Finding Comfort in Cardinal Visits

Whether you interpret it as a spiritual sign or a natural reminder of life’s beauty, the appearance of a cardinal at Christmas offers a moment of comfort and reflection. It bridges the gap between the seen and unseen, reminding us that love transcends time and space.

This holiday season, if you’re fortunate enough to witness the vivid flash of red in the snow, take a moment to pause. It may just be a message, a gift of reassurance from a loved one who is never far from your heart.

Tharp Funeral Home understands the journey of grief and the need for meaningful symbols in healing. If you’ve recently lost a loved one, finding ways to honor their memory can bring peace. May the presence of a cardinal this Christmas serve as a gentle reminder that love endures, even in the quiet of winter.

Frequently Asked Questions About Seeing Red Cardinals

Transforming Memories into Timeless Treasures: Tharp Funeral Home Partners with Eterneva

Thu, 13 Nov 2025 15:20:27 GMT

Transforming Memories into Timeless Treasures: Tharp Funeral Home Partners with Eterneva

At Tharp Funeral Home, our mission has always been to guide families through grief with compassion, helping them discover meaningful ways to honor and remember their loved ones. That's why we're thrilled to announce our partnership with Eterneva—a pioneering company that transforms cremated ashes or hair into genuine, lab-grown memorial diamonds. This innovative service turns a profound loss into a radiant, enduring tribute that you can wear, hold, and cherish forever.

The Eterneva Journey: A Seven-Stage Path to Healing

Eterneva's process is more than just science—it's a thoughtful, seven-stage journey designed to involve you every step of the way. From the initial submission of ashes or hair, you'll receive regular monthly updates, including captivating videos showing the carbon purification and diamond growth. The result? A custom-cut, graded diamond, optionally color-treated to your preferences, and set into jewelry of your choice.

Imagine the comfort of holding a sparkling gem that encapsulates the very essence of someone dear to you. Remarkably, in many cases, Eterneva can create multiple diamonds from a single person's remains, allowing family members to each receive a personal keepsake. It's a beautiful way to keep connections alive across generations.

How It Works: Step by Step

Curious about the process? Here's a clear breakdown:

Submission and Welcome Kit : You'll receive a welcome kit from Eterneva and send in a small amount of ashes or hair—simple and secure.
Carbon Purification and Growth : In a state-of-the-art lab, the carbon is expertly purified and then grown into a raw diamond using high heat and pressure, mimicking nature's process in a controlled environment.
Cutting, Customization, and Setting : The diamond undergoes inspection, is precision-cut in Antwerp (the world's diamond capital), optionally enhanced with your chosen color, and finally set into the jewelry piece you select.
Homecoming : Your completed diamond—infused with profound meaning—returns to you, ready to be a part of your daily life.

This transparent, engaging approach not only demystifies the science but also provides emotional milestones along the way, turning grief into a story of celebration.

Why Choose a Memorial Diamond?

In a world where traditional memorials like urns or plaques offer solace, Eterneva diamonds provide something uniquely personal and portable. They're not just symbols—they're wearable legacies that sparkle with the light of the life lived. Whether set in a ring, pendant, or earrings, these diamonds become everyday reminders of love that never fades.

A Sparkle That Honors a Life Well-Lived

Thu, 30 Oct 2025 19:29:39 GMT

A Sparkle That Honors a Life Well-Lived

At Tharp Funeral Home, we’re always seeking meaningful ways to help families celebrate the lives of their loved ones.

We’re now offering biodegradable glitter as an optional addition to cremated remains for those who wish to add a touch of shimmering beauty to a scattering ceremony or memorial tribute.

This eco-friendly enhancement creates a gentle sparkle in the sunlight, adding visual warmth to a deeply personal moment. It’s a simple way to reflect the radiance, joy, or unique personality of someone who truly lit up the lives around them.

As always, our team is here to guide you in crafting a farewell as beautiful and memorable as the life it honors.

Because every goodbye should be as unique as the life lived.

“How can I feed them?” 23 food delivery ideas for the bereaved

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 17:18:22 GMT

“How can I feed them?” 23 food delivery ideas for the bereaved

“Food is comfort. When we think back, times that we have shared with our family generally involve meals or gatherings. Eating and laughing are memories that bring us comfort and when a death occurs, we want to provide comfort to someone who is hurting. It is the act of giving someone food that is the way we express that which we cannot put into words.” – Kay Rice, Director at Tharp Funeral Home

Food brings comfort to those who are recovering. And there are simple ways to be prepared for meal deliveries when families need it the most.

Choosing the right meal train recipes

There are many classic comfort foods that are easy to make, easy to freeze, and everyone will enjoy. You may remember some of the casseroles and dessert dishes that you have eaten at funerals or enjoyed after a hospital stay. Choosing your recipes ahead of time will save you the time and energy of going through cookbooks and making an extra grocery run when the time comes.

When choosing your go-to recipes, keep in mind that you will want to stick with simple, less complex recipes that are quick to put together – maybe it’s something you’ve been making for years and don’t even have to think about it. Also, make sure to consider the meal delivery: is it something you can make in a disposable casserole dish, or a glass jar you don’t need back? And of course, to avoid risk it is not recommended to test new recipes, but use the ones that you already know people will enjoy.

Here are 6 things to keep in mind when you are choosing your meal train recipes:

Have allergy-friendly options available (no gluten, nuts, pork, etc)
Choose freezable recipes. If the family is getting a lot of food deliveries, they might not want to eat it right away.
Include reheating instructions
More is better. Make enough so they have leftovers.
Don’t forget dessert
Use ingredient cards with space for a handwritten note that you can attach to the meal ( like these meal train recipe cards ).

23 Meal Train Food Ideas

There are some classic, go-to casserole recipes that are known for being well-liked by picky eaters, including the kids. From feeding families with kids to providing snacks and desserts, here are 25 great food ideas ready for gifting:

Chicken

Chicken is always a safe choice and can be used in so many ways from chicken salad and cold chicken pasta to warm rice casseroles. Fried chicken is a southern favorite and can be eaten cold as well. Many chicken dishes also avoid common allergies like nuts and can be made without wheat or dairy.

Chicken Salad with croissants, here are 40 to choose from
One Pot Chicken and Rice , from Iowa Girl Eats
Cheez-It Chicken (recipe card included)
Chicken and Dumplings , from Taste of Home
Chicken Pot Pie , from Betty Crocker
“Day 3” Tea Room Pasta Salad (recipe card included)

Pork

Ham biscuits are considered the official funeral sandwich and come in plenty of varieties. Pork is not as safe for people with religious considerations but is an easy choice if you know the families’ preferences.

Ham Biscuits , from Southern Living
Baked Ham , from Dinner then Dessert

Beef

Ground beef can always be swapped out for ground turkey or chicken and can be used in a wide variety of casseroles, soups, and salads. Consider a simple Taco Salad package that can be made anytime and customized to an individual’s preference.

Sides

Bagels are considered to be symbolic of the circle of life in some religious communities and are a food gifting favorite as they are easy to deliver and last for days. Don’t forget plenty of cream cheese and napkins.

Pineapple Casserole , from Tastes of Lizzy T
Fire and Ice Tomatoes , from Lanas Cooking
Veggie or Fruit Tray
Donuts or Bagels
Trail Mix or Granola Bars

Dessert

The job of the cake is to bring everyone together – because the cake is shared together through equal portions, it symbolizes unity and the breaking of boundaries.

Perfectly Chocolate, Chocolate Cake , from Hershey’s
Preacher Cake , from the Chunky Chef
Watergate Salad , from Spend with Pennies

Other Ideas

Sandwich in a box: including everything you need to make sandwiches, meat and cheese from the deli, breads and spreads
Drinks and Ice like sodas, beer or wine (if appropriate), water bottles, seltzer drinks, coffee and tea with creamers
Paper goods like plates and napkins, utensils, paper towels and even toilet paper

Benefits of Travel Protection: Treasuring a Lifetime of Experiences

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 17:05:22 GMT

Benefits of Travel Protection: Treasuring a Lifetime of Experiences

Traveling to new places is one of the greatest benefits of retiring; there are so many extraordinary experiences all over the world. But what happens when someone is in Dublin on vacation with their loved one or on an Alaskan cruise with their family… and the unimaginable occurs?

While the risk of dying abroad or away from home in the United States is low, it is a reality that should be taken seriously. Those who are enjoying the benefits of traveling should also consider the benefits of a travel protection plan.

The cost of unforeseen death away from home

When death away from home occurs in the United States a family could have to pay $4,000 – $5,000 on average to pay for preparation and shipping of the body back home, and when it is overseas this could cost $10,000 or more.

There are many small details and unknown events that must take place when people die away from home, like:

Working with the police and coroner’s office
Working with a funeral home local to the death
Embalming the body
Shipping the body home
Transportation from the airport back to a local funeral home

Sudden death is already difficult enough, but when it’s not at home it adds another layer of anxiety and financial stress to an already grieving family.

What is Travel Protection and how does it work?

Travel Protection is a way of financially securing a person’s arrangements back home in the event of dying while traveling. For a one-time, flat fee, the insured will have immediate support and financial backing to get to the funeral home of their choice with a single phone call. Travel protection is covered anywhere in the world that is 75 or more miles from your residence.

Make one phone call and all arrangements will be handled
100% of the cost will be covered
Covers any location in the world
Saves thousands of dollars in these unfortunate events

Full Circle of Protection: Adding Travel Protection to Prearrangements

The truth is, nobody knows when or where they are going to die. That’s why it’s important to consider adding travel protection to a cremation or burial plan. Once pre-arrangements are made that include travel protection, loved ones will be given invaluable peace of mind and huge financial savings. Here are a few benefits of pre-planning with travel protection:

Removes the emotional and financial burden on the family members
Protects and aids family members during a very difficult time
Complete pre-arrangement plans

Planning directors can answer all of your questions

The Funeral Directors at Tharp are fully equipped with the experience and knowledge you need to compassionately help you make arrangements. They can help you with every stage of the funeral process, including:

Pre-planning. Our Funeral Directors will walk you through the steps of pre-planning a funeral and make sure that all of the necessary components are addressed.
Budget. We will thoughtfully work with you and your unique financial needs to create a service that is a fitting tribute to your loved one. A meaningful funeral need not put a family into debt.
Peace of mind. Having everything prepared before the time of need can make a difficult season go much more smoothly for your loved ones.

5 Things You Need to Know About Burial Planning

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 17:01:17 GMT

5 Things You Need to Know About Burial Planning

Burial planning can feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. Think of it as being organized and thinking ahead, just like you would do in any other area of your life. Here are five things you should know as you consider burial planning.

1. Burials and funerals are much easier with a plan

In the wake of loss, it can be difficult for a family to make a lot of decisions. Emotions are running high, and decisions need to be made quickly. There may be a heavy financial burden as well. By pre-planning and even pre-paying for your funeral and burial, this burden can be lifted significantly. Create a plan , in writing, about your wishes after you are gone. Communicate this plan in great detail with your loved ones. Then, when the time does come, they will have one less thing to draw their attention.

2. Put the focus on your loved ones

Ultimately, funerals are for the living. The process of grief is critical for your loved ones to work through after you’re gone, and a funeral is an important part of that. It’s a critical milestone in the healing process. So keep the ones you love most in mind when pre-planning your burial and funeral. This should also take the form of a few open, honest conversations about your wishes, their wishes, and how to best carry them out together.

3. You can keep your burial plan simple

Providing even the most basic plan can be very helpful to your loved ones. A simple list of your wishes written in bullet-point form can give your family a roadmap to making decisions. This will help keep the process peaceful and potential disagreements at bay.

4. Paying in advance is a wonderful gift to your family

Many funeral homes offer pre-payment options for funeral, burial, and cremation services. You can also choose to set up a bank account that can be transferred to a family member upon your passing to cover end-of-life expenses. There are many pre-payment options available to you.

5. Burial planning doesn’t need to be stressful

It can actually be quick and convenient. By getting started now, you can have every resource imaginable at your fingertips as you consider your wishes and come up with a plan that suits you best. Meet with local funeral directors, search the web, and chat with your attorney about getting your arrangements in order as far in advance as possible. In the end, it will be a weight off of you and your family’s shoulders.

Contact Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory at (434) 237-9424 for help planning a funeral today!

Honoring Heroes: Traditions of a Military Funeral [PHOTOS]

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 04:00:00 GMT

When our veterans are laid to rest, the ceremony that follows is a solemn and sacred tribute—a moment when we pause to honor a life lived in service to us.

Military funerals are rich with time-honored traditions, each filled with symbolism and purpose. For the families of veterans, understanding these rituals can bring peace, pride, and a deeper sense of connection to a life of duty, honor, and sacrifice.

From the folding and presentation of the American flag to the sounding of “Taps,” the three-volley rifle salute, and personal tributes like coins or stones on gravestones, each tradition serves as a poignant reminder of a veteran’s sacrifice. Some ceremonies include unique honors like the missing man flyover or burial at sea. Whether solemn or symbolic, these rites offer closure and honor in equal measure.

The Flag-Draped Casket

One of the most recognizable military honors is the American flag carefully draped over the casket. The flag is placed so that the blue field of stars (known as the union) rests over the left shoulder, symbolizing the nation’s appreciation for the veteran’s sacrifice. This gesture reflects the service member’s unwavering dedication to the values the flag represents.

The Ceremonial Folding of the Flag

At the conclusion of the service, the flag is meticulously folded into a triangle—reminiscent of the hats worn by colonial soldiers. With sharp corners and careful movements, the folding is an act of respect and tradition. This is a very emotional moment in a military service.

The flag is then presented to the next of kin with these poignant words:

The Sound of “Taps”

Few sounds stir the soul like “Taps,” the 24-note bugle call that signals a final rest . Traditionally played by a live bugler, the haunting melody honors the fallen and brings emotional closure to those left behind. When a bugler is not available, a ceremonial recording may be used—but the power of the moment remains.

The Three-Volley Rifle Salute

Often mistaken for the 21-gun salute, the three-volley rifle salute involves 3–7 riflemen firing three shots in unison. This custom dates back to the battlefields of old, where opposing sides would pause the fighting to recover their dead. The three shots would signal a return to combat. Today, the salute serves as a dignified farewell to a comrade-in-arms.

What Is the 21-Gun Salute?

Unlike the three-volley rifle salute, the 21-gun salute is reserved for the highest honors in military and state service. It is typically performed with artillery—not rifles—and is used to honor presidents, former presidents, foreign dignitaries, and top-ranking military officers. While rarely seen at funerals, it remains the most formal expression of military respect.

The Honor Guard

An official military honor guard is present at every eligible veteran’s funeral . At minimum, this includes two uniformed service members, one of whom represents the same branch of service as the deceased. The honor guard performs the flag folding, plays “Taps,” and offers the final presentation to the family.

Coins on the Gravestone

A moving tradition among veterans and those who visit their graves is the placement of coins:

These tokens silently tell the family that their loved one’s legacy lives on in the hearts of their brothers and sisters in service.

Placing Stones on Graves

Originating in Jewish mourning customs but embraced by many, placing a small stone on a headstone or grave is a symbol of remembrance and permanence. Unlike flowers, which fade, a stone endures—showing that someone visited and that the memory of the departed is still strong. It is a quiet, respectful act of tribute that transcends faith and culture.

The Missing Man Flyover

Reserved for pilots or highly distinguished officers, the missing man formation is an aerial salute in which one aircraft pulls away from the formation—leaving a visible gap to represent the fallen. This rare and dramatic tribute underscores the loss of a cherished warrior among their peers.

Burial at Sea

For veterans of the Navy, Marine Corps, or Coast Guard, a burial at sea is an option steeped in tradition and maritime honor. Carried out by naval personnel, this ceremony includes the commitment of remains to the ocean, often accompanied by a final salute, the playing of “Taps,” and a reading of Scripture or naval rites.

Custom Military Headstones

The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs provides military headstones or markers at no cost. These typically include:

Contact Tharp Funeral Home

Every military funeral is both a farewell and a salute—a promise that the service and sacrifice of the fallen will never be forgotten. These traditions are not just rituals; they are sacred gestures of gratitude, each one reminding us that freedom has a price, and someone we loved paid it.

At Tharp Funeral Home , we are honored to help families navigate these traditions with dignity, care, and respect. If you have questions about arranging military honors, we are here to guide you every step of the way. Contact Us Today

“You Don’t Move On—You Move With It”: Understanding the Long Arc of Grief

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 04:00:00 GMT

When someone we love passes away, the world doesn’t just lose a person—we lose a part of ourselves, too. In the early days of grief, it can feel like the ground has shifted beneath our feet. The ache is deep, the absence deafening. People may offer comforting words – but anyone who has truly loved and lost knows: you don’t really move on . You move with it .

Grief is not something to be fixed or rushed. It’s not a sign of weakness, and it certainly isn’t linear. It’s an unraveling of what once was—a painful, often confusing process of learning to live in a world that feels unfamiliar without the person you miss so deeply.

Moving With Grief, Not Away From It

To move with grief means carrying your love and your loss side by side. It means accepting that sadness may walk alongside you for a while, maybe even a lifetime—but so will the love, the memories, and the meaning that person brought to your life.

It doesn’t mean you’re stuck in the past. It means you’ve made space in your heart to carry the past forward with you, in a way that honors what was without being crushed by it.

Grief doesn’t ask us to forget. It asks us to remember —to feel the weight of love and loss together, and to find ways to keep that love alive in our lives.

The Myth of “Getting Over It”

The phrase “getting over it” is misleading. It implies that grief is a hurdle to jump or a sickness to recover from. But grief isn’t a detour from life—it becomes a part of life. Some days the weight feels heavy, and on other days, it softens into a quiet, bittersweet memory.

Healing doesn’t mean the pain is gone. It means the pain no longer controls you. You begin to find moments of joy again. You begin to laugh without guilt. You learn to live, not without the person you lost, but with the legacy they left behind.

Making Peace with the Process

There is no timetable for grief. For some, it may feel intense and all-consuming for months or years. For others, it may come in waves—unexpected tears during a song or a moment of stillness when you instinctively reach for someone who is no longer there. These are not setbacks. They are reminders that you loved deeply—and that love still echoes.

It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to smile. It’s okay to feel everything, all at once. Every emotion is valid.

A Gentle Invitation

At Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory, we believe in honoring every part of your grief journey. We’re not here to help you “move on.” We’re here to help you move with your grief, at your own pace, in your own way.

Whether you need a quiet place to reflect, someone to talk to, or guidance in creating a meaningful memorial, we have grief resources & support groups available to help you . Because love never ends—and neither does the need to feel seen, heard, and supported.

Understanding Funeral Processions: Traditions, Etiquette, and Legal Guidelines

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:00:00 GMT

A funeral procession is a time-honored tradition that serves as a solemn tribute to the deceased, allowing family and friends to accompany their loved one on their final journey. While processions have evolved over time, they remain an important part of many funeral services today. Understanding the customs, etiquette, and legal aspects of funeral processions can help ensure they are conducted respectfully and safely.

The History and Meaning of Funeral Processions

Funeral processions have been practiced for centuries across cultures and religions. In ancient times, mourners would walk through the streets carrying the deceased while chanting prayers or hymns. In some cultures, elaborate processions signified the status of the individual, with horses, carriages, or even military escorts leading the way.

Today, funeral processions typically involve a motorcade of vehicles following a hearse from the funeral service location to the burial site or crematory. While modern processions may not include traditional rituals, their purpose remains the same: to pay final respects and provide a dignified farewell.

Etiquette for Funeral Processions

Proper etiquette ensures that the procession is conducted with respect and order. Whether you are participating in or encountering a funeral procession, it’s important to follow these guidelines:

For Procession Participants:

For Other Drivers on the Road:

Legal Guidelines for Funeral Processions

Laws regarding funeral processions vary by state and locality. Here are some common regulations that may apply:

Because laws differ by location, it’s always best to consult with the funeral home or local authorities when organizing a funeral procession.

Modern Alternatives to Traditional Funeral Processions

While traditional vehicle processions remain common, some families are choosing alternative ways to honor their loved ones:

Funeral processions are a meaningful way to show love, honor, and respect for the deceased. Understanding the traditions, etiquette, and legal considerations ensures that the procession is carried out smoothly and with dignity. Whether you are participating in a procession or simply witnessing one, following proper etiquette helps preserve this solemn tradition.

At Tharp Funeral Home , we are committed to providing compassionate guidance and support during this difficult time. If you have questions about planning a funeral procession or need assistance with funeral arrangements, our experienced funeral directors are here to help.

Call us today at 434-237-9424 or Meet with a Funeral Director to speak with a caring professional who can guide you through every step of the process. Let us help you create a meaningful farewell for your loved one.

State Laws and Regulations on Funeral Processions

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:00:00 GMT

Funeral processions have long been a way to honor and escort a loved one to their final resting place, but many people are unaware of the specific laws and regulations that govern them. In the United States, laws regarding funeral processions vary by state , with some offering legal protections while others leave it up to local jurisdictions.

At Tharp Funeral Home , we believe in helping families navigate these regulations to ensure a respectful and lawful funeral procession. This guide provides an overview of common legal considerations , including right-of-way laws, vehicle markings, and escort requirements.

Right-of-Way Laws for Funeral Processions

One of the most important legal aspects of funeral processions is the right-of-way at intersections . Some states have laws that give funeral processions the legal right to proceed through red lights and stop signs once the lead vehicle has entered the intersection.

States That Grant Right-of-Way to Funeral Processions:

States That Require Processions to Obey Traffic Signals:

Tip: If you’re unsure about local laws, consult your funeral director or law enforcement to determine the best course of action.

Police Escorts and Funeral Home Lead Vehicles

Some states require a police escort for funeral processions, while others leave it up to the family’s preference.

Common Escort Regulations:

Police Escort Required – In states like Michigan and Louisiana , police officers often accompany funeral processions to stop traffic and ensure a safe route.

Funeral Home Escort Allowed – In many states, funeral processions are led by a designated funeral home vehicle with flashing lights, flags, or other identifying markers.

No Escort Required – Some states have no formal escort requirements , leaving families to drive at their own discretion while following traffic laws.

Tip: If a police escort isn’t required but you prefer one, ask your funeral director about arranging one for added safety and coordination.

Vehicle Markings and Lighting Requirements

To distinguish funeral processions from regular traffic, states often require specific vehicle markings such as:

Headlights & Hazard Lights: Most states require all vehicles in the procession to have headlights and hazard lights turned on .
Funeral Flags or Stickers: Many funeral homes provide small flags or decals to help other drivers identify procession vehicles.
Flashing Lights (Escort Vehicles Only): In some states, escort vehicles may use flashing purple, amber, or white lights for visibility.

Tip: Even if not legally required, using these markings helps alert other drivers and keeps the procession together.

Rules for Other Drivers on the Road

Drivers who encounter a funeral procession must follow specific laws in some states:

Yielding to the Procession:

No Passing or Cutting In:

State-Specific Example:

Tip: Even if not legally required , pulling over or waiting for a funeral procession to pass is a sign of respect .

Penalties for Violating Funeral Procession Laws

Depending on the state, violating funeral procession laws can result in:
Traffic citations for failure to yield or cutting into a procession.
Fines for disobeying escort signals or running red lights.
Possible reckless driving charges in severe cases.

Law enforcement officers are often present to enforce these rules and ensure the safety of the procession.

How to Ensure a Legally Compliant Funeral Procession

To avoid confusion and ensure the procession follows the law:

Consult your funeral home director – At Tharp Funeral Home , we can help determine the local legal requirements and coordinate escorts if necessary.
Inform procession participants – Make sure all drivers understand the rules, including proper vehicle markings and speed limits.
Check with local authorities – Some cities may have additional traffic restrictions or escort availability.

Need Help Planning a Funeral Procession?

Understanding funeral procession laws ensures a safe, respectful, and legally compliant journey for your loved one’s final farewell. At Tharp Funeral Home , our funeral directors can handle all the details, from coordinating routes to arranging escorts and vehicle markers.

Call us today at 434-237-9424 or Meet with a Funeral Director to speak with a compassionate funeral professional. Let us help you create a meaningful and well-organized procession.

Planning a Funeral Procession: Step-by-Step Guide for Families

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:00:00 GMT

A funeral procession is a time-honored tradition that provides a solemn and respectful way for loved ones to accompany the deceased to their final resting place. Whether you are planning a traditional procession with a motorcade or considering a more personalized approach, careful planning ensures the journey is meaningful, safe, and well-organized.

At Tharp Funeral Home , we understand that arranging a funeral procession can feel overwhelming during an already difficult time. This guide walks you through the step-by-step process to help you plan a smooth and respectful procession for your loved one.

Step 1: Coordinate with the Funeral Home

The funeral home plays a central role in organizing the procession. Our funeral directors at Tharp Funeral Home will:
Determine the route from the service location to the burial or cremation site.
Provide escort services if required or arrange for police assistance.
Arrange procession flags, markers, and signs to identify vehicles in the procession.
Communicate rules and expectations to family and friends participating.

Tip: If you have a specific route in mind—perhaps passing by a childhood home, a favorite park, or a meaningful location—discuss it with your funeral director .

Step 2: Choose the Right Vehicles

A funeral procession typically consists of:

Tip: If you expect a large turnout, consider coordinating carpooling to keep the procession organized and manageable.

Step 3: Communicate with Attendees

To ensure a smooth procession, inform guests of the start time, route, and destination in advance.

Tip: Appoint a trusted family member or friend to help coordinate and answer questions on the day of the funeral.

Step 4: Understand Traffic Laws & Safety Precautions

Laws regarding funeral processions vary by state , but many jurisdictions grant processions the right-of-way at intersections. Key safety measures include:
Obeying traffic laws unless under police escort.
Maintaining a steady speed and following closely, but safely, behind other vehicles.
Avoiding distractions like phone use to ensure safety for all participants.

Tip: If your area requires processions to follow standard traffic signals, having a lead escort vehicle can help keep the group together.

Step 5: Decide on Personal Touches

A funeral procession doesn’t have to be limited to cars. Consider ways to make the journey more personal:

Tip: Think about how the procession can reflect your loved one’s personality, values, or passions.

Step 6: Arriving at the Final Destination

When the procession reaches its destination:
The funeral director or officiant will guide attendees on how to proceed.
Drivers should park in an orderly manner before exiting their vehicles.
Mourners should wait for guidance before approaching the burial site or service area.

Tip: Encourage attendees to stay together and support one another during this emotional moment.

Let Tharp Funeral Home Help You Plan a Thoughtful Procession

A well-organized funeral procession provides a respectful and heartfelt way to say goodbye. At Tharp Funeral Home , we are here to guide you through every step—ensuring a dignified, safe, and meaningful journey.

Call us today at 434-237-9424 or Meet with a Funeral Director to speak with a compassionate funeral director. Let us help you honor your loved one with care and respect.

Funeral Procession Etiquette: What Drivers and Attendees Should Know

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:00:00 GMT

A funeral procession is a solemn and respectful way to honor the deceased, allowing family and friends to accompany their loved one to their final resting place. However, many people are unfamiliar with proper funeral procession etiquette, whether they are participating in one or encountering one on the road. Understanding the customs and expectations can help ensure that the procession is conducted safely and respectfully.

Etiquette for Funeral Procession Participants

If you are driving in a funeral procession , follow these important guidelines to maintain order and respect:

1. Follow the Lead Vehicle or Escort

2. Keep Headlights and Hazard Lights On

3. Drive Slowly and Maintain a Safe Distance

4. Obey Traffic Laws and Procession Rules

5. Do Not Stop or Exit Your Vehicle

Etiquette for Other Drivers on the Road

If you encounter a funeral procession while driving, follow these respectful and lawful practices:

1. Yield to the Funeral Procession

2. Do Not Cut Into or Pass the Procession

3. Avoid Honking or Displaying Impatience

4. Pull Over If Possible

Common Questions About Funeral Procession Etiquette

1. Do Funeral Processions Always Have a Police Escort?

Not always. Some processions are escorted by law enforcement or funeral staff , while others rely on hazard lights and flags to signal participation.

2. Are Funeral Processions Allowed to Run Red Lights?

Laws vary by state. In many places, once the lead vehicle legally enters an intersection , the rest of the procession is permitted to follow—even if the light turns red. However, drivers should always be cautious and follow any escort’s direction.

3. Can I Pass a Funeral Procession on the Highway?

If a procession is driving below the speed limit , some states allow careful and respectful passing on a multi-lane highway. However, it is best to remain behind the procession until it exits the highway.

Respecting Tradition and Grieving Families

Funeral processions are an important tradition that provides closure and honors the deceased. Whether you are part of a procession or encounter one on the road, your patience and respect mean a great deal to the grieving family .

At Tharp Funeral Home , we are here to guide you through every step of the funeral planning process, including organizing a meaningful funeral procession.

�� Contact us today at 434-237-9424 or Meet with a Funeral Director to speak with a compassionate funeral director about your needs. Let us help you honor your loved one with dignity and care.

Dressing the Deceased: Guidelines for Open Casket Attire

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 05:00:00 GMT

Honoring a loved one’s memory is one of the most meaningful ways to celebrate their life. This can take many forms—sharing heartfelt words, choosing a favorite song or poem, or cherishing personal mementos. One of the most personal and lasting decisions, however, is selecting what they will wear for an open casket viewing. This choice is not only a reflection of who they were but also an enduring memory for those who come to say goodbye.

What is an Open Casket?

An open casket funeral is a service where the casket is left open, allowing family and friends to view the deceased one final time. This tradition serves as a poignant way to honor a loved one, provide a sense of closure, and create a tangible opportunity to say goodbye. For many, it is an essential part of the grieving process.

Choosing the Right Attire for an Open Casket

When deciding on attire for the deceased, consider their personality, preferences, and the legacy they leave behind. Select clothing that reflects their unique style or a meaningful aspect of their life. A favorite color, a suit they wore to special occasions, or a dress they loved can all make fitting choices.

Cultural or religious traditions should also play a key role in your decision. Some faiths have specific guidelines for burial clothing, and honoring these customs can provide comfort to family and friends.

Finally, consider the tone of the service. Some families prefer formal attire, while others may opt for a more casual or thematic approach that reflects how their loved one lived.

What’s the wrong attire for an open casket ?

While the options for dressing the deceased are broad, there are some items to avoid:

Understanding Embalming and Body Preparation

For open casket services, embalming is often performed to preserve the body and restore a natural appearance. This process involves replacing bodily fluids with embalming fluid, cleaning the body, and applying restorative cosmetics to ensure the deceased looks peaceful and presentable.

Alternatives to embalming may be an option for families whose traditions or preferences do not require it. Consult your funeral director to understand the choices available and how they align with your needs.

Who Prepares the Body and How

The preparation process is typically overseen by the funeral director and carried out by licensed professionals, such as embalmers. They take great care in cleaning the body, embalming, and applying cosmetics to ensure a serene and natural appearance. Families can collaborate with the funeral home to include personal touches, such as jewelry, accessories, or sentimental items.

Tips for Dressing the Deceased

Pre-Planning Your Own Funeral Attire

Planning ahead for your own funeral, including what you’ll wear, can ease the burden on loved ones. It allows you to express your personality and ensures your wishes are respected. Here’s how to start:

Choosing what a loved one—or yourself—will wear for an open casket viewing is an act of love and respect. It captures their essence and leaves a lasting impression on family and friends. Through careful consideration, this final gesture can beautifully honor the life they lived and the memory they leave behind.

FAQs About Dressing the Deceased for an Open Casket

1. What type of clothing should I choose for a loved one?

Select clothing that reflects their personality, style, and preferences. A favorite outfit, formal wear, or something symbolic of their life is often ideal. Consider comfort and appropriateness for the service.

2. Can I include accessories or sentimental items?

Yes, you can include jewelry, pins, scarves, or other meaningful items. Discuss with the funeral home whether these items will be buried or removed before cremation or burial.

3. Are there any restrictions on clothing or materials?

Certain materials, like those containing metal (zippers, belts, or underwires), should be avoided if cremation is planned. Fragile fabrics like silk may not hold up well during preparation. Always consult with your funeral director for specific guidelines.

4. Can I dress the deceased myself?

In many cases, families are allowed to assist in dressing their loved ones, especially in religious or cultural practices. However, funeral home staff typically handle the process to ensure the body is properly prepared.

5. What happens if I don’t know their clothing preferences?

If you’re unsure, consider involving other family members or friends who may know their preferences. Neutral and respectful options, such as a simple dress or suit, are always appropriate.

6. Do funeral homes provide clothing if we don’t have anything suitable?

Many funeral homes offer basic clothing options, such as gowns or suits, if families cannot provide attire. You can also purchase new items if desired.

7. Can makeup or hairstyling be done for an open casket?

Yes, professional embalmers typically apply makeup and style the hair to restore a natural and peaceful appearance. You can provide guidance or specific requests, such as using their own makeup or preferred hairstyle.

8. Is embalming required for an open casket?

Embalming is not always required but is highly recommended for open casket services to preserve the body and create a presentable appearance. Some religious or cultural traditions may opt out of embalming.

9. How can I pre-plan my own funeral attire?

You can select and document your preferences for clothing, accessories, and other details in your will or funeral pre-arrangement plan. Communicate your wishes to a trusted loved one or your funeral director.

10. Can we make changes to the attire after the body has been prepared?

Minor adjustments can often be accommodated by the funeral home, but it’s best to finalize attire decisions early in the process to avoid complications. Always communicate any special requests as soon as possible.

A Funeral Director can Help

If you have questions about open caskets, embalming or anything else – you can contact Tharp Funeral Home. Our compassionate directors can help.

What is an Open Casket?

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 05:00:00 GMT

An open-casket funeral is a service where the casket is left open, allowing family and friends to view the deceased one final time. This tradition serves as a poignant way to honor a loved one, provide a sense of closure, and create a tangible opportunity to say goodbye. For many, it is an essential part of the grieving process.

Understanding an Open Casket

In an open casket service, the top half of the casket is typically open, revealing the deceased from the waist up. The body is carefully prepared to present a peaceful and natural appearance. Funeral home professionals take great care to ensure the experience is as comforting as possible for loved ones.

Why Choose an Open Casket?

The Preparation Process

Before an open casket service, the body undergoes several steps to ensure a dignified presentation:

Funeral directors work closely with families to accommodate specific requests, ensuring the final presentation aligns with the family’s wishes and the personality of the loved one.

When is an Open Casket Appropriate?

An open casket can be a meaningful option for many families, but it may not always be possible or desirable. Here are some factors to consider:

Alternatives to an Open Casket

If an open casket is not possible or preferred, there are alternatives to honor the deceased’s memory:

An Open Casket is Personal and Meaningful Decision

Choosing an open casket service is a deeply personal decision influenced by the deceased’s wishes, family preferences, and cultural or spiritual beliefs. For those who choose this option, it is a powerful way to say goodbye, honor a loved one’s life, and provide comfort to grieving hearts.

Whether open or closed, the most important part of any service is the love and respect shown to the deceased and the healing it brings to those left behind.

Funeral Preplanning Guides

Death can be a time of great sadness, emotional confusion, and financial strain. But, it doesn’t have to be. Arranging your funeral ahead of time is a caring gesture that creates a legacy your family will deeply appreciate. For immediate support on making prearrangements, download one of our helpful planning guides . Or, if you have questions, don’t hesitate to schedule a complimentary meeting with one of our compassionate planning directors.

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7 Uplifting Funeral Poems to Read at a Service

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 04:00:00 GMT

When planning a funeral or memorial service, choosing the right words can be one of the most challenging tasks. Poetry often helps us express emotions that are difficult to put into words, offering comfort, reflection, and a sense of peace.

Why People Choose to Read Uplifting Poems at Funerals

Poems can be moving, and reading one at a funeral can be a powerful way to honor the life of a loved one. Poems often capture complex emotions and thoughts in a way that resonates deeply with those who are grieving. They offer a means to express feelings of loss, love, and remembrance, providing comfort to both the speaker and the listeners. The rhythm and flow of a well-chosen poem can bring a sense of peace to a somber occasion, helping to celebrate the life of the deceased while also offering hope and solace to those left behind.

A few famous funeral poems are often chosen for funeral and memorial services because of their ability to convey deep emotions, provide comfort, and offer a sense of peace during a time of loss. These poems capture the essence of love, remembrance, and the enduring bond between the living and the departed.

1. “Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep” by Mary Elizabeth Frye

This poem is a timeless favorite for funerals, offering a message of comfort and reassurance. It reminds us that our loved ones never truly leave us but remain present in the world around us—”in the wind, the rain, and the quiet of the morning.” Frye’s words help mourners focus on the continuity of life rather than the finality of death.

“Do not stand at my grave and weep.

I am not there; I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow;

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain;

I am the gentle autumn’s rain.

Do not stand at my grave and mourn.

I am the dew-flecked grass at dawn.

Where tranquil oceans meet the land

I am the footprints in the sand

To guide you through the weary day.

I am still here; I’ll always stay.

When you wake up to morning’s hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry.

I am not there; I did not die.”

2. “Gone From My Sight” by Henry Van Dyke

Often referred to as “The Parable of Immortality,” this poem uses the metaphor of a ship disappearing over the horizon to represent death. It beautifully conveys the idea that while we can no longer see our loved ones, they have simply moved to a place beyond our view—a place where they continue to exist.

“I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,

spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts

for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.

I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck

of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then, someone at my side says, “There, she is gone.”

Gone where?

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,

hull and spar as she was when she left my side.

And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me — not in her.

And, just at the moment when someone says, “There, she is gone,”

there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices

ready to take up the glad shout, “Here she comes!”

And that is dying…”

3. “The Parting Glass” (Traditional Irish)

“The Parting Glass” is a traditional Irish poem and song often sung at the end of gatherings. It celebrates the life and legacy of the deceased while acknowledging the sadness of their passing. The poem is a beautiful way to say farewell, emphasizing gratitude for the time shared with the loved one.

“Of all the money that e’er I had

I spent it in good company

And all the harm I’ve ever done

Alas it was to none but me

And all I’ve done for want of wit

To mem’ry now I can’t recall

So fill to me the parting glass

Good night and joy be to you all

So fill to me the parting glass

And drink a health whate’er befall,

And gently rise and softly call

Good night and joy be to you all

Of all the comrades that e’er I had

They’re sorry for my going away

And all the sweethearts that e’er I had

They’d wish me one more day to stay

But since it falls unto my lot

That I should rise and you should not

I gently rise and softly call

Good night and joy be to you all

If I had money enough to spend

And leisure time to sit awhile

There is a fair maid in this town

That sorely has my heart beguiled.

Her rosy cheeks and ruby lips

I own she has my heart in thrall

Then fill to me the parting glass

Good night and joy be with you all.

A man may drink and not be drunk

A man may fight and not be slain

A man may court a pretty girl

And perhaps be welcomed back again

But since it has so ought to be

By a time to rise and a time to fall

Come fill to me the parting glass

Good night and joy be with you all

Good night and joy be with you all”

4. “Remember” by Christina Rossetti

Rossetti’s “Remember” is a gentle poem that encourages loved ones to remember the deceased fondly, but not to be consumed by grief. It reflects on the importance of moving forward while holding the memory of the loved one close to the heart.

“Remember me when I am gone away,

Gone far away into the silent land;

When you can no more hold me by the hand,

Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.

Remember me when no more day by day

You tell me of our future that you plann’d:

Only remember me; you understand

It will be late to counsel then or pray.

Yet if you should forget me for a while

And afterwards remember, do not grieve:

For if the darkness and corruption leave

A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,

Better by far you should forget and smile

Than that you should remember and be sad.”

5. “She Is Gone” by David Harkins

This poem is often chosen for its uplifting tone, offering comfort by focusing on the positive memories of the deceased. Harkins’ words encourage mourners to find strength in the love and joy shared with the departed, rather than being overwhelmed by their absence.

“You can shed tears that she is gone

Or you can smile because she has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back

Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her

Or you can be full of the love that you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday

Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember her and only that she is gone

Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back

Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.”

6. “To Those Whom I Love and Those Who Love Me” (Author Unknown)

This simple yet profound poem is a heartfelt message from the deceased to those they have left behind. It reassures loved ones that the bond they shared transcends death, and that they should find peace in the memories and love that remain.

“When I am gone, release me, let me go

I have so many things to see and do.

You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears,

Be happy that we had so many years.

I have you my love, you can only guess

How much you gave to me in happiness.

I thank you for the love you each have shown

But now it’s time I traveled on alone.

So grieve awhile, for me, if grieve you must

Then let your grief be comforted by trust.

It’s only for awhile that we must part

So bless the memories within your heart.

I won’t be far away, for life goes on

So if you need me, call and I will come.

Though you can’t see or touch me, I’ll be near

And if you listen with your heart, you’ll hear

All of my love around you soft and clear.

And then, when you must come this way alone

I’ll greet you with a smile and say

“Welcome Home.””

7. “Crossing the Bar” by Alfred, Lord Tennyson

Tennyson’s “Crossing the Bar” is often chosen for its peaceful depiction of death as a journey to another shore. The poem conveys a sense of calm acceptance and hope, making it a comforting choice for a funeral. It’s a reminder that death is not an end, but a transition.

“Sunset and evening star,

And one clear call for me!

And may there be no moaning of the bar,

When I put out to sea,

But such a tide as moving seems asleep,

Too full for sound and foam,

When that which drew from out the boundless deep

Turns again home.

Twilight and evening bell,

And after that the dark!

And may there be no sadness of farewell,

When I embark;

For tho’ from out our bourne of Time and Place

The flood may bear me far,

I hope to see my Pilot face to face

When I have crost the bar.”

These seven poems offer different perspectives on loss and remembrance, but all share a common thread of uplifting those who hear them. By choosing one of these poems for a funeral, you can help provide comfort and solace to those mourning, while also celebrating the life and legacy of the loved one who has passed. Whether you seek words of hope, reassurance, or peaceful acceptance, these poems can help guide you through one of life’s most challenging moments.

When and Where Should Uplifting Funeral Poems Be Used?

Here are eight different ways to incorporate poems into a funeral or memorial services:

1. During the Eulogy

One of the most common times to read a funeral poem is during the eulogy. A carefully chosen poem can complement the eulogy by encapsulating the emotions of the moment, providing a poetic summary of the deceased’s life, or offering comfort to the grieving. The poem can either begin or conclude the eulogy, setting the tone or providing a poignant ending.

2. As a Standalone Reading

Funeral poems can be read as standalone pieces during the service. This might be done by a family member, close friend, or even the officiant. A poem can be introduced to offer a moment of reflection, giving attendees time to process their emotions in a structured and meaningful way.

3. During the Opening or Closing of the Service

Starting or ending the service with a poem can create a powerful bookend to the proceedings. An opening poem can set a reflective tone, helping everyone settle into the moment, while a closing poem can provide a sense of closure and peace as the service concludes.

4. During a Candle Lighting or Symbolic Ritual

If the funeral includes candle lighting or another symbolic ritual, such as releasing doves or scattering ashes, a poem can be read to accompany the act. This adds a layer of meaning to the ritual, tying the symbolic gesture to the words of the poem and the memory of the loved one.

5. At a Graveside Service

Poems are also fitting for graveside services, where the intimate setting often calls for words that are both comforting and profound. A poem can be read before the final words are spoken or during the act of lowering the casket or scattering ashes, providing a moment of shared reflection.

6. In Printed Memorial Programs

Including a funeral poem in the printed memorial program allows attendees to take the words with them as a keepsake. The poem can be a reminder of the sentiments expressed during the service and can provide ongoing comfort in the days and weeks following the funeral.

7. As Part of a Video Tribute or Slideshow

If the service includes a video tribute or slideshow, a poem can be incorporated as part of the visual presentation. The words of the poem can either be displayed on the screen or read aloud as the images of the loved one are shown, adding a layer of emotional depth to the tribute.

8. During a Memorial Gathering or Wake

For less formal gatherings, such as a wake or memorial reception, reading a poem can be a meaningful way to pause and reflect during the event. This can be done at the beginning, before meals, or at a designated time when guests are invited to share memories and stories.

Tharp Funeral Home Can Help

At Tharp Funeral Home, we understand how difficult it can be to find the right words during times of grief. Our compassionate staff is here to support you every step of the way, helping you create a meaningful and heartfelt service that honors your loved one’s life. Whether you need assistance choosing readings, organizing the service, or simply need someone to talk to, we are here for you in this challenging time. Contact Tharp Funeral Home Today.

The Importance of Choosing Family-Owned Funeral Homes

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Imagine walking into your favorite locally-owned restaurant, being greeted by name, and having your meal or drink prepared exactly the way you like it without even having to ask. This personal touch is likely one of the reasons you choose to dine there.

Similarly, the status of a locally-owned funeral home can significantly impact the experience you have. Just like your favorite restaurant, a local funeral home offers personalized service, understanding, and a deep connection to the community that larger, corporate establishments often can’t match.

When selecting a funeral service provider, the choice can significantly affect the experience for grieving families. Family-owned funeral homes bring a unique set of strengths, offering a level of care and personal touch that distinguishes them in this sensitive field.

You may be surprised to learn that more than 20% of all funeral homes in the country are owned by large corporations.

Local Care vs. Corporate Models

Corporate entities offer standardized services and advanced resources, but they may lack the deep community connections that family-owned homes cherish.

Service Corporation International: A Closer Look

Service Corporation International (SCI) is North America’s largest provider of funeral, cremation, and cemetery services, with shares traded on the New York Stock Exchange under the symbol SCI. Since its founding in 1962 and headquartered in Houston, Texas, SCI has grown to own and operate over 1,900 funeral homes and cemeteries across 44 states, eight Canadian provinces, the District of Columbia, and Puerto Rico.

Brands Under SCI:

Locally Owned Brands Under SCI:

Key Benefits of Family-Owned Funeral Homes:

1. Personalized Service: Family-owned funeral homes provide intimate and tailored services, deeply understanding the needs and preferences of the families they serve.

2. Community Commitment: These businesses often have generational ties to the community, fostering trust and a profound sense of responsibility towards their neighbors.

3. Flexibility and Care: Without corporate mandates, family-owned homes offer greater flexibility, adapting to the unique needs of each family with genuine care and attention.

4. Generational Legacy: Many family-owned funeral homes are passed down through generations, preserving traditions and values that enhance the quality of service. This legacy fosters a deep understanding of the community’s cultural and historical context, ensuring that services are meaningful and respectful.

5. Personal Relationships: The staff at family-owned funeral homes often build long-term relationships with the families they serve, providing continuity of care and a personal touch that can be comforting during times of loss.

6. Local Investment: Family-owned businesses tend to reinvest in their local communities, supporting local economies and contributing to community well-being beyond their primary services.

In Moments of Loss, Find a Provider that Aligns with Your Family Values

Selecting a funeral home is a deeply personal decision. For those valuing a heartfelt, community-oriented approach, family-owned homes like Tharp Funeral Home offer unparalleled empathy and dedication. They provide not just a service, but a partnership in navigating one of life’s most challenging times.

In moments of loss, the priority is finding a provider that aligns with the family’s values and needs, ensuring a dignified and comforting farewell for their loved one. The intimate, personal touch of a family-owned funeral home can offer solace and support, creating a meaningful and respectful tribute.

Tharp Funeral Home: A Legacy of Compassionate Care

Since 1848, Tharp Funeral Home has been a pillar of support for the Lynchburg and Bedford communities, extending compassionate care to countless families. The Tharp family’s long-standing dedication ensures that every family receives not only professional service but also the warmth and empathy that comes from a deeply rooted, community-focused business.

Photo of Co-Owners Chris Tharp (3rd generation) and Murrell Thornhill (licensed for over 20 years)

Coping with Grief: Symbolism of Birds in a Loved One’s Passing

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 04:00:00 GMT

When someone we love passes away, finding comfort and meaning in nature can be a powerful way to cope with our grief. Birds, in particular, have long been seen as symbols of the soul, messengers from the beyond, and reminders of our connection to those who have passed. Let’s explore the significance of different birds and what they might mean in the context of losing a loved one.

There are many types of birds that are associated with peace, comfort and even strength. Here is a list of 10 different birds that can play a part in coping with grief… plus, one flying beauty that represents transformation.

Doves: Symbols of Peace and Hope

Doves are often associated with peace and hope. If you’ve ever been to a funeral where doves were released, you know how calming it can be. These birds are seen as gentle messengers, carrying the spirit of the departed to a place of peace. Across various cultures and religions, doves symbolize the soul’s peaceful journey after death.

Cardinals: Signs of Reassurance and Connection

This may be the most popular of all the symbolic birds. Many people believe that seeing a cardinal is a sign that a deceased loved one is nearby. There’s a popular saying, “When a cardinal appears, an angel is near.” These bright red birds can bring a sense of comfort and connection, as if the person who passed is sending a message that they’re still with us in spirit.

Eagles: Emblems of Strength, Freedom, and the Soul’s Ascent

Eagles represent strength and freedom. In many traditions, eagles are seen as powerful symbols of the soul’s journey to the afterlife. Their majestic flight can remind us of the strength we need to find within ourselves during tough times and the idea that our loved one’s soul is soaring free.

Hummingbirds: Reminders of Joy, Beauty, and the Spirit’s Presence

Hummingbirds are tiny but mighty symbols of joy and beauty. Their presence is often thought to be a sign that the spirit of a loved one is nearby, bringing a moment of joy or a reminder to find beauty in the small things. Seeing a hummingbird can be a brief but sweet reminder that the spirit of someone we loved is still present.

Owls: Emblems of Wisdom and Guardians of the Afterlife

Owls are often associated with wisdom and knowledge. In many cultures, owls are seen as guardians of the afterlife, guiding souls on their journey. Their watchful presence can provide comfort, suggesting that our loved one is being looked after by a wise and protective spirit.

Swans: Symbols of Grace, Transformation, and Eternal Love

Swans are symbols of grace and transformation. Their elegant presence and lifelong pairings make them a symbol of eternal love. When we see swans, we might think of the graceful journey our loved one’s soul is taking and the enduring nature of the love we shared.

Crows and Ravens: Omens and Protectors

Crows and ravens often get a bad rap as harbingers of doom, but they also have protective qualities. In many traditions, they are seen as guides or protectors for the soul. Their presence during times of loss can remind us that even in darkness, there is guidance and protection.

Butterflies: Transformative Symbols of the Soul’s Journey

Although not quite a bird, butterflies also symbolize transformation and the soul’s journey. They represent change and the idea that our loved one’s spirit has moved on to a new phase. Seeing them can be a reminder of the ongoing journey of the soul and the beauty in transformation.

Bluebirds: Harbingers of Happiness and Messages from the Departed

Bluebirds are often seen as bringers of happiness. They’re considered a sign that a loved one is sending a message of joy and reassurance. Spotting a bluebird can lift your spirits and remind you that happiness can still be found even after loss.

The Lark’s Song: Renewal and the Dawn of a New Existence

Larks are known for their beautiful morning songs, symbolizing renewal and the dawn of a new day. The lark’s song can be a reminder that each day is a new beginning and that our loved one’s spirit is part of the ongoing cycle of life and renewal.

Birds have been powerful symbols across cultures and times, offering comfort and meaning in the face of loss. Whether it’s a dove representing peace, a cardinal bringing reassurance, or a hummingbird reminding us of joy, these symbols can help us feel connected to our loved ones who have passed. The next time you see a bird, take a moment to reflect on its significance and the message it might be bringing you.

Planning for Doves is Easy, Just Talk to a Preplanning Director

At Tharp Funeral Home, we understand the significance of honoring your loved ones in a meaningful way. Let us help you create a beautiful tribute that celebrates their life and legacy. Contact us today to learn more about our services and how we can assist you in planning a memorable farewell.

Can You Bury Someone on Your Property? Exploring Legal and Practical Considerations in Virginia

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Photo by Mike Bird

When it comes time to say goodbye, many families consider the distance of the burial site to be of utmost importance. Instead of using a cemetery or church, having a grave site at home offers closeness and the convenience of visiting the site whenever the family chooses. Families who want a meaningful and intimate experience might opt for a home burial. However, orchestrating such a personal affair demands careful planning, including selecting a burial site, preparing the grave, and finally laying the body to rest.

Choosing the Burial Site

Selecting a burial plot is a reverent act influenced by both sentiment and law. An established cemetery carries the legacy of generations, while a newly chosen site offers solace through its significance to the departed. Practicalities must be considered: soil composition, proximity to utilities, and local ordinances all play a part in this delicate decision.

Legal Status of Home Burials in Virginia

Can you bury someone on your personal property in Virginia? The short answer is yes, you can bury someone on your property in Virginia, but each county or city has its own ordinances regarding burials, cemeteries, and cremation. The site must be safe, legal, and fitting as a final resting place .

Virginia law defines a cemetery as any structure or land used for burying human remains. This definition excludes scattering ashes or burying them in a biodegradable container on church grounds or placing them in a columbarium on church property.

Key Legal Restrictions in Virginia (§ 57-26)

Local Zoning Laws and Permits

Establishing a home burial site requires consent from local authorities. It’s essential to check local zoning laws and obtain any necessary special permits to ensure compliance with public health and environmental concerns. Ignoring these legalities can lead to serious consequences, making it imperative to engage with both local and state laws.

Special Considerations for Virginia

Virginia and other states have stringent guidelines when dealing with deaths involving contagious diseases. These regulations are in place to protect public health and require coordination with medical professionals to ensure compliance.

State-to-State Regulations and Crossing State Lines

Crossing state lines into Virginia, or any state for that matter, introduces a new set of rules and regulations regarding home burials. In particular, Virginia and other states have stringent guidelines when the death involves contagious disease or other communicable diseases. These regulations are in place to protect public health and require coordination with medical professionals to ensure compliance, especially when it comes to a communicable disease to attending the burial.

Such state laws underscore the importance of understanding and adhering to specific local requirements for a respectful and lawful burial process.

Pet Burial Laws

In Virginia, pet owners are allowed to bury their pets on their own property, but there are specific guidelines to ensure the burial is done safely and hygienically:

Role of Funeral Directors in Home Burials

Contemplating a backyard burial may lead one to wonder about the need for funeral directors . The participation of a licensed funeral director in the burial process is required by law in some states, which is why you might see ads stating “funeral director required.” This requirement is intended to ensure that the burial is carried out in accordance with regulations and to provide necessary professional guidance and oversight. Their role can vary from simply filing the death certificate to overseeing the entire funeral service , depending on the state’s requirements.

This involvement ensures that the burial adheres to legal standards and is carried out with the dignity it deserves.

Preparing the Grave

The act of preparing a grave involves several steps and considerations:

This step of the burial process is labor-intensive and serves as a ritual that contributes to the closure process for those involved.

Lowering the Body

As the time comes to lower the body into the grave, the gravity of the moment is palpable. Utilizing simple yet respectful methods such as quilts or canvas slings, the collective effort of loved ones eases the physical burden of this final act.

This poignant part of the home burial process is a testament to the communal nature of grief and the care taken to honor the departed.

Pros and Cons of Home Burials

Financial Implications

Economics play an undeniable role in funeral planning . Home burials, while reducing expenses associated with embalming and the purchase of traditional coffins from funeral homes, may introduce other financial considerations. Transportation costs and the impact on property value are just a few of the factors that can affect the overall cost of a home burial.

Families must weigh these against the potential savings and personal value of such a choice, keeping in mind that consulting an attending physician is recommended and seeking information on consumer rights can be beneficial.

Emotional and Spiritual Benefits

There is an intangible comfort that comes with home burials, an emotional and spiritual solace that transcends the practicalities of the process. The closeness it fosters, the convenience it provides, and the sense of closure it can offer are invaluable to those in mourning.

Personalizing the burial with tokens of love and memories serves as a bridge to the past and a balm for the grieving heart.

Potential Drawbacks and Challenges

Yet, for all their virtues, home burials are not without their hurdles. Some of the challenges include:

These are just a few of the obstacles that one might encounter.

These challenges require careful consideration and preparation to ensure a dignified and lawful burial.

Steps After a Loved One Passes

In the immediate aftermath of a loved one’s passing, there are steps that must be taken, both to honor the deceased and to comply with legal requirements. The process begins with obtaining a death certificate and deciding on the final resting place, be it through burial or cremation. Each step is laden with administrative and emotional weight, making it important to approach these tasks with care and support.

Obtaining a Death Certificate

The acquisition of a death certificate serves multiple purposes:

Securing a death certificate can be done by visiting the local vital records office or with the assistance of a funeral director. It is one of the first steps in this final journey.

Preserving the Body

Preserving the body in the period between death and burial or cremation is a critical consideration, especially when traditional funeral services are not employed. Options such as refrigeration or the use of dry ice offer alternatives to the embalming process, allowing families to maintain the body at home before the burial. These methods respect both the deceased and the legal requirements that may apply in cases of certain communicable diseases.

Future Considerations for Property Owners

Home burials also demand foresight into the future of the property. The presence of a grave can affect property value and may necessitate legal provisions for access or maintenance. Additionally, for future property owners, the prospect of relocating graves is a complex and delicate matter, fraught with legal, emotional, and financial considerations.

Thus, property owners must deliberate the long-term implications of their choice to bury a loved one on their own property, especially if it’s private land or private property.

Personalizing the Burial Service

A funeral service is a deeply personal tribute to a life lived and a final act of love. Personalizing this service, whether through music, readings, or symbolic gestures, creates a ceremony that is unique and reflective of the individual’s life.

Such personal touches can comfort the bereaved and celebrate the life of the deceased, making the service not only a farewell but a celebration of life.

Decorating the Gravesite

In the quiet moments of remembrance, a gravesite becomes a sanctuary for those left behind. Decorating this space with meaningful elements allows for continued connection and reflection. Whether through the simplicity of a native plant or the enduring message on a custom gravestone, these personal touches create a place of peace and memory for the departed.

Gravestones and Markers

Gravestones and markers offer not just a physical marker of one’s final resting place but also an opportunity to tell a story. Customization allows for expressions of the deceased’s personality, relationships, and life achievements. These monuments stand as a tribute to the individual and as a point of reflection for those who visit.

Plants and Flowers

The natural beauty of plants and flowers can bring life to the gravesite, offering solace and a connection to the cycles of nature. Selecting flora that holds significance to the deceased or their loved ones turns the gravesite into a living memorial. These botanical offerings honor the person’s life and provide a comforting presence for those who come to pay their respects.

Reporting Requirements

Home burials, while deeply personal, are not a private affair in the eyes of the law. Reporting the burial to local authorities and registering the site is a necessary step to ensure that the burial is recognized and respected in the broader context of community and land use. This official record-keeping is a critical aspect of the burial process that must not be overlooked.

Tharp Funeral Home Can Assist You in Your Home Burial

From the solemnity of choosing a burial site to the finality of laying a loved one to rest, home burials offer a path filled with personal significance and legal intricacies. This article has traversed the landscape of home burials, shedding light on the legal, emotional, and practical considerations that one must contemplate. Through understanding and preparation, families can honor their loved ones in a manner most fitting to their life and legacy.

Reach out to a funeral director at Tharp Funeral Home today.

Frequently Asked Questions

Are there any states that outright prohibit home burial?

Yes, most states permit home burials, but some have stricter regulations or require the involvement of a licensed funeral director. It’s important to check local and state regulations to ensure compliance.

Can I bury my loved one at home without a funeral director?

You may be able to bury your loved one at home without a funeral director, depending on the laws in your state. It’s important to research and understand your state’s specific requirements before proceeding with a home burial.

What are the typical costs associated with a home burial?

In conclusion, typical costs associated with a home burial can be significantly reduced by avoiding expenses such as embalming, caskets, and funeral home services, but there may be additional costs for permits, transportation, and preparing the burial site.

How do I ensure the burial site on my property is legal?

To ensure the burial site on your property is legal, adhere to local zoning laws, setbacks from utilities, obtain necessary permits, report the burial to local authorities, and register the site for an official record. This will help you comply with legal requirements and maintain transparency with local authorities.

What should I consider when decorating the gravesite?

When decorating the gravesite, consider using durable materials for markers and choosing plants or flowers that were significant to the deceased. Be mindful of any restrictions that may apply to plantings or decorations on the burial site.

Securing Serenity: The Various Kinds of Travel Protection

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Is travel protection worth it for treasuring a lifetime of experiences? Absolutely. From covering unexpected trip cancellations to ensuring you’re not out of pocket for medical emergencies, travel protection offers you the safety net to dive deep into your adventures without the nagging ‘what-ifs.’ This article will unpack the tangible “benefits of travel protection treasuring a lifetime of experiences”, showing how it guards your experiences, finances, and peace of mind, so you can focus on collecting those priceless memories.

Here are a few things you need to know about travel protection:

The Importance of Travel Protection

Travel protection serves as more than just an insurance policy. It acts as a safeguard for your valued travel investments, be it a solo adventure, a family vacation, or a romantic honeymoon. This protection mitigates potential financial losses arising from unforeseen circumstances that could disrupt your travel plans. Such unexpected incidents could range from a sudden illness to a travel supplier’s bankruptcy, or a natural disaster at your destination. Travel protection plays a crucial role in alleviating the risk of substantial financial strain caused by these unpredictable events, thereby safeguarding your travel investment.

The advantages of travel protection go beyond mere financial safety. It offers a sense of security, enabling you to relish your trips without the anxiety of potential disruptions. Imagine being able to immerse yourself fully in your journey, knowing that if anything goes wrong, you have a safety net to fall back on. That’s the peace of mind that travel protection can provide.

Unexpected situations

Inevitably, travel comes with its share of unpredictability. For example, numerous families encounter health issues like intestinal problems or gastroenteritis during their trips. These health challenges can lead to unexpected medical expenses and even disrupt your travel itinerary. Travel protection can cover these unexpected health-related costs, ensuring that you can receive necessary health care without bearing a significant financial burden.

Technical problems can present unexpected hurdles during travel. Picture your phone, home to all your vital travel documents and contacts, suddenly failing or going missing. Dealing with such a predicament in a foreign country can be immensely stressful. Similarly, reservation errors such as booking the wrong dates, can lead to you not having a place to stay upon arrival at your destination. With travel protection, you’re covered in these unexpected situations, ensuring that such incidents don’t ruin your trip.

Moreover, getting lost, whether in urban environments or more remote areas, is a common occurrence for travelers. While sometimes it can lead to an unexpected adventure, other times it can be a source of stress and worry. Travel protection can provide assistance in such situations, helping you navigate unfamiliar territory safely.

Hence, whether it’s an illness, a lost phone, a booking error, or losing your way, travel protection prepares you for these unexpected situations, allowing you to travel with confidence and peace of mind.

Financial security

Travel protection also acts as a financial safeguard, especially for prepaid, non-refundable expenses. Such expenses are a standard part of planned vacations, where elements like flights, accommodations, and local tours are booked and paid for beforehand. If an unexpected event forces you to cancel or interrupt your trip, you could lose a significant amount of money. However, with travel protection, you can be reimbursed for these expenses, protecting your hard-earned money.

This financial safety net is particularly essential for international travel and journeys to remote destinations. Such trips usually carry greater financial risks, stemming from aspects like elevated healthcare costs and potential travel disruptions. Travel protection can mitigate these risks, providing a safety net that can save you from significant financial stress.

Moreover, complex itineraries involving multiple connections are particularly susceptible to disruptions in the booking path. A delay or cancellation in one leg of the journey can have a domino effect, leading to missed connections and potential financial losses. Here too, travel protection can play a key role in financial security, covering the costs associated with such disruptions.

Thus, by providing coverage for unexpected expenses, travel protection ensures financial security, allowing you to enjoy your trip without worrying about potential financial losses.

Types of Travel Protection Coverage

When discussing travel protection, it’s vital to realize that it doesn’t offer a uniform solution. Various types of coverage exist to address the diverse needs of travelers. Travel protection coverage typically encompasses policies for trip cancellation and interruption, medical and evacuation protection, as well as coverage for baggage and personal items. Choosing the right travel protection policy involves evaluating coverage for these aspects, allowing you to tailor the policy to your individual needs and the specific risks associated with your trip.

Understanding these diverse types of coverage enables you to adequately safeguard yourself against an array of potential travel disruptions. From unexpected cancellations to medical emergencies and lost baggage, each type of coverage addresses different risks associated with travel. This comprehensive approach to coverage is what makes travel protection a crucial element in planning any trip.

Death Protection

While many travel insurance options cover various unforeseen events, at Tharp Funeral Home our focus is on providing comprehensive protection for one of life’s most inevitable occurrences – death. With Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan, you can rest assured that if a death occurs 75 miles or more from your legal residence, we will handle all arrangements to return the deceased home, easing the burden on your loved ones during a challenging time.

Learn more about Travel Protection in the event of a death

Trip cancellation and interruption

Coverage for trip cancellation and interruption is a fundamental aspect of travel protection. This coverage shields travelers from financial losses resulting from unexpected events that necessitate a cancellation or interruption of your trip. These events can include:

Travel insurance policies provide significant reimbursement for pre-paid, non-refundable trip costs if your trip is canceled or interrupted due to these covered reasons. Some policies even provide ‘Cancel For Any Reason’ options, which, while they can increase policy costs, offer the flexibility of canceling your trip for any reason and still receiving a percentage of your non-refundable trip cost back. This coverage can be especially valuable during uncertain times or for trips booked far in advance, where the likelihood of unforeseen changes may be higher.

Thus, trip cancellation and interruption coverage can protect your financial investment in your trip, ensuring that unexpected events don’t lead to significant financial losses.

Medical and evacuation protection

While everyone hopes for a safe and healthy journey, medical emergencies are a possibility. Protection for medical incidents and evacuation is specifically intended to address such situations. This type of coverage provides:

In addition to covering medical expenses, this coverage also typically includes transport via air ambulances or medical escorts, and may even cover a family member’s visit if the insured is hospitalized. This inclusion of medical evacuation benefits ensures travelers can be transported to the nearest adequately equipped medical facility in the event of a serious illness or injury, adding an important layer of safety during your trip.

Knowing that unforeseen medical expenses and necessary evacuations are covered provides travelers with a sense of security, allowing them to minimize worry about potential high costs while abroad.

Baggage and personal belongings

Another important aspect of travel protection is coverage for baggage and personal belongings. This coverage compensates for:

We all know how frustrating it can be to lose our luggage or have it damaged in transit. And the loss or theft of personal items like passports, electronics, or jewelry can be even more distressing.

Travel protection coverage for baggage and personal belongings typically provides compensation for such losses. Whether it’s due to theft, damage, or loss, this coverage can help you recover the financial value of your belongings. Remember, the specific terms and limits of reimbursement for lost, damaged, or stolen baggage and personal items depend on the travel protection policy chosen. So, it’s important to read the fine print and understand exactly what’s covered.

Evaluating Travel Insurance Options

Having grasped the significance of travel protection and the available coverage types, the subsequent step involves assessing your travel insurance options. This process involves:

Keep in mind, travel insurance policies can be customized to match your specific needs. You hold the flexibility to select coverage options that best alleviate your apprehensions about potential trip disruptions. This level of customization extends to coverage for:

By tailoring your policy to your needs, you can enhance your travel experience, knowing you have the coverage you need.

Comparing policies

Comparing policies is an integral part of evaluating travel insurance options. Each policy may offer different coverage categories, which typically include:

It’s important to evaluate each of these coverage aspects in detail when comparing policies.

The cost of travel insurance is influenced by various factors including:

Even credit cards may provide travel insurance for trip cancellation and interruption, with the scope of coverage and terms varying by issuer. Understanding these different factors can help you compare policies effectively and choose the one that offers the best value for your needs.

Assessing individual needs

In addition to comparing policies, assessing your individual needs is equally important when evaluating travel insurance options. This involves considering factors such as:

Travel insurance plans should be individualized, requiring you to assess and identify your unique needs before selecting policy options. For instance, if you’re planning an adventurous trip involving activities like trekking or white-water rafting, you might want a policy that covers:

Similarly, if you have a chronic health condition, you might need a policy with comprehensive medical coverage. By assessing your individual needs and aiming for good health, you can choose a health insurance policy, like travel insurance, that provides the right protection for you.

Enhancing Lifetime Experiences with Travel Protection

Travel protection is not solely about financial safety or risk mitigation; it’s also about enriching your travel experiences. With appropriate travel protection, you can ensure your trips are devoid of stress, leaving you free to concentrate on:

Whether you’re exploring a bustling city, relaxing on a tropical beach, trekking through a remote wilderness, or enjoying a cruise line vacation package, travel protection can provide the peace of mind and security you need to truly enjoy your journey. In fact, it is one of the most treasured travel investments you can make, especially when booking with a reputable tour operator.

Peace of mind

One of the greatest benefits of travel protection is the peace of mind it offers. Knowing that you’re covered against unexpected incidents and potential disruptions during your trip can make all the difference in your travel experience. This peace of mind allows you to fully immerse yourself in your journey, focusing on the joy of travel rather than worrying about what could go wrong.

When evaluating travel insurance, it’s important to ensure that the policy covers a range of potential travel risks and provides a sense of security. This peace of mind isn’t just about financial protection; it’s about knowing that help is available if you need it, whether it’s for a medical emergency, a lost passport, or a cancelled flight. With this peace of mind, you can travel with confidence, knowing that you’re protected no matter what happens.

Adventure without fear

Travel protection also empowers adventurers to commence their journeys fearlessly. Given the escalating risks and the appetite for adventurous activities, there’s a renewed focus on insurance for travelers. Adventurous activities such as cycling, rafting, and trekking in exotic locales contribute to the need for comprehensive travel insurance.

With the right travel protection, you can partake in these adventurous activities knowing that should anything go wrong, you’re covered. Whether it’s an injury during a trek, a sudden illness while camping, or a lost bag during a city tour, travel protection ensures that these incidents don’t derail your adventure. So, go ahead and embark on your next adventure, knowing that travel protection has you covered.

Real-life Examples of Travel Protection Benefits

To truly comprehend the benefits of travel protection, let’s examine some real-life instances. These narratives underscore the crucial role travel protection can play in addressing substantial financial and health-related costs in cases of unexpected incidents.

Consider the case of a man in Florida with heart blockages and a woman in Florida with food poisoning. Travel insurance played a critical role in covering their medical costs, leading to claims of $312,714.97 CAD and $5,699.68 CAD, respectively. Similarly, a specialized travel insurance policy without a stability clause was instrumental for a man with a pre-existing heart condition in receiving treatment worth $68,658.25 CAD in California.

These examples highlight the significant financial and health-related support provided by travel protection in real-life scenarios, such as fractures, accidents, and surgeries. Whether it’s an unexpected injury during an adventure activity, a sudden illness in a foreign country, or a medical emergency due to a pre-existing condition, travel protection can provide invaluable benefits in handling these situations, which is why many travelers rely on the expertise of aon affinity travel practice.

Tips for Purchasing Travel Protection

Having grasped the significance, varieties, and advantages of travel protection, let’s delve into some effective purchasing tips. The process of procuring travel protection involves comparing diverse policies, comprehending the timing of purchase, and scrutinizing the fine print to guarantee comprehensive coverage.

Aggregator sites provide a platform for travelers to review multiple insurance policies in one place, acting as virtual insurance brokers. These sites allow you to compare different policies from various insurance companies, their coverage, and prices, helping you make an informed decision. Remember, the goal is not just to find the cheapest policy but to find the policy that offers the best value for your needs from the right insurance company.

Timing of purchase

The timing of your travel protection acquisition significantly influences the comprehensiveness of your coverage. Ideally, you should procure travel insurance as swiftly as possible after making the initial trip deposit. This ensures maximum coverage and benefits.

Buying travel insurance early can be more cost-effective and provide better benefits compared to purchasing closer to the trip date. The latest time to buy travel insurance is typically no later than 15 days before the trip.

Remember also to purchase travel insurance after booking a flight to ensure the insurance plan covers the full cost of the plane ticket.

Reading the fine print

Though it might be tempting to overlook the fine print in your travel insurance policy, it’s essential to read it in detail. The fine print outlines all the details, such as covered events, exclusions, and the policy’s scope, all of which influence the success of claims.

Understanding the exclusions in a travel insurance policy is crucial as it outlines the risks or situations that are not covered by the policy. Policies include multiple exclusion lists for different coverage areas such as trip cancellation, baggage delay, and medical claims. Reviewing them carefully ensures you have a clear understanding of what is covered, what is excluded, and the coverage limits of your policy.

Thus, reading the fine print helps you understand exactly what’s covered in your policy, ensuring you’re not caught off guard when you need to make a claim.

Travel Protection: More than a Financial Safeguard

Travel protection is more than just a financial safeguard; it’s an essential part of your travel planning process. From covering unexpected events and providing financial security to enabling adventures without fear, travel protection offers invaluable benefits. Its significance extends to all types of travelers and trips, making it a crucial investment for a stress-free travel experience.

In conclusion, whether you’re a seasoned globetrotter or planning your first trip, travel protection should be high on your priority list. Remember to compare different policies, understand your individual needs, and read the fine print before purchasing. As you embark on your next journey, let travel protection provide the peace of mind and security you need to truly enjoy your trip.

Frequently Asked Questions about Travel Protection

What are the main types of coverage in travel protection?

The main types of coverage in travel protection include trip cancellation/interruption, medical/evacuation protection, and baggage/personal belongings. These are the fundamental aspects to consider when seeking travel insurance.

Why is it important to compare travel insurance policies?

It is important to compare travel insurance policies to ensure you choose the one that offers the best value for your needs, considering factors like coverage options, prices, and terms.

How can travel protection enhance my travel experience?

Travel protection can enhance your travel experience by providing peace of mind and protection against unexpected incidents and disruptions, allowing you to fully enjoy your journey.

When should I buy travel insurance?

You should ideally buy travel insurance as soon as possible after the initial trip deposit is made. The latest you should buy it is typically no later than 15 days before the trip.

Why is it crucial to read the fine print in a travel insurance policy?

It is crucial to read the fine print in a travel insurance policy to understand the covered events, exclusions, and scope of the policy, avoiding surprises during claims.

Ensuring Peace of Mind During Travel: Everything You Need to Know About Travel Protection

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Are you seeking assurance and comfort during your travels? While many travel insurance options cover various unforeseen events, our focus is on providing comprehensive protection for one of life’s most inevitable occurrences – death. With Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan, you can rest assured that if a death occurs 75 miles or more from your legal residence, we will handle all arrangements to return the deceased home, easing the burden on your loved ones during a challenging time.

Why Choose a Travel Protection Plan?

Selecting a travel protection plan, such as Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan, offers a crucial layer of assurance and support for individuals and their families. Here’s why one might consider such a plan:

1. Comprehensive Coverage: Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan provides comprehensive coverage specifically tailored to handle arrangements for the deceased in the event of their passing 75 miles or more from their legal residence. This includes the coordination and logistics involved in returning the deceased home, alleviating the burden on loved ones during an emotionally challenging period.

2. Peace of Mind: By opting for a travel protection plan that includes arrangements for the return of the deceased, individuals and their families can have peace of mind knowing that logistical concerns will be handled with care and professionalism. This allows loved ones to focus on processing their grief and honoring the memory of the departed without having to worry about the practicalities of transportation and repatriation.

3. Relief for Loved Ones: Dealing with the death of a family member or friend is an emotionally taxing experience. Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan offers relief for loved ones by taking care of the necessary arrangements, allowing them to grieve and mourn without the added stress of making travel arrangements or coordinating transportation.

More About Tharp Funeral Home’s Death Protection Plan

1. Tailored Coverage: Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan is specifically designed to address the unique needs of travelers. We understand that unexpected events can happen during trips, and our plan offers peace of mind knowing that arrangements for the return of the deceased are taken care of promptly and professionally.

2. Expert Assistance: With Tharp Funeral Home, you have the support of experienced professionals who specialize in handling arrangements for transporting the deceased. Our team will coordinate all aspects of the process, ensuring a seamless transition back home.

3. Reduced Stress for Loved Ones: Losing a loved one while traveling can be overwhelming, especially when faced with the logistics of repatriation. Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan alleviates this stress by managing all the necessary arrangements, allowing your family to focus on grieving and healing.

4. Global Coverage: Whether you’re traveling domestically or internationally, Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan provides coverage wherever you go. No matter where the unexpected occurs, we’ll be there to assist you.

Read here for a list of other kinds of travel protection.

How Does Tharp Funeral Home’s Death Protection Plan Work?

1. Coverage Area: Our death protection plan applies to deaths occurring 75 miles or more from your legal residence. This includes both domestic and international travel.

2. 24/7 Assistance: Tharp Funeral Home’s dedicated team is available around the clock to assist you in the event of a death during your travels. Simply contact us, and we’ll take care of the rest.

3. Comprehensive Service: From coordinating transportation to handling necessary paperwork, our team handles every aspect of repatriation with care and professionalism.

4. Efficient Process: We understand the importance of timely arrangements. Tharp Funeral Home prioritizes swift action to ensure the deceased is returned home as quickly and efficiently as possible.

5. Personalized Support: Every situation is unique, and our team is committed to providing personalized support tailored to your specific needs and preferences.

Getting Started with Travel Protection

Don’t let the fear of the unknown overshadow your travel adventures. With Tharp Funeral Home’s death protection plan, you can explore the world with confidence, knowing that you and your loved ones are protected no matter what. Contact us today to learn more about how our specialized plan can provide peace of mind during your travels.

Funeral Cost Secrets Revealed: a Guide to Understanding Burial and Cremation Expenses

Tue, 19 Mar 2024 04:00:00 GMT

A letter from Chris Tharp, Co-Owner of Tharp Funeral Home

At Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory our team prides itself on providing our client families with exceptional service at an affordable price. Time and time again we hear from families that they appreciate our transparency and willingness to clearly share complete cost information so that they can make informed decisions and not fall into the “emotional overspending” trap that can occur when complete pricing information is not readily shared.

In this spirit of simplicity and transparency, we are very proud to be among the first funeral homes in Virginia to introduce an online funeral cost estimator that enables families to build just the service packages they want while seeing the itemized price for each selection. This tool helps empower families to make informed decisions during an emotionally taxing period. With this focus on continuing to serve our client families better we invite you to use this cost estimator to build a service and merchandise plan that matches your family’s preferences and budget. Outlined below we will provide an overview of the cost drivers in funeral selections as well as provide a link to our itemized cost estimator.

We appreciate your trust in our local family company and Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory is proud to be the most often selected funeral home and crematory in our region.

Understanding Funeral Cost Basics: What Services to Expect

While funeral costs may fluctuate depending on factors such as location and individual service and merchandise preferences—with merchandise selections such as casket, vault, urn etc. often forming the greatest expense–there are fundamental service expenses that form the backbone of any funeral arrangement. Here is a breakdown of these basic services:

Beyond the Basics: Additional Professional Services

In addition to the core services, funeral homes provide a range of optional professional services tailored to each family’s individual needs and preferences:

In addition to the core and optional services, there are further considerations that may impact the overall cost of a funeral arrangement:

Navigating the Journey Together: Access to Transparent Pricing

At Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory, we offer more than just a service; we provide solace and healing support during one of life’s most challenging times. With transparency, empathy, and professionalism at our core, we help guide our client families through the process of bidding farewell to their loved ones, ensuring dignity and respect every step of the way.

Estimating Your Cost

Having the foresight to preplan can equip you and your family in your time of need. Learn more here.

The Funeral Guest Book: Everything You Need to Know

Tue, 27 Feb 2024 05:00:00 GMT

Called a memorial book, register book or guest book… it’s one of the small details that make a funeral special. Although it might feel strange to “sign in” at a funeral, these books serve multiple functions.
The pages of a funeral guest book unfold like a silent legacy, documenting the names and words of those who gather to pay their final respects. For centuries, these thick-bound volumes have borne witness to human grief and unity, serving as both a repository of the past and a bridge to the future. But as times change, sometimes – so do our traditions.

The book of remembrance is a time-honored tool for grieving and remembering. It begins as a blank canvas awaiting the solemn stroke of a pen or pencil, the writing of which is a personal contribution to the historical record of a life ended.

Functions of the Funeral Memorial Book

The primary purpose of a funeral guest book is to record the names and addresses of guests who attend a visitation, wake or memorial service. But modern-day books have evolved from this basic function to become an expression of personal sentiments, tributes and lasting keepsakes.

Personal Tributes: Many funeral guest books now include space for guests to leave short messages or share special memories about the deceased. This provides an opportunity for loved ones to leave a lasting tribute and express their condolences.

Family Records: The funeral guest book also serves as a record of those who attended the service, allowing families to keep track of who came to pay their respects.

Genealogy Research: For future generations, funeral guest books serve as a valuable resource for genealogy research. They provide a glimpse into the social circles and friendships of those who have passed away, offering insight into their lives beyond just family records.

Memorial Keepsakes: In addition to being a record of attendees, funeral guest books can also serve as cherished keepsakes for families to remember their loved ones. Some choose to display the book at home, or even pass it down to future generations as a way to remember and honor their loved one.

How to Choose a Guest Book

When it comes to choosing a funeral guest book, there are many options available. Some families prefer traditional books with blank pages for guests to sign and leave tributes, while others opt for more modern alternatives such as digital guest books or photo books. Here are some factors to consider when choosing a guest book:

Theme and Design: Many funeral homes offer themed guest books that reflect the personality and interests of the deceased. Families can also choose to personalize the book with photos, poems or other decorations.

Size and Format: Depending on the expected number of guests, families should choose a guest book that has enough pages for everyone to sign. They may also want to consider the format, such as traditional bound books versus spiral-bound or loose-leaf options.

Accessibility: For those who are unable to attend the funeral in person, having a digital guest book allows them to leave their names and tributes from anywhere in the world. This can be especially beneficial for friends and family members who may not be able to travel due to distance or health reasons.

Types and Styles of Guest Books

As mentioned, there are many styles of guest books available for funerals. Some popular options include:

Traditional Bound Books: These are the classic guest books that have been used for many years. They typically feature blank pages for guests to sign and leave tributes, with a simple cover design. You can get them at Walmart, Amazon or the funeral home.

Photo Book Guest Books: A more modern option, photo book guest books allow families to include pictures of their loved one throughout the book. This adds a personal touch and creates a visual tribute to the deceased.

Custom-Made Guest Books: Available on Etsy, there are a varity of custom and hand made guest book options that offer unique designs and features such as customized covers, pages, and materials, for example a wooden covered book or singable board.

Modernizing the Funeral Guest Book

With the rise of technology and social media, traditional funeral guest books have also evolved. Many funeral homes now offer digital versions of the memorial book, allowing guests to leave virtual messages and tributes that can be stored and accessed online.

Digital Guest Books

With the rise of technology, digital funeral guest books allow attendees to make entries via touchscreen tablets or their own devices. This data can be stored online, ensuring that memories are not confined to the pages of a single book, and can be easily shared with distant loved ones.

Online Memorial Platforms

A contemporary take on the funeral guest book, online memorial platforms provide a space for anyone to contribute their thoughts and memories. These platforms transcend time and space, with interactive features that honor the deceased in perpetuity.

Creative Ideas for the Register Book

The memorial book can be a method of honoring the dead in ways that surprise and delight, that stir the soul, and extend the legacy?

Turning It into a Memory Book

Transforming the guest book into a memory book filled with photos, stories, and mementos from the life of the deceased can be a therapeutic project for friends and family. Each page a chapter, each item a paragraph in a story that stretches beyond the confines of earthly time.

Using It for Charity Donations in Memory

In a heartfelt twist, the guest book can serve as a catalyst for charity. Attendees can pledge donations in memory of the departed, with the book serving as the record of their noble intentions. This act transforms each signature into a beacon of hope, spanning the needs of the living in remembrance of the deceased.

Planting a Memorial Tree or Garden

Instead of traditional guest books, some families choose to have guests sign and leave messages on leaves or rocks that will later be used to create a memorial tree or garden. This allows loved ones to contribute in a more tangible way and creates a lasting tribute that can be visited for years to come.

Etiquette and Handling

The handling of a funeral guest book is a somber but necessary practice. As with any cherished item, there are cultural and personal etiquettes that must be observed.

Proper Storage and Safekeeping

Whether traditional or digital, the funeral guest book should be safeguarded. For physical books, this may mean archival-quality boxes or climate-controlled environments. For digital records, backups are crucial.

The funeral guest book is like a little snapshot of how we deal with loss and memories. It’s this mix of old ways and new ideas, sadness and joy, inviting us to dig into these feelings with an open mind and some creativity.

As you go through the time after the funeral, remember that the guest book isn’t just about the person who passed away; it’s about life itself. It shows our need to connect, to remember, and to pay tribute. It’s a link, not only between the living and the departed, but between different times and a reminder of how time moves on.

Find your own way to keep the funeral guest book in your ongoing story, whether by holding onto memories or creating new ones. Because the best legacy is one we keep building on, year after year, page after page.

Headstone Planning & Customizations: Everything You Need to Know

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 05:00:00 GMT

When we visit a cemetery, one of the first things that usually catches our attention are the headstones. These solemn stone markers, carved with precision and care, serve as a poignant and lasting reminder of those who have passed away. Each headstone tells a unique story, etched into the stone with names, dates, and heartfelt epitaphs that encapsulate the lives and legacies of those who once walked among us. These sacred memorials, found in various shapes and sizes, hold a profound significance in many cultures and traditions around the world, preserving the memories of loved ones and providing a place for reflection and remembrance.

History of Headstones

The earliest known headstones date back to ancient civilizations such as the Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans. These early headstones were typically made of wood or stone, and often depicted symbols such as gods and goddesses that represented the deceased. It was not until the Middle Ages in Europe that headstones began to feature more personal information such as names and dates.

During the Victorian era, elaborate headstone designs became popular, featuring intricate carvings and ornate details. However, during this time, headstones were often reserved for the wealthy and privileged, with many poorer individuals being buried in unmarked graves.

Throughout history, headstones have been adorned with various symbols and designs that hold special meaning. For example, a dove may symbolize peace or the Holy Spirit, while a tree may represent eternal life or family roots. These symbols can be seen in different cultures and religions, each with their own interpretations.

The Evolution of Headstones in Modern Times

Today, headstones come in a wide variety of materials and styles, from traditional granite and marble to more modern options such as bronze and even glass. Headstones can also be personalized with photographs, engravings, and QR codes that provide access to digital memorials or online tributes.

With the rise of cremations, there has also been an increase in unique memorial options such as cremation benches, urns that double as headstones, and even biodegradable headstones made from environmentally friendly materials.

While headstones serve as a physical marker for a loved one’s final resting place, they also hold great emotional and symbolic value. They provide a place where family members and friends can come to pay their respects, remember the memories shared with the deceased, and find solace in their grief. Furthermore, headstones can also serve as a way to preserve history and genealogy, allowing future generations to learn about their ancestors.

Types of Headstones & Customizations

There are a wide range of headstones available, each offering distinct characteristics and a plethora of customization options. Whether you prefer traditional granite headstones, elegant marble designs, or modern bronze markers, you can find a headstone that perfectly reflects the unique personality and memories of your loved one. From intricate engravings and personalized epitaphs to custom shapes and sizes, the possibilities for creating a truly special tribute are endless.

Types of Headstones

Flat marker headstones:

These are typically made from granite or bronze and lie flat on the ground, making them easier to maintain. They are a popular choice for those looking for a traditional and simple design.

Upright headstones:

Also known as tombstones or gravestones, these stand upright and often feature more intricate designs and engravings. They can be made from a variety of materials such as granite, marble, and sandstone.

Slant markers:

Similar to flat markers, these headstones are slanted at an angle and can also be personalized with engravings and designs.

Cremation memorials:

These are designed specifically for those who have been cremated, with options such as urns that double as headstones or smaller plaques that can be placed on a larger memorial.

Headstone Customizations

Headstone Symbols and Meaning:

As mentioned earlier, headstones often feature symbols and designs that hold special meaning. These symbols, carefully chosen by loved ones, serve as a lasting tribute to the deceased and can provide comfort and solace to those who visit their final resting place. Some common symbols found on headstones include crosses, which represent faith and spirituality, and doves, which symbolize peace and eternal rest. Other symbols, such as flowers or hearts, can convey sentiments of love, remembrance, and the beauty of life. Each symbol on a headstone tells a unique story, connecting the past with the present and offering a glimpse into the life and legacy of the individual laid to rest.

Cultural and Religious Considerations

Headstones often hold different meanings and symbolism across cultures and religions. In some cultures, headstones may not be used at all, with the focus being on the spiritual connection between the living and the deceased rather than a physical marker. In other cultures, such as in China or Japan, gravesites may feature intricate designs and symbols specific to their beliefs and customs. Additionally, religious symbols and inscriptions may also vary, with some religions allowing only specific images or prayers to be used on headstones.

Cemetery Regulations and Guidelines Regarding Headstones

While headstones are a meaningful way to honor and remember a loved one, it’s important to note that cemeteries often have regulations and guidelines in place regarding their design, size, and placement. These regulations ensure the safety and maintenance of the cemetery grounds while also preserving its aesthetic value. It’s essential to check with the cemetery before making any decisions or purchases regarding a headstone.

Some common regulations include the maximum size and height of a headstone, materials that are allowed, and restrictions on certain symbols or designs. Additionally, some cemeteries may require a permit before installing a headstone. It’s important to carefully review these guidelines to ensure your chosen headstone meets all requirements and can be placed at your desired location.

Budget Considerations: How Much do Headstones Cost?

The cost of a headstone can vary greatly depending on the size, material, and customization options chosen. Simple flat markers may start at a few hundred dollars, while more elaborate upright headstones can cost several thousand dollars. It’s essential to consider your budget when choosing a headstone and to discuss any potential additional costs with the cemetery or memorial company. Some additional expenses may include fees for installation, permits, and maintenance. It’s also important to factor in any personalization or customization costs when creating a budget for a headstone.

Headstone Installation Process

Once you have chosen a headstone and confirmed that it meets all regulations and guidelines, the next step is installing it at the cemetery. Depending on the cemetery’s policies, this process may be done by the cemetery staff or by a professional monument company. The installation typically involves digging a hole, placing the foundation, and securing the headstone in place. It’s important to ensure that the headstone is installed correctly to prevent any damage or safety hazards in the future. Once installed, it’s important to regularly check and maintain the headstone to preserve its beauty and honor your loved one’s memory.

Maintaining Headstones: Care Tips and Recommendations

Headstones are a lasting reminder of our loved ones, and it’s important to maintain them regularly to keep them looking their best. Some care tips and recommendations include:

By following these care tips and recommendations, you can ensure that your loved one’s headstone remains a beautiful tribute for years to come. Overall, headstones serve as a meaningful way to honor and remember our loved ones, and each one holds a unique story and significance. As we continue to grieve and heal, visiting the final resting place of our loved ones can bring comfort and solace knowing their memory will always be preserved through a lasting symbol of love and remembrance.

Preplanning and Pre-Purchasing a Headstone

While it may be difficult to think about, planning ahead for our own passing can bring peace of mind and alleviate potential financial burdens for our loved ones. Preplanning and purchasing a headstone allows us to choose the design, materials, and personalization options that best reflect our legacy and wishes. It also ensures that we have a designated resting place with a lasting tribute. Consider discussing preplanning and purchasing a headstone with your loved ones and a cemetery or memorial company to explore your options.

Schedule a Meeting with a Preplanning Director

Working with Tharp Funeral Home to Preplan

At Tharp Funeral Home, we understand the importance of honoring and remembering our loved ones. That’s why we offer preplanning and pre-purchasing services for headstones to ensure that their legacy is preserved in accordance with their wishes. Our team will work with you to select a headstone that reflects your story and provides solace, in addition to helping you have a full plan in place for when the time comes. Contact us today to learn more about our preplanning and pre-purchasing services.

Headstones serve as a tangible reminder of our loved ones who have passed away. They provide a place to pay respects, reflect on memories, and feel connected to those we have lost. In some cultures,

The last minute funeral – what to pull out of your closet or have on hand

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 05:00:00 GMT

When planning to attend a funeral, particularly at short notice, it can be difficult to know what to
wear. The situation calls for attire that is respectful and considerate of the solemnity of the
event. The main rule to bear in mind is to lean towards conservative and subdued clothing. To
ease the burden of a last-minute closet dilemma, here are a few things to have on hand all year
round:

What Women Should Wear to a Funeral or Wake

The safest and most acceptable palette for a funeral attire are dark colors such as black, navy blue, or grey. Avoid bright and flashy colors that may be deemed inappropriate or disrespectful. It is best to stick with conservative clothing. This includes knee-length dresses or skirts, tailored pants, and modest blouses.

A simple, knee-length black dress is always a safe option for a funeral. It can be dressed up or down with accessories and is appropriate for any weather type. Here are a few year-round funeral outfits for women to have on hand:

A few things to keep in mind:

What Men Should Wear to a Funeral or Wake

For men, a simple dark suit is always appropriate. If you don’t own one, consider investing in a well-fitted one as it can be worn for multiple occasions. A tie and dress shoes are also essential pieces to complete the look. Here are a few year-round funeral outfits for men to have on hand:

A few things to keep in mind:

Children

While your children are living at home, it may be necessary to also have something on hand for them to wear for occasions like funerals. For example, select dresses, skirts, or pants in darker colors for young girls; pants and a shirt for young boys. Ensure that children’s clothing is comfortable, as they may be expected to remain still and respectful during the service. Simple attire that could be worn to a graduation, church event or other occasion are appropriate to keep on hand.

Shoes and Accessories

Shoes and accessories are important elements to complete a funeral attire. For women, closed-toe shoes are recommended as they give off a more formal and respectful look. Avoid wearing high heels or flashy jewelry. A simple pair of pearl earrings or a modest necklace is appropriate. For men, black or brown dress shoes are best. Avoid sneakers or any flashy accessories.

Weather Considerations

It is important to take into consideration the weather, particularly if the funeral or wake is outdoors. For women, a shawl or cardigan can be used to cover bare shoulders and arms in case it gets chilly. For men, a suit jacket or blazer can also serve the same purpose. It is always a good idea to have these items on hand in case of any unexpected weather changes.

Remember that each funeral or memorial is different, and it is important to keep in context that in some cases special requests are made by the family to honor the deceased, it may be a favorite sports team or a favorite color, so it’s always important to respect these requests and be mindful of them when selecting attire. It is also important to remember that the most important thing is to show your support and pay your respects, not necessarily what you are wearing. Having these few key items on hand can help ease the stress of dressing for a last minute funeral or wake. In other cases, there may be specific roles in the ceremony that require more specific or formal attire, which should be taken into consideration on a case by case basis.

For more information or guidance, learn what to wear to a funeral .

Seasonal Affective Disorder: Recognizing, Preventing, and Treating Depression

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Virginia’s four seasons offer much to appreciate. While some states miss out on the vibrant fall colors and snowy landscapes, winter can bring long, cold, and colorless days. For many, it’s more than just boredom or restlessness; it’s a battle against the winter blues.

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD), a form of depression that strikes during specific seasons, especially winter, affects millions globally, even here in Virginia. Its impact on mental and emotional well-being cannot be underestimated.

Seasonal depression is real, and it affects all of us one way or another. Whether it’s someone dealing with winter depression or their loved ones who surround them – we’ve all felt the effects of SAD at some point. So, what can we do about it?

Symptoms of Seasonal Depression

Imagine feeling exhausted, struggling to sleep or oversleeping, losing interest in things you once loved, and experiencing shifts in your body weight. For some, it can even escalate to feelings of hopelessness or thoughts of self-harm. That’s the reality of seasonal depression.

But don’t lose hope just yet! Here are some key things to consider when it comes to tackling this challenging condition:

It hurts, physically: depression is hard for everyone involved. Just like getting a broken heart, SAD is painful both emotionally and physically. It can cause muscle pain, headaches, stomach aches and an overall feeling of illness that just doesn’t seem to go away.

It causes disinterest: It can be a struggle to find motivation and energy for anything, even the things that are usually enjoyed – even food, activities, sex, you name it…

It makes people irritable: Everyone has their moments, but seasonal depression can make irritability a consistent state. This can cause conflict with loved ones and colleagues, making things even more challenging both at home and at work, with parent, spousal or sibling relationships.

It ruins sleep patterns: The condition can also wreak havoc on sleep schedules – whether it’s sleeping too much or too little. This can lead to exhaustion, fatigue, and difficulty functioning throughout the day.

It lowers mood: One of the hallmark symptoms of depression is a persistent feeling of sadness or emptiness. SAD is no different, and it can make even the happiest moments feel dull or joyless.

It can affect children : While we think of depression as being associated with adults, it can also affect children and teenagers. They may have difficulty concentrating in school or experience changes in their behavior and mood.

Preventing Seasonal Affective Disorder:

While there is no surefire way to prevent SAD, there are steps you can take to reduce its impact on your life. Here are some tips that may help:

Take advantage of natural light. Exposure to sunlight, even during the winter months, has been shown to improve mood and energy levels. Make an effort to get outside during daylight hours even if it’s just for 10 minutes and open up blinds or curtains to allow more natural light into your home.

Light Therapy Lamps help . Light therapy has been shown to be an effective treatment for SAD, and other mental health disorders. These lamps mimic natural sunlight and can provide a boost of energy and mood during the darker months. They are available on Amazon for as little as $20.

Stay active: Regular exercise not only improves physical health but also helps improve mental health by releasing endorphins. A brisk walk, yoga, or any physical activity can help boost mood and reduce symptoms of SAD.

Stay social: It’s easy to retreat into a shell when feeling depressed, but making an effort to stay connected with friends and family can greatly improve mental health and decrease feelings of loneliness.

Eat mood-boosting foods. Make sure you fuel your body with nutritious foods. The most important kinds of nutrition you can get when feeling down are those that contain Omega-3 fatty acids, magnesium, and serotonin-enhancing foods. All of which have been found to have a positive effect on your mood. Check out this list of mood-boosting foods.

Nobody said that preventing or dealing with SAD was going to be easy. But helping yourself, or a loved one, isn’t optional – it’s critical.

There’s no need to feel ashamed or embarrassed about taking medication or seeking professional help.

If you’re experiencing severe symptoms of SAD, it’s essential to speak with a mental health professional. They can provide a proper diagnosis and create an individualized treatment plan that may include therapy, medication, or other interventions.

Remember, this isn’t just for you – we all need you to get better.

Self-care is for you, too…not just depressed loved ones

Although being patient with someone dealing with depression is important, it is also important to take care of yourself. There’s nothing wrong with continuing to do the things that are important to you, getting out of the house even if they don’t want to come, or feeling joyful or happy even if they aren’t.

It’s okay to need some time away from your loved one, especially if they’re in a particularly irritable or depressed state. Take breaks when you need them and engage in activities that bring you joy.

Make sure to prioritize your own mental health, first, just like an airbag on an airplane.

Support Groups & Resources in Central Virginia

Tharp Funeral Home offers weekly grief support groups around Central Virginia. Take a look at our grief resources, including grief support groups here.

Healing By Design, a Therapy Journal

Grief is hard, there’s no way around it. Coloring pretty pictures isn’t going to change the loss that you’ve experienced. But it can bring life to your gray world and change the way you feel about yourself as well as your circumstances.

Healing by Design is a small keepsake journal that holds a variety of creative activities to help you on your journey. From coloring pages to journal prompts and poetry games, use it however you please. There is no wrong way – it’s simply just for you.

Download Healing by Design: a Keepsake Activity Journal for Adults

Legal Questions about Living Wills, POA and more

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 05:00:00 GMT

The Tharp Funeral Home website is intended for informational and educational purposes only. We can not provide legal advice on any matters that may arise from the usage of this website. Please consult a licensed attorney if you have any legal questions about our services or funeral planning in general.

What is a Living Will?

A living will is a legally binding document that allows individuals to express their preferences regarding life-prolonging medical treatments. This document, also known as an advance medical directive, health care directive, or physician’s directive, serves as a clear guide for healthcare providers and family members if individuals become unable to communicate their wishes. It is crucial to have a living will to ensure that your desires for medical treatment are respected and understood, providing peace of mind for both you and your loved ones. Not to be confused with a living trust, which pertains to the management and distribution of assets, a living will focuses solely on healthcare decisions.

The requirements for a living will vary by state so you may want to have a lawyer prepare your living will. Many lawyers who practice in the area of estate planning include a living will and a health care power of attorney in their package of estate planning documents. If you need to write or update a will or trust, you can take care of your living will at the same time.

Generally, a living will describes certain life prolonging treatments. You, the declarant, indicate which treatments you do or do not want applied to you in the event you either suffer from a terminal illness or are in a permanent vegetative state. A living will does not become effective unless you are incapacitated; until then you’ll be able to say what treatments you do or don’t want. They usually require a certification by your doctor and another doctor that you are either suffering from a terminal illness or permanently unconscious before they become effective as well. This means that if you suffer a heart attack, for example, but otherwise do not have any terminal illness and are not permanently unconscious, a living will does not have any effect. You would still be resuscitated, even if you had a living will indicating that you don’t want life prolonging procedures. A living will is only used when your ultimate recovery is hopeless.

What is a Health Care Power of Attorney/Health Care Proxy?

For situations where you are incapacitated and therefore not able to speak for yourself, but your health is not so dire that your living will becomes effective, you should have a health care power of attorney or health care proxy. A health care power of attorney is a legal document that gives someone else the authority to make health care decisions for you in the event you are incapacitated. The person you designate to make health care decisions on your behalf is supposed to consider what you would want, so be sure to talk with them about it. It may be a difficult conversation, but you’re asking someone to take on a great burden for you – letting him or her know what you want lessens that burden.

None of these documents will do you any good if no one knows about them. You have to talk with your doctor and the person you designate as your health care proxy. Discuss with your doctor what kinds of end of life medical treatments you want. He or she can help you by answering any questions you have about certain treatments. Once you’ve decided what it is you do or don’t want, make your wishes known to your doctor and your family.

Why Have a Will?

There are probably few subjects in law which are surrounded by more myths and misinformation that the subjects of wills and the distribution of estates. Many people believe that not having a will allows the state to take part of the estate (not true), that having a will automatically will reduce taxes (also not true), or that having a will means that a lawyer gets to take a big fee out of the estate (also not true). And, of course, there are the stereotypes of little old ladies writing long wills to direct who gets the silver spoons.

The purpose of this article is to provide a brief explanation of what a will can do, and some practical advice on why a will is needed.

A Will Can Protect Your Husband or Wife

Most people assume that if a husband or wife dies, everything goes to the surviving spouse. That is certainly true of jointly owned property, but in Pennsylvania (and most other states) the surviving husband or wife is entitled to only about one half the individually owned assets of a deceased spouse with the rest of the assets passing to the children. Your husband or wife could therefore be very surprised to find, after your death, that half of your property has passed to your children. If your children are minors, insult can be added to injury, because the court must appoint a guardian for the property passing to the children, and in Pennsylvania the surviving parent cannot be appointed as the guardian. That means that the children get one half of your property, your surviving spouse is still responsible for raising them, but your husband or wife has no control over their half of your property.

If you are married and want your husband or wife to own everything after your death, it is a good idea to have a will that says that and avoid any possible confusion or surprise.

A Will Can Appoint Guardians for Your Children

If you have minor children, you have the right to appoint the guardians who will take care of your children upon the deaths of you and your spouse. Upon the death of only one parent, the surviving parent obviously continues as the natural guardian, so the problem only arises if both parents die in a common accident, or if one parent has already died.

A Will Can Appoint Trustees for Children

If you have minor children, you also have the right to appoint a guardian of their estates. A guardian of the estate invests and takes care of the property that a minor inherits, while a guardian of the person takes the place of the parent in caring for the minor. However, it is usually better to appoint a trustee and put specific directions in the will for applying the child’s inheritance for support and education, and specific directions for the age at which the child may receive the balance of the inheritance outright, free of trust.

If you fail to write a will and your minor children inherit from you, a court will appoint a guardian for them (and the guardian will probably not be someone you would choose), and your children will receive their inheritances at the age of eighteen. As noted above, this situation can be especially upsetting when only one parent dies and property passes to the children by intestacy, because a court in Pennsylvania cannot appoint the surviving parent as the guardian of the estate of the children.

A Will Can Appoint Executors

Although the job of an executor (or administrator) of an estate is usually not as important as many people think (it’s really just a matter of finding the assets, paying the debts, paying the taxes, and distributing whatever is left), there are sometimes disputes about who should be the administrator when there is no will, or there are disputes among the administrators if more than one is appointed. Having a will that names an executor can eliminate these kinds of problems.

A Will Can Save Taxes

Having a will does not, in itself, save any taxes. If your estate would pass to your children without a will, and you write a will leaving everything to your children, the death taxes (state inheritance tax and federal estate tax) will be exactly the same with or without the will.

It is possible for a married couple whose combined estates are more than the federal estate tax “applicable exclusion amount” (which is $675,000 in 2000 and which is scheduled to increase in stages to $1,000,000 in the year 2006) to save federal estate tax through special trust provisions in a will or revocable trust. For example, if a husband and wife have combined estates of $1,350,000, and wills by which they both leave everything to the survivor of them, there will be no federal estate tax upon the first death (because of the federal estate tax marital deduction), but the $1,350,000 estate of the survivor will result in state and federal death taxes of $270,750 upon the death of the survivor. However, if the first of the couple to die leaves $675,000 in trust for the survivor, there is no federal estate tax, because of the federal estate tax “unified credit.” The survivor would then have an estate of $675,000 and a trust of $675,000. Upon the death of the survivor, the $675,000 trust is not subject to tax and the $675,000 estate results in no tax because of the unified credit. Therefore, adding the trust provisions to the will of the first spouse to die eliminated the taxes upon the death of the surviving spouse, saving $270,750 in death taxes.

If you want to leave any part of your assets to charity, you obviously need a will. If you want to benefit both family members and charity, there may be ways in which you can reduce the taxes for your family through special charitable trust arrangements. Unfortunately, these methods are too complicated to describe here.

When Does a Will Not Help?

A will only controls the assets in your name that are part of your estate, and there are many types of assets which are not part of your estate and do not pass under a will. For example, life insurance, annuities, retirement benefits, and individual retirement accounts are usually payable to a named beneficiary, so they are not part of the estate and are not controlled by the will. Also, property owned by a husband and wife as tenants by the entireties, or by one or more persons as joint tenants with rights of survivorship, automatically passes to the surviving owner, regardless of what is said in a will. If all of your assets are jointly owned with your husband or wife, life insurance, and retirement benefits, a will may not be needed if your husband or wife survives you, but may be needed if you both die together.

With a will you can also make gifts of your body for transplants or research or provide instructions on where and how you wish to be buried. However, these are poor reasons to have a will. In most cases, no one looks at the will until after the funeral and burial, so it is quite likely that your instructions for the disposition of your body will be found too late to do anything about them.

What Happens Without a Will?

If you die with assets in your name and without a will:

The division and distribution of your estate is governed by a statute, called an “intestate” law. (The word “intestate” comes from the combination of the Latin suffix “in,” meaning “not” or “without,” and “testate,” meaning “will,” so “intestate” means someone who dies without a will.) If you are survived by a spouse and children, your estate is usually divided between your spouse and children. If you have only children (or grandchildren), the estate is divided among your children (and grandchildren). If you have neither spouse, children, nor grandchildren, the estate is distributed to your parents, brothers and sisters, grandparents, aunts and uncles, or cousins, depending on who survives you.

The person (or persons) who inherits your estate is usually appointed to serve as the administrator of your estate, to collect your assets and settle your estate.

If you have minor children who inherit from you, a court will appoint a guardian for their estates until they reach the age of eighteen.

If you have minor children and your husband or wife did not survive you, a court will appoint a guardian for their persons.

These laws do not always cause problems, but there are many situations in which you will want to arrange things differently by your will.

A Helpful Guide to Funeral and Grief Etiquette

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 05:00:00 GMT

When we lose a friend or acquaintance, we often find ourselves wanting to offer support but unsure of what to say or do to alleviate their pain. It’s completely natural to feel this way. The purpose of these guides and responses to commonly asked questions about funeral and grief etiquette is to assist you in providing comfort to the bereaved in a compassionate and considerate manner.

Writing Guides for Obituaries, Condolences, Thank Yous

Writing Obituaries

An obituary is more than a simple farewell; it is a profound reflection on the life of the departed, presented chronologically. It serves as a valuable record for future generations, contributing to the preservation and understanding of family histories .

Comprising several elements, an obituary not only announces the passing of an individual but also provides essential details regarding the upcoming services. The initial paragraph often encompasses the first three items, while the subsequent paragraph focuses on the survivors. The final paragraph concludes by outlining the arrangements for the services.

Always have another family member verify the obituary. Use your discretion and write from the heart.

Learn how (and why!) to write your own obituary.

Letters of Condolence

Writing letters of condolence is a deeply personal endeavor that defies any set form. There is only one rule that should guide your pen: Speak from the heart. As soon as you learn of the loss, take a moment to sit down and let your thoughts and emotions flow towards the person you are writing to. Need a little inspiration to begin?

Here are some phrases to help you find your words:

How to write condolences and meaningful sympathy quotes.

Thank-You Notes

Expressing sincere gratitude to those who supported you during the grieving process can be challenging. However, a few heartfelt words in your thank-you notes can go a long way in showing your appreciation. We hope the following suggestions will assist you in crafting a personal and genuine message for those you are grateful to.

While you may feel hesitant about intruding on the family during their grief, it is important to visit them. It lets the family know that while their friend or relative is gone, they are not alone; that while suffering a great loss, they are still connected to the living and that life will go on.

Visitation Etiquette

A visitation or a wake is an opportunity for friends, relatives, and acquaintances to pay their last respects to the deceased and offer their condolences to the bereaved family. This period can be emotionally charged, so it is crucial to practice sensitivity and respect. As a visitor, dress appropriately, usually in subdued colors, and maintain a calm and solemn demeanor. It is also customary to express your condolences to the family, sharing fond memories or anecdotes about the deceased person if you were acquainted. Remember, your presence alone can provide a great deal of comfort to the grieving family.

When Should I Visit?

Upon learning of a death, intimate friends of the family should visit the home to offer sympathy and ask if they can help. You may prefer to visit the family at the funeral home. This setting may be more comfortable for you and the family.

How Long Should I Stay at a Visitation?

It is only necessary to stay for a short time; fifteen minutes or so gives you enough time to express your sympathy.

What Should I Say?

Using your own words, express your sympathy. Kind words about the person who has died are always appropriate. If the family wants to talk, they usually simply need to express their feelings; they aren’t necessarily looking for a response from you. The kindest response is usually a warm hug and a simple, “I understand.”

Visitations at the Funeral Home

formal visitations provided through funeral homes give a time and place for friends to offer their expressions of sorrow and sympathy. This practice is most common among the Protestant and Catholic faiths. The obituary should tell you the visitation hours and when the family will be present, or you may call the funeral home for this information.

When you arrive, go to the family and express your sympathy with an embrace or by offering your hand. Don’t feel as though you must avoid talking about the person who has died. Talking can help the grieving process begin. If you were an acquaintance of the deceased but not well known to the family, immediately introduce yourself. Do not feel uncomfortable if you or the family members become emotional and begin to cry. Allowing the family to grieve is a natural healing process. However, if you find yourself becoming extremely upset, it would be kinder to excuse yourself so as not to increase the strain on the family.

Viewing the deceased is not mandatory. However, if offered by the family, it is customary to show your respects by viewing the deceased, and, if you desire, spend a few moments in silent prayer. Always sign your name in the register book. If you were a business associate of the deceased, it is appropriate to note your company affiliation or the family may not otherwise know you.

Your simple presence will mean a lot to the family. You do not need to stay for the entire visitation, but try not to leave during any prayers that are being offered.

Sympathy E-mail

Email is suitable for individuals who are not closely acquainted with the family, such as a business associate or a former neighbor. Your message of concern will be greatly appreciated by the family. Many funeral homes allow visitors to send online condolences through their website. If you are unsure if sending an email is appropriate, err on the side of caution and send a handwritten note instead.

Here are some examples of sympathy email messages:

Sympathy Notes & Cards

A handwritten sympathy note expresses personal feelings that can’t be conveyed in an email or through social media. A simple card with a heartfelt message is enough to show your support for the grieving family. Keep your message concise, sincere, and kind. If attending the funeral, it is appropriate to bring the note or card with you and give it to a family member in person. A sympathy note can also be sent after the funeral as a way to continue offering support and love.

Memorial Donation

Making a donation in honor of the deceased person is a touching way to show your sympathy and support. You can choose to donate to a charity that was meaningful to the deceased or their family, or you can make a donation to a related cause such as cancer research if the person passed away from an illness. Be sure to include a note with your donation stating who it is in honor of.

Telephone Calls

Receiving phone calls can be overwhelming for grieving family members, so it’s best to keep the call short and simple. Begin by expressing your sympathy and asking if there is anything you can do to help. If the family isn’t in a place to talk at that moment, offer to call back at a better time or simply express that you are thinking of them.

Flowers

Flowers can be a great comfort to the family and may be sent to the funeral home or the residence. Some people prefer to send flowers to the residence afterwards. If the family asks that donations be made in lieu of flowers, you should honor that request.

Food for the Family

The most welcome gift at this time is food as there may be several visitors in the house that need to be fed. During the days immediately following the death, substantial dishes that require little preparation other than reheating are appropriate.

Funeral Services Etiquette

Funeral services differ depending on the religious and personal beliefs of the family. Funeral services can be held at a church, temple, funeral home, or even the residence. Most folks will choose the funeral home, because of its central location or the unique service it provides.

Whether the service is held at the funeral home or at church, enter quietly and be seated. The first few rows are usually reserved for family members, however, people should sit close behind them to give comfort and support. The ceremony is usually conducted by a member of the clergy, but others may offer thoughts, anecdotes, or eulogies. After the service, you will want to leave promptly and wait in your car if you want to follow the procession to the cemetery. Remember to turn your emergency flashers and high-beam headlights on to be identified as part of the procession.

After the Funeral is Over

Immediately after the funeral, the family sometimes invites the attendees to join them for food or a reception at their home or designated place. This gives everyone a chance to talk and provides some time to relax and refresh. Sometimes friends or church members will take it upon themselves to prepare food ahead of time for this gathering and relieve the family of this task.

What do I Say When I See the Family in Public?

What you say depends on if you’ve already had contact with them. If you attended the visitation or funeral, greet them warmly and ask them how they are doing. If this is your first meeting with them since the death, your first reaction might be to express your sympathy. However, it is nicer not to bring up the death as it might evoke emotions which might be painful for your friend to deal with in a public place. Perhaps it would be better just to say you understand this is a difficult time for them. You might even ask when it would be a good time to visit or go to lunch or dinner.

What Can I Do to Help Later?

In the days and months to come, the family will continue to need your support. Try to write or call on a regular basis. Continue to include them in your social plans; they will let you know when they are ready to participate. It is also nice to remember the family on special occasions during the first year following the death. Don’t worry about bringing up the pain and emotion of the loss; they are well aware of that. By remembering such occasions as wedding anniversaries and birthdays, you are not remembering the death, but reaffirming that a life was lived.

Grief Groceries: A practical way to help those in need

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 04:00:00 GMT

What do you do when someone you know is grieving, but their meal train is full?

Dinner casseroles, sympathy cards, and flowers are common forms of support for those grieving the loss of a loved one. While these gestures are undoubtedly appreciated, there is another option that sometimes goes overlooked, but can have a significant impact: Grief Groceries

What are grief groceries?

Grief groceries are care packages filled with essential food items and household supplies given to individuals or families experiencing difficult times due to loss. Grief groceries are sometimes as simple as an Instacart delivery or can be more personalized and hand-delivered.

Think about breakfast and lunch items, tea and coffee, or essential personal items like soap, lotion or even a pack of tissues. A delivery of groceries can be especially helpful when you don’t know who might be on a special diet, or if the family is turning casseroles away because their freezer is full.

Groceries make things easier during a tough time

When someone is grieving, it can be incredibly difficult to complete even the most basic tasks, such as grocery shopping. Grief can leave individuals feeling emotionally and physically drained, making it almost impossible to take care of daily needs. By providing grief groceries, friends and family can help alleviate some of the burden and stress.

But here’s the thing, when we provide groceries, we’re not just giving essential items to those who are grieving. We’re actually helping them save money and time, so they can focus on processing their grief instead of worrying about practical stuff. It’s really about making things a little easier for them during a tough time.

Sending a delivery of groceries in Virginia

Grocery delivery is now available in most major regions from almost any major grocery food chain, as well as delivery companies like DoorDash and Instacart. In most cases, you use a computer or phone app to shop the items and then have them delivered. And if nothing else, you can simply pick them up and drop them off yourself.

Here is a list of major Virginia stores that deliver in regions like Lynchburg, Roanoke, Bedford , and Madison Heights:

Kroger Grocery Store delivers to the Smith Mountain Lake region. Check the store website or app for available delivery locations.

Shopping for grief groceries: what should you buy?

Choosing items for a grief grocery package should be done with thoughtfulness and care. Here are some tips to guide you:

Remember, the goal is to provide practical help and show that you care.

Sample Grief Groceries Shopping List

Here is a list of grocery items that you could include for almost any family:

Remember that this is just a guideline – feel free to personalize and add items based on the recipient’s needs.

Personalizing & Hand Delivering Grief Groceries

Personalizing the grocery package and hand-delivering it can really make a difference to someone who is grieving. You could add handwritten notes or cards with individual messages, as well as items that are special to the recipient, even homemade cookies or bread, or crafts. Delivering groceries in person also shows support and care, which can bring comfort during difficult times.

When packaging the groceries, you might put it all together in a beautiful basket with a few flowers, or simply put it them in paper bags. It is completely up to you.

Grief is a Personal Journey

Grief is a personal journey and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. But by providing grief groceries, we can help ease some of the practical burdens and show that we care for grieving people. Small acts of kindness can make a big difference in someone’s life, especially during tough times like these. So let’s continue to spread love, support, and positivity whenever we can.

If you know someone who needs some additional grief support, take a look at these ongoing grief support groups.

Grief Support Resources in Timberlake

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Welcome to our essential guide on grief support resources in Timberlake. At Tharp Funeral Home, our aim is to connect individuals grappling with grief to the necessary support they need during this challenging time. Whether you’re seeking professional counseling, support groups or educational resources, our guide seeks to ease the journey through grief by providing helpful and accessible information.

Timberlake, VA: A Brief History and Community Overview:

Timberlake, Virginia is a small area located in the Lynchburg Area of Campbell County, near the Blue Ridge Mountains of Central Virginia. The region is centered by Timberlake, Rd., a key artery in the area connecting Timberlake with other nearby communities. The most popular cross streets are Timberlake Rd. and Waterlick Rd., and 460 cuts through the South neck of the region.

Off of Timberlake Road, one can find a variety of essential services and local businesses that enhance the quality of life for residents. A bustling hub of commercial activity, Timberlake Road is home to numerous restaurants offering a range of culinary delights, from fast food chains to locally-owned establishments. Among them is the Koffee Cup, a popular spot for those seeking a cozy atmosphere and robust coffee options.

For shoppers, the Walmart Neighborhood Market stands as a beacon, providing a one-stop solution for groceries, household items, and more. The market prides itself on supporting local produce and offers a range of products that reflect the community’s needs and preferences.

Away from the hustle and bustle, the serene Timberlake Tavern is tucked away from the main road, offering a peaceful retreat for residents and visitors alike. Located near the tranquil Timber Lake, the tavern is an ideal spot for dining, music, and celebrations, echoing the region’s rich history.

Residents also have easy access to Timbrook Park, a well-maintained and family-friendly space ideal for leisurely strolls, picnics, or active outdoor pursuits. The park’s close proximity to the road makes it a convenient spot for families and individuals to unwind and enjoy the outdoors.

Other essential amenities off of Timberlake Road include churches, gas stations, and a small library, contributing to the area’s convenience and making it a great place to live or visit.

History of Timberlake VA

When Edley Craighill and Fred Showalter created Timber Lake in 1926 as a summer community for Lynchburg residents, they proposed a club site and beach. Although the lake was not yet fully formed, 80 lots were sold and around 20 summer homes were built over the next two years while the lake filled and the winding lakeside drive was finished. By May 1929, a tavern, Club Beach, and nine-hole golf course were almost completed. The final hole was located on high ground above the lake next to the Tavern. In just one short resort season, the Tavern became the social center of Timber Lake for dining, music, and celebrations.

Timberlake Funeral Homes

Timberlake’s funeral homes provide solace and support in times of loss. With compassion and professionalism, they guide families through difficult moments. These establishments are more than just service providers; they are valued members of the community, offering comfort and assistance during life’s most challenging times.

Choosing a Funeral Home in Timberlake: What to Consider:

When selecting a funeral home in Timberlake, several factors should be considered to ensure the right choice for your family’s needs and wishes:

Remember that this is your choice, and the funeral home you select should be one where you feel comfortable and confident in their ability to honor your loved one’s life in a meaningful way. Don’t hesitate to ask questions and make sure all your needs will be met.

Funeral Homes in Timberlake, VA:

Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory: Established in 1933, Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory has been serving the Timberlake community with compassion and professionalism for generations.

Diuguid Funeral Service & Crematory: Diuguid Funeral Service & Crematory, in operation since 1817, offers full funeral and cremation services.

Heritage Funeral Service & Crematory: Heritage Funeral Service provides personalized services that celebrate the life and memory of loved ones.

Whitten Funeral Home: Whitten Funeral Home offers a range of funeral, cremation and memorial services, with a focus on honoring each individual’s unique life.

Community Funeral Home: Community Funeral Home is committed to providing dignified, respectful and compassionate assistance to every family in their time of need.

Timberlake, VA Memorial and Burial Options

In Timberlake, VA, there are a variety of options available when it comes to memorial and burial services. These options are designed to cater to the diverse needs and preferences of the community, offering a range of solutions to honor and remember loved ones. Whether you’re seeking a traditional burial, cremation, or alternative memorial service, Timberlake offers the resources and facilities to ensure a fitting tribute. In this section, we will explore some of these options and their features.

Local Cemeteries in Timberlake:

Local funeral and memorial service venues in Timberlake, VA:

Local florists in Timberlake, VA

About Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory

Tharp Funeral Home is located at 220 Breezewood Drive in Lynchburg , right off of 501 Expressway and Forest Rd., less than 5 minutes from the Timberlake area.

When it’s time to say goodbye to a loved one, finding the right place to honor their memory is crucial. Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory , with its long-standing tradition of serving the Timberlake community, offers the compassion, professionalism, and personalized care that you need during such a difficult time. They understand that each life is unique, and they are committed to helping you create a fitting tribute that reflects the individuality and spirit of your loved one.

Don’t make this journey alone; put your trust in the caring hands of Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory. Reach out to them today and allow them to guide you through this process with dignity and respect .

Contact Tharp Funeral Home

Pet Cremation: Everything You Need to Know

Mon, 31 Jul 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Losing a beloved pet is like losing a family member – it’s an emotionally challenging experience. Deciding what to do with your pet’s remains is an important decision that requires careful consideration. Pet cremation is a popular choice among pet owners as it provides a meaningful and dignified way to say goodbye to your furry companion. In this article, we will explore everything you need to know about pet cremation.

What is Pet Cremation?

Pet cremation is the process of reducing a pet’s body to its basic elements through the application of intense heat. The remains, known as cremains or ashes, are then carefully collected and returned to the pet owner. The process takes place in a specialized facility called a pet crematorium or crematory.

Types of Pet Cremation:

The Cremation Process:

When you choose pet cremation, your pet’s body is respectfully placed in a specialized cremation chamber. The chamber is heated to extreme temperatures, typically ranging from 1,400 to 1,800 degrees Fahrenheit (760 to 982 degrees Celsius). This process reduces the body to its basic elements, leaving behind bone fragments. The fragments are then further processed into a fine powder resembling ashes.

Choosing a Pet Crematorium:

When selecting a pet crematorium, it’s important to do your research and choose a reputable facility. Consider factors such as their experience, certifications, and the level of care they provide. Look for a crematorium that handles each pet with compassion and respect, ensuring that you have peace of mind during this difficult time.

Here at Tharp Funeral Home, we cooperate with a reliable and trusted pet crematory to ensure the utmost professionalism and care for your beloved companion.

Memorialization Options:

Pet cremation allows for various memorialization options to honor your pet’s memory. Here are a few possibilities to consider:

How much does Cremation cost?

The cost of pet cremation can vary depending on the type of service you choose, as well as the size and weight of your pet. Generally speaking, private cremations tend to be more expensive than communal or partitioned ones. The cost will also depend on additional services such as keepsake urns, memorial jewelry, or scattering ceremonies. When budgeting for pet cremation, it’s important to ensure that you are aware of all the fees involved.

What kinds of pets can be cremated?

Most standard pet crematories will offer services for cats and dogs, as well as some other small animals like rabbits and birds. Some crematoriums may also be able to accommodate larger animals such as horses or livestock. If you have an exotic pet, it’s best to call the crematorium beforehand to inquire about their policies.

Tharp Funeral Home and Pet Cremation

Pet cremation is a powerful way to honor your beloved companion and provide a loving farewell. When selecting a pet crematorium, make sure to choose one that offers respectful care and personalized services.

It is important to note that at Tharp Funeral Home, we do not conduct any pet cremations within our facility. Instead, we cooperate with a reliable and trusted 3rd party pet crematory to ensure the utmost professionalism and care for your beloved companion.

Our dedicated team is available to address any questions or concerns you may have regarding our services or the pricing structure. We understand the importance of transparency in times like these and strive to provide you with the information you need to make informed decisions.

We recognize the significance of the bond between humans and their beloved pets and aim to provide exceptional services to honor their memory. Please do not hesitate to reach out to us should you need any further assistance or guidance.

Funeral Service Venues: Frequently Asked Questions

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Funerals traditionally take place in funeral homes or religious institutions like churches. What many families may not realize is that there are other options available for hosting a funeral or memorial service. Depending on the family’s wishes, outdoor parks and other public areas can be an option to hold a ceremony. Similarly, private estates or farms can also provide a more personal backdrop for paying respect to those who have passed away as well as providing space for friends and family to gather in remembrance. Whatever the chosen location is, it should be a place that brings comfort and meaning to those mourning the loss of their loved one.

Funeral Service Venues FAQ

Can a funeral be held at home or in a non-traditional setting?

Yes, a funeral or memorial service can be held in the comfort of home. Whether it’s a family residence, an apartment building, or another private home setting, these are all viable alternatives for hosting a ceremony. However, families should ensure that the space is large enough to accommodate their guests and any desired decorations or furnishings. Furthermore, if the service will be held outside of traditional funeral homes or religious institutions, they may need to make special arrangements with local authorities and/or businesses to obtain permission for use of the area.

Family-arranged services are becoming more popular as families search for more personalized options when honoring those who have passed away. Ultimately, whatever location is chosen should bring comfort and meaning to those who are mourning the loss of their loved one. Regardless of where a service is held, it can be an important part of the healing process for those who have suffered a loss.

What amenities should I look for when selecting a funeral location?

When selecting a funeral location, families should look for amenities that will help the service run smoothly. Depending on the setting, these may include access to sound equipment and multimedia technology, comfortable seating arrangements for guests, ample parking space, and any other necessary items that will ensure an appropriate and meaningful event. If desired, there may also be room for activities such as slideshows, eulogies, or musical performances. Additionally, when selecting a funeral location it’s important to consider the geographic location of family and friends who will be attending the service in order to make sure that everyone is able to attend with minimal difficulty.

It is also important to keep in mind any regulations that may apply to the area you plan on using. This includes permits or licenses required by local authorities if the event takes place outdoors or any specific rules set by the venue itself regarding capacity limits and noise.

Do funeral homes provide chapel space for services, or do I need to find a separate venue?

Most funeral homes provide chapel space for services, but depending on the size of the family and number of guests, a separate venue may be necessary. Funeral homes often have relationships with other venues in the area that can be used if the chapel they offer is not big enough to accommodate everyone. Additionally, many funeral homes also provide extra services such as catering or floral arrangements.

How far in advance should I book a funeral venue, and what factors might impact availability?

It is recommended that you book your funeral venue as soon as possible since availability can depend on a variety of factors. These include the season, peak times of the year, and whether or not the space is in high demand. Many families choose to arrange the funeral around the availability of their preferred venue, even if that means waiting on the service.

How do I coordinate logistics with the venue, such as arranging for catering or audio equipment?

When booking a venue for a funeral service, it is important to communicate any specific needs or requests to the staff. This includes details such as catering, audio equipment, decorations, and seating arrangements. Most venues will be able to provide these services but it’s important to ensure that they are properly organized in advance. Additionally, if the family wishes to have music or other performances at the ceremony, they may need to bring in their own equipment.

Ultimately, selecting the right funeral venue can play an integral role in helping families honor those who have passed away.

With careful planning and thoughtful consideration of logistics and amenities, families can create meaningful ceremonies that help them pay tribute to their loved ones with dignity and respect.

Funeral Service Options at Tharp Funeral Home

With five locations across Central Virginia, Tharp Funeral Home offers a wide variety of venue options for funeral and memorial services, including private viewing rooms to large chapels. To learn more about what Tharp Funeral Home has to offer, contact a planning director today.

Healing After Suicide: Preventing, Responding to and Coping with Suicide Loss

Tue, 23 May 2023 04:00:00 GMT

This article is intended for mature audiences, the content discusses sensitive topics that can be triggering, such as suicide, violence and death. Tharp Funeral Home does not have a therapist on staff and this article is intended to provide general information and encourage people to reach out for support. If you are in crisis and need immediate help, please call 988.

Hope After Suicide

“Why…?”

For most of us, this is the first thing we ask ourselves when we learn that someone ended their own life.

“…Why?” And… “What could I have done differently?”

The pain and devastation caused by grief after a suicide can be debilitating and leave us questioning everything, bearing the weight and burden of the death, and even withdrawing.

Sadly, suicides occur every single day. Over 1 million Americans attempt to take their own lives every year, and almost half of them …do.

One of the most common reasons that people commit suicide is severe depression. Other contributing factors can include those who have been abused, raped, suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder, or have another serious mental illness like Bipolar Disorder. Chronic pain and illness can also be a huge contributing factor, as are substance abuse, loneliness, social isolation, or just feeling like a burden to others.

Understanding the Cycle of Depression

For those of us who have never experienced severe depression, it is a feeling of complete hopelessness and can be caused by shame, guilt, grief and loss, sadness… and in some cases neurological disorders and confusion.

Someone who is dealing with a severe mental illness like this may describe it as unpredictable, overwhelming, and uncontrollable. It’s like being on a roller coaster ride that never stops … and they feel helpless to do anything about it. And they most certainly don’t know how to get off this awful ride.

For many with mental health struggles, their needs and behavior can be difficult to explain to the people around them, even their closest friends and family may have a hard time understanding why they behave a certain way, or simply just dismiss the situation and distance themselves.

Mental health survivors may find it difficult to navigate day-to-day life, which often results in social isolation. This can greatly affect their ability to interact with society, leading to negative consequences such as family breakdowns and difficulty maintaining employment. And the heartbreaking cycle continues.

Mental health is health.

Many mental health survivors describe the day-to-day feelings of their struggles to be like trying to keep a marble centered on a plank of wood: it takes constant attention and even the smallest of movements can cause the marble to go off-balance.

There are 79 organs in the human body, and the brain is the most complex. It’s no wonder that the internal balance can be thrown off so easily – and there are 78 other organs to interact with, not to mention gut health, and the nervous system.

It is important to recognize that mental health survivors are not “just” struggling with depression, but living with it. And suicide is an indication of how much pain and suffering they are experiencing in their lives right now, and it requires our understanding.

Left behind after suicide: recognizing the seriousness of complex grief

For those of us left behind after suicide, the healing process can be extremely difficult and complicated. The burden of guilt and questions can be overwhelming: why didn’t I notice? What could I have done differently? Will I ever get over this?

The truth is, nobody knows the answer to any of these questions. Grieving a loved one’s suicide is incredibly unique. Everyone processes loss differently. The most important thing to understand about healing after suicide is that the circumstances of the loss are going to change everything: bereavement is going to be different.

Along with the usual grief of losing someone, feelings of intense guilt, confusion, rejection, shame, and anger may also be present. These painful emotions can be made worse by the impact of stigma and trauma.

Studies have found that those who are bereaved by suicide experience higher levels of rejection, blaming, shame, stigma, and feel the need to conceal the cause of death compared to those who are bereaved by other causes of death.

The common stages of grief, including denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, may not fully encompass the unique emotional experience of losing someone to suicide.

Here’s what some mental health professionals recommend:

Allow yourself time to grieve: Healing after a loved one’s suicide takes time. There is no set timeline for grieving, and everyone processes their emotions differently. Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions at your own pace. It is normal to feel a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion. It is important to acknowledge and validate these emotions.

Seek support: It’s important to lean on family and friends for support during this difficult time. They can serve as a source of comfort and guidance. Consider joining a support group for individuals who have lost a loved one to suicide. It can be helpful to speak to others who have gone through a similar experience. If you feel overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to seek help from a mental health professional.

Take care of yourself: Self-care is crucial when dealing with grief. It is easy to forget to take care of your physical and emotional needs during this time, but it’s important to make it a priority. Make sure to get regular exercise, eat healthy foods, and get enough rest. Engage in activities that bring you joy, such as reading, painting, or spending time with friends.

Practice forgiveness and let go of guilt: After a suicide, survivors often feel guilty or blame themselves for what happened. It’s important to understand that suicide is a complex issue and that there are many factors that can contribute to it. Try to let go of any guilt or self-blame that you are carrying. Practice forgiveness, both for yourself and for your loved one.

Find meaning and purpose: In the aftermath of a suicide, it can be difficult to find meaning and purpose in life. However, finding a sense of meaning and purpose can be an integral part of the healing process. Consider volunteering, joining a cause that you are passionate about, or finding a new hobby. Finding joy and purpose can give you something positive to focus on.

What if nobody wants to talk about it?

The number of people thinking about, or actively trying to, commit suicide is not decreasing. It is more important than ever to bring the discussion about mental health out of the shadows and into everyday conversations.

If nobody wants to talk about it, start the conversation yourself and be open. Let people know you are there for them if they need someone to talk to and encourage those in your life to seek professional help if needed. You can also create a safe space by educating yourself on how to talk to people who may be dealing with depression. Encouraging messages such as “It’s OK to not be OK” and being a non-judgmental listener is crucial in reducing the negative stereotypes associated with mental health.

Getting Help for Mental Health

If you or someone you know are struggling with their mental health state, don’t wait to talk to someone. Don’t do nothing.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention’s (AFSP) support group listings. Support groups are available all over the United States and are facilitated by peers who get it: https://afsp.org/find-a-support-group/.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available at 800-273-8255. If you don’t like talking on the phone, you can reach Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741-741.

BetterHelp and Talkspace are websites/apps that offer accessible therapy.

There is help out there and it’s ok to not be ok. It takes courage and strength to reach out for help, but it can make a difference in a life-or-death situation. Being open about mental health issues and having conversations around them should no longer be seen as taboo.

If you are in crisis and need immediate help call 988.

References:

How to Get a Copy of a Death Certificate in Virginia

Wed, 05 Apr 2023 04:00:00 GMT

A death certificate is a vital, official document that state and local governments maintain as evidence of the cause and manner of death, in addition to other details about someone who has passed away.

Normally, the planning of a funeral will involve family members ordering multiple copies of the death certificate from the home during their time of bereavement. However, there may be times when someone else needs to acquire one at a later date.

A death certificate is needed for many important activities such as settling estates, collecting life insurance benefits, changing bank accounts or property titles to the name of an heir, filing employee benefit claims, and obtaining Social Security payments.

Here are some examples of reasons you might need someone’s death certificate:

The Office of Vital Records in Virginia keeps records of birth, death, marriage and divorce. Technically, birth records become public after 100 years. Death, marriage, and divorce records become public after 25 years. These vital records are only available to immediate family members including mother, father, spouse, child, brother, sister, and grandparents – and birth records specifically are available to legal guardians. Other relatives, such as aunts/uncles, cousins, and in-laws cannot obtain vital records before they are made public.

Birth, death, marriage and divorce records are also available online from 1912 to present day on Ancestry.com.

Frequently Asked Questions about Death Certificates

How much does a death certificate cost?

Death certificates, as well as any other vital record, costs $12/copy.

How do I get a copy of a death certificate?

In Virginia, death certificates are maintained by the state Department of Health’s Division of Vital Records.

In order to obtain a death certificate of an immediate family member, you must submit a written request to the Office of Vital Records. The request should include the registrant’s name, date and place of death, relationship of applicant to deceased, purpose for obtaining a copy, and payment. You will also need to provide proof of your identity such as a driver’s license or state-issued identification card.

Death certificates can be requested:

You can mail in your request with payment by check or money order (made payable to the ‘Treasurer of Virginia’) or drop off in person at any local health department office where vital records are kept. Payment is required prior to processing the application; if mailing in a check, do not send cash.

Once the application has been processed and approved, copies can be picked up. Generally, they request 8 weeks to process the application. Applicants have the option of express, next-day delivery for an additional fee.

What are the ID requirements for obtaining a death certificate?

You will need to provide two forms of identification, including a primary form (such as a driver’s license) and two a secondary forms.

The State Registrar has a long list of acceptable documents, that can be found at the Virginia Health Departments’ website here .

What if I can’t get a copy of the death certificate, and I need one?

If you are unable to obtain a copy of the death certificate, or if it is not available in the state of Virginia , there are still other options. You can contact a funeral home or cemetery where the deceased was buried and they may be able to provide information that can help you. Additionally, you may be able to find obituaries online that includes the date of death and place of burial which could also be helpful.

If you are searching for vital records outside of Virginia, the National Center for Health Statistics website may provide answers .

Tharp Funeral Home can Help with Vital Records

When you turn to Tharp Funeral Home , one of our first steps is collecting the vital data required for a Death Certificate as well as ordering multiple copies at your discretion. This takes some pressure off you and your family during a difficult time.

If you have questions about death certificates or the planning process, please schedule an appointment with our funeral directors.

Capturing Memories Forever: How and Why to Make a Digital Time Capsule

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Do you remember the excitement of making your very first time capsule? Packing away a few of your things and knowing that you would be able to open them up and revisit those memories years later? It probably included some printed photographs, some special notes or art projects, and a list of your current favorites.

With digital technology, time capsules can take on a whole new life. Now, you can create a video time capsule that captures all the important moments for your friends and family to cherish in the future!

Let’s explore some creative and fun ways to create a digital time capsule…

Although your digital time capsule may (or may not) be filled with predictions of the future – it’s fun to think about all of the creative possibilities of what you can do with a video time capsule.

Here are some ideas to get started:

Creating a digital time capsule is an excellent way to preserve important events and cherished memories for posterity. Whether you make a video time capsule or something simpler like an audio recording, the result will be a lasting memento that your friends and family can look back on for years to come.

First, Decide the Purpose of the Time Capsule

Before you start creating your time capsule, it’s important to think about the purpose of your project.

Creating a Digital Time Capsule with Your Smartphone

Creating your own digital time capsule has never been easier. Simply grab your smartphone or any other recording device and get started! You can record your family sharing stories and reflections about the year’s events, major milestones you’ve achieved together as well as some fun activities or hobbies.

When starting each video, make sure to capture the date, the person’s age, name, and relationship to you (yes, even if you are the one in the video!)

Here are some questions that might come in handy when making your videos:

Editing Your Time Capsule Files

Once you have your files, you can either use a video editor and get creative with it, or you can simply just store the files. There are a variety of online tools that people use to edit videos, and many of them are easy to learn and use.

Here are a few video editors you can get and use for free:

OR, you can edit the videos right on your phone using one of these tools:

Storing Your Video Capsule

Once you have your videos edited and ready to go, you need to store them somewhere safe. There are a variety of online cloud storage solutions available, such as Google Drive, Dropbox, or iCloud. It’s important to make sure that the service you choose offers enough space for all of your files.

Remembering Your Capsule

This may seem obvious, but the only thing left for you to do once your video is ready is to create a way to remember when to watch it – and make a copy (or copies) for your loved ones.

Here are some ways you can remember your time capsule:

When it comes time to open the time capsule in the future, be sure to remind those involved about what was stored on the digital time capsule so they can access it easily!

No matter how you decide to store your digital time capsule, just know that these memories will last forever.

Here are a few more resources for digital preservation:

Self-Love Care Package Ideas to Gift During February (or anytime You’re Feeling Down)

Mon, 13 Feb 2023 05:00:00 GMT

“Feel Better Brownies” + other Mood-Boosting Foods help beat Seasonal Depression for yourself or a loved one

“The very thought of food makes me nauseous.” You may feel this way, or have heard it from a friend dealing with grief or depression.

The combination of cold, short Winter days, and Valentine’s decorations lining up the aisles at every store, can make it difficult to even think about food.

Eating too much, or not eating at all, can be common symptoms of sadness, including Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), affecting more than 10 million Americans yearly. The problem is, that whether or not you are eating – if you aren’t eating the right kinds of foods, your mood is only going to get worse.

Although it may seem like indulging in highly processed carbs and sugars can bring us temporary comfort, they actually do more harm than good. Foods such as white bread or pasta; white rice; crackers; cookies; soda and ice cream all cause an increase in blood sugar levels which triggers a hormonal response from our body trying to reduce the level again. This often results in changes in our moods accompanied by feelings of fatigue – symptoms linked to depression.

Not eating at all is also a bad idea. Without food, our bodies cannot get access to the essential nutrients it needs to function. A lack of vitamins and minerals can lead to depression and other psychological issues.

The good news is that it only takes a few simple ingredients to whip up something special for a friend in need. And you don’t have to have a special degree in nutrition to prepare the goods.

Mood-Boosting Nutrition

The most important kinds of nutrition you can get when feeling down are those that contain Omega-3 fatty acids, magnesium, and serotonin-enhancing foods. All of which have been found to have a positive effect on your mood.

Here’s a full list of mood-boosting nutrients:

Self-Love Care Package Ideas

Feel-Better Brownies:

Who doesn’t like gooey, chocolate brownies? Especially when they are low in carbs and sugar, and include the essential nutrients you need to help you get out of a funk. The best part… they still taste amazing!

Ingredients :

Instructions :

The Nutrient-Rich Benefits of Feel-Better Brownies

In a nutshell (no pun intended), there are multiple benefits of the ingredients in these super-simple brownies, especially if you pile on the mix-ins.

Although there are multiple wheat-free, sugar-free brownie mixes on the market, the keto-friendly mixes tend to have more nutrient-rich ingredients, like this exact Duncan Hines mix that has Almond and Coconut flours.

Epsom Salts

Epsom Salt has been known to help reduce stress levels, pain and inflammation. It’s also known for improving circulation and detoxing the body, all of which can help improve your mood.

Instructions :

Fill a bathtub or a foot soak basin with warm water, 1-2 cups of Epsom salts and 5-10 drops of essential oils.

You could gift a full bag of Epsom Salts, sold at almost any grocery or all-purpose store. OR, you can pour two cups of the salts into a gift bag or jar.

Mixed Nuts & Chocolate

Nuts are full of fiber, magnesium and healthy fats. The protein in nuts has also been found to help with stress relief and mood regulation. Add a mix of nuts like almonds, cashews, peanuts and walnuts with some dark chocolate chips to this pack for some energy and more serotonin-boosting fibers.

Here is a recipe for a Feel-Good Snack Mix:

Don’t worry too much about the exact measurements, or whether or not they are salted. In the case where you don’t have something in your pantry, just replace it with something else – or leave it out altogether.

Mix, taste, and serve!

Healing by Design, a Keepsake Journal to Work through Grief

Healing by Design is a small keepsake journal that holds a variety of creative activities to help you on your journey. From coloring pages to journal prompts and poetry games, use it however you please. There is no wrong way – it’s simply just for you.

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Creating a Password Legacy: how to create, store and share

Mon, 28 Nov 2022 05:00:00 GMT

How many passwords do we use on a regular basis? Doesn’t it feel frustrating trying to remember them all? You’re not alone. According to SplashData, the average person has about 25 different passwords. And that’s just for our online accounts! Even worse is the trouble many families go through in trying to unlock all of the accounts of their loved ones after they have passed.

A password legacy is easy to create, and it will protect your family from the mental and emotional strain of trying to recover your accounts when you are gone.

The problem with remembering passwords

When the internet was first born, it was easy to manage our passwords because we didn’t need many, and when we did they were simple. A lot of people stuck to their name or anniversary, or “123password” for example.

Today, however, the security requirements for passwords are incredibly complicated, and dealing with them can be a challenge. In fact, many platforms now require two-step authentication, which adds an extra layer of complexity by connecting to a combination of methods including email addresses and phone numbers, or even your fingerprint and a PIN number.

Think of it…

Many people use a password manager to remember and load their passwords for them automatically. A few examples of password managers that use a single master password are LastPass, Dashlane, and 1Password. Local website browses often use a passkey manager as well to store passwords as well as credit card information.

But what happens if you lose your master password, or get locked out completely? That’s where a password legacy comes in handy.

Creating a Password Legacy

Your password legacy is your system for preserving all of these credentials, so you have a record when needed – or family members can access them when you are gone. Creating one isn’t hard but it does require thoughtfulness and discipline.

Creating a password legacy is simple and can be done in a few steps.

Create : The first step is to create a list of all your online accounts, including the websites you use, email addresses, and usernames. This may not be as simple as sitting down in a single session and thinking about all of your accounts. This may take a full 30-day cycle, and even then you might find yourself adding new ones later down the road. That’s OK! The most important thing is just to start.

Store : Once you have your list of accounts compiled, it’s time to store them in a secure location. There are several options for this: storing them on paper, in a safe, or putting them all into a password manager and then keeping the master password on paper, in a safe location.

Share : You can also share your passwords with family members or close friends. Going over it with them in person or over the phone will help ensure that everything is understood.

By creating a password legacy, you are ensuring that all of your accounts are easily accessible when needed – and safeguarding yourself from potential problems. Make sure you make a list of all the people who shared access and let each of them also know who else has access. Doing this will ensure that if one key person doesn’t know the password, others can still access it.

Here are a few tips on what to do in creating your legacy:

Download the Password Legacy Resource

Download a list of account types where you might have passwords, and a printable password record!

Where to be buried: how to choose a final resting place

Mon, 24 Oct 2022 04:00:00 GMT

When it comes time to choose a final resting place, most people don’t know where to start. There are so many options available, it can be difficult to make a decision. From geographic factors to cemeteries and green burial options, let’s take a look at the considerations, so you can make the best decision for you and your loved ones.

Consider the geographic location of the cemetery

In some cases, there is already a family cemetery being maintained by the descendants, or even a pre-purchased family plot that will accommodate multiple family members down the line. But if these don’t already exist, then the very first thing to consider is your geographic location.

Do you want to be buried where you currently live or have you moved around a lot and want to be buried in your hometown? What about family members who have passed away, where are they buried? Do your loved ones want to be near the gravesite for visitations or for peace of mind? These are all important questions to answer when making your decision.

Some people take climate into consideration. For example, if you live in an area with a lot of snowfall, you may want to consider a location that is easier for loved ones to visit during the winter months.

Can I get buried in my backyard?

This is a question that is often asked but the answer isn’t always clear. The legality of backyard burial really varies from state to state, so it’s important to do your research before making any decisions.

In some cases, you may need a permit in order to bury a body on your own property. Other times, there may be restrictions on the depth of the grave or how close it can be to the house. It’s also worth considering if you plan on selling the property in the future, as this could pose problems for the new owners.

If you are interested in pursuing backyard burial, your best bet is to first contact a local funeral planner, and you may also need to contact your local authorities to find out what regulations apply in your area.

Choose between a private cemetery or a public one

The next step is to decide between a private cemetery and a public one. There are benefits and drawbacks to both options.

Private cemeteries are usually better maintained than public ones and often have more features and amenities. They also tend to be more expensive.

Private cemeteries include:

Public cemeteries are generally less expensive than private ones and are open to everyone. They are usually maintained by the city or municipality.

Public cemeteries include:

Weigh the pros and cons of each option to decide which is best for you.

Consider interment options: in-ground, mausoleum, or cremation

Once you’ve decided on a cemetery, it’s time to think about the actual interment options. The three most common options are in-ground burial, mausoleum entombment, or cremation.

In-ground burial is the traditional method of interring a body. The casket is placed in a grave that is then covered with dirt or grass. This option can be less expensive than other methods and doesn’t require any special equipment.

Mausoleum entombment involves placing the casket or urn inside a structure known as a mausoleum. Mausoleums can be above ground or below ground level. This option tends to be more expensive than in-ground burial but doesn’t require as much space.

Cremation is when the body is reduced to ashes through the process of cremation. The ashes can then be scattered, buried, or placed in an urn. Cremation is often seen as a more economical option and doesn’t require a burial plot, and burial options are more flexible.

Creative cremation “burial plots” include:

Green burial plots

Green burials are an option for those who want to be environmentally conscious. With green burial, the body is buried without a casket in a biodegradable shroud. This option allows the body to decompose naturally and doesn’t require the use of chemicals or embalming fluids. Learn more about green burials here.

How much do burial plots cost?

The cost of a burial plot can vary depending on the location, type of cemetery, and type of interment.

An average Virginia plot is $2,615. This number is based on an analysis of 422 cemeteries in the state — with prices ranging from as low as $237 to a high of $22,000.

The type of interment can also affect the price. For example, cremation tends to be less expensive than in-ground burial because it doesn’t require a casket or grave liner.

Narrowing it down and choosing your option

Once you’ve considered all the factors, it’s time to choose the option that is right for you.

If you don’t have ties to a specific cemetery or burial plot, it can be a difficult decision to make. It is important to discuss this with your loved ones and even more important to make a decision now so you aren’t leaving it to a family member later down the road.

StoneMor Inc. has an online cemetery database that you can search by state or name. Checkout their database of cemeteries an funeral homes here.

Let a funeral director help

If you have any questions or concerns, be sure to speak with a funeral director. They will be able to help you navigate the process and make sure everything is done according to your wishes. Contact a funeral director now.

The Five Stages of Grief: Are They Really in Order?

Mon, 26 Sep 2022 04:00:00 GMT

We have all heard of the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. But are they really in order? Which one comes first? How do you know when you’re grieving and is there ever an end to the process? Let’s break down each stage, and see how it impacts the healing process.

Every person’s healing journey is unique. Although we often talk about the grieving process as linear, it isn’t quite that simple. You may find yourself or your loved ones moving back and forth between stages, or even skipping some altogether. The most important thing to remember is that there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

There isn’t one specific way that loss affects people. It all depends on your unique personality traits, the people who surround you, and your ability to use natural coping mechanisms. Some people recover quickly, while others may require many years. And there may be setbacks along the way – it’s impossible to control the process completely. The key is to be patient with yourself and give it the time necessary to heal.

What are the 5 “stages” of grief?

The five stages of grief were first proposed by Swiss-American psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying.” She created the model while working with terminally ill patients, and observed that they often experienced similar patterns of behavior. The stages are:

It makes sense that many people dealing with their imminent death would first deny, question, and wish it away. But even in acceptance, feelings of depression and even anger can resurface. Nobody can schedule their own death, so accepting our immortality and departure from everything that we know can seem impossible.

The stages of grief don’t always happen in order, and that’s okay.

Many studies have found that most people do not experience the stages of grief in exact order. In fact, many people never reach the “acceptance” stage at all. In other words, there is no black-and-white formula for healing through grief. Some of the newer grief models teach that people never really “get over it” and that although it will be easier with time, it will never go away completely.

Let’s take a closer look at the 5 named stages of grief:

The first named stage of grief is denial. This is when we try to convince ourselves that the person or situation is not really gone. We may try to rationalize it by saying that they are just on a long vacation, or that they will come back soon. Denial helps us to cope with the pain of loss and gives us time to adjust to the new reality.

The second named stage of grief is anger. This is when we become frustrated and lash out at those around us. We may be angry at God, fate, or the person who has died. We may even be angry at ourselves for not being able to prevent death or for not being able to fix the situation.

The third named stage of grief is bargaining. This is when we try to make deals with God or fate in order to bring the person back. We may promise to be a better people if only they will come back, or we may try to find someone to blame for the death.

The fourth named stage of grief is depression. This is when we finally accept that the person is gone and begin to grieve their loss . We may feel hopeless and helpless, and we may withdraw from family and friends.

The fifth and last named stage of grief is acceptance. This is when we realize that the person is never coming back and learn to live without them. We may still have days where we are sad, but we eventually come to terms with our loss and move on.

More than 5 grief stages?

Many professional psychologists name additional feelings that we go through when dealing with loss, including:

There are everyday events that can trigger the return of intense grief – things like special events, holidays or anniversaries, or subtle experiences like a scent, a song, or a piece of clothing. Grief triggers can be long-term and can bring more opportunities to heal from the pain of loss.

How do you become at peace with your grief?

The stages of grief are a helpful way to understand the process that we go through when we experience loss. However, it’s important to remember that everyone grieves in their own way and there is no right or wrong way to do it, and that’s ok.

Allowing yourself to grief

Grief is a sensible reaction to loss, yet in our culture that tends to value happiness and positivity, it can feel like mourning is taboo. If you’re presently grieving, here are some ways you can honor your emotions:

Grief Support Groups at Tharp Funeral Home

Tharp offers a variety of weekly grief groups. Find out more here.

Everything You Wanted to Know About Pallbearers but Were Afraid to Ask

Mon, 29 Aug 2022 04:00:00 GMT

Carrying the casket during a funeral as a pallbearer is not only a great honor but a tradition that dates back centuries. This is a big responsibility and one that should not be taken lightly.

If you have been asked to be a pallbearer, it is an honor and a privilege. You have been asked to accompany a dearly loved person to their final resting place, which means the family trusts and values you. This is your opportunity to help the family of the deceased in their time of need.

The tradition of pallbearing dates back to ancient times when family and friends would carry the deceased on their shoulders to burial. In Roman times, a soldier wore a cape or cloak called the pallium. In medieval times the term pallium was shortened to pall, and Christians would use a pall to cover their loved ones when burying them. Thus, the term pallbearer is used to signify someone who “bears” the coffin which the pall covers. Today, anyone who was close to the deceased can serve as a pallbearer.

What does a Pallbearer do?

So, what does a pallbearer do, exactly? In nutshell, pallbearers carry the casket. Pallbearers are typically responsible for carrying the casket from the hearse to the grave site.

Depending on the family’s choices and religious background, this could mean:

They may also be responsible for carrying the casket during funeral processions and other parts of the service. In some cases, pallbearers may be asked to wear a special badge or ribbon to signify their role.

Pallbearers typically consist of family members and close friends of the deceased. In some cases, Honorary Pallbearers may also be included. These are people who were not as close to the individual but still played an important role in their life, such as a teacher or mentors.

Depending on tradition or preference, the casket is either carried at the waist or hoisted to the shoulder. Both men and women can perform this meaningful responsibility as they accompany a person to their final resting place.

How Many Pallbearers Do You Need?

The number of pallbearers you will need will depend on the size and weight of the casket. A heavy casket will require more pallbearers than a lightweight one. For example, a standard metal casket typically requires six pallbearers, while a larger, heavier casket may require eight. A good rule of thumb is to have one pallbearer for every 25 pounds of weight. For example, if the casket weighs 200 pounds, you will need at least eight pallbearers.

Standard caskets usually weigh 160 to 220 lbs, depending on the material. They can carry a body that weighs up to 300 lbs (136 kg). Oversized caskets typically weigh 220 to 280 lbs (100 to 113 kg) and have a weight capacity of around 500 lbs.

If you are unsure how many pallbearers to ask, your funeral director will be able to advise you.

Can women be Pallbearers?

Traditionally, pallbearers have been men. However, in recent years more women are serving as pallbearers. There is no hard and fast rule about who can and cannot be a pallbearer. Ultimately, it is up to the family to decide who they would like to ask.

How do you invite someone to be a Pallbearer?

If you are asking a close friend or family member to be a pallbearer, it is best to do so in person. This will give them the opportunity to ask any questions they may have and also gives you the chance to gauge their reaction.

When asking someone to be a pallbearer, it is important to be sensitive to their feelings. Some people may feel honored by the request while others may feel overwhelmed or even resentful. It is important to remember that being a pallbearer is not a requirement and that people should only agree if they feel comfortable doing so.

If you are unsure how someone will react, you may want to ask them beforehand if they would be interested in serving as a pallbearer. This will give them the opportunity to decline without feeling pressured.

How do you uninvite a Pallbearer?

There may come a time when you need to uninvite a pallbearer. Perhaps someone has had a falling out with the family or there are unforeseen circumstances that prevent them from being able to attend the funeral.

If possible, it is best to ask the person to step down as a pallbearer in person. This will give them the opportunity to ask any questions and also allows you to gauge their reaction. If you are unable to do this, you can always send them a letter or email explaining your decision.

It is important to be respectful when asking someone to step down as a pallbearer. Remember that this is not an easy task and that people should only agree if they feel comfortable doing so.

What if I don’t want to be a Pallbearer?

If you have been asked to be a pallbearer but do not feel comfortable performing this role, it is perfectly acceptable to decline. There is no shame in admitting that carrying a casket is not something you feel comfortable doing. If you decline, simply thank the family for asking and express your condolences.

What if you are shorthanded a Pallbearer during the service?

If you find yourself shorthanded a pallbearer during the service, there are a few things you can do. First, see if there are any other family members or friends who would be willing to step in and help. If not, your funeral director or the staff at the funeral home should be able to assist you.

Carrying a casket is a big responsibility and one that should not be taken lightly. If you have any questions or concerns about being a pallbearer, be sure to speak with your funeral director. They will be able to put your mind at ease and help make the process as smooth as possible.

What should Pallbearers wear?

Pallbearers should dress in dark, formal clothing. This can be a suit, dress, or another similar outfit. It is important to avoid brightly colored clothing as this can be seen as disrespectful.

If you have any questions about what to wear, your funeral director will be able to advise you. They will also be able to provide you with any other information you may need about being a pallbearer.

What about a military funeral?

If you are attending a military funeral, there may be different rules about what to wear and how many pallbearers are needed. Your funeral director will be able to advise you on this.

Military funerals are a time to honor the life of a fallen soldier. If you have the honor of being a pallbearer, it is important to remember that you are representing the deceased and their family. This is an important responsibility and one that should not be taken lightly.

Find out more about Pallbearing and funeral planning

If you would like to learn more about being a pallbearer or funeral planning , there are a few resources for you. Your funeral director will be able to provide you with information and answer any questions you may have. Here are some resources to help:

5 Present and Future Benefits of Preplanning

Tue, 19 Jul 2022 04:00:00 GMT

When the time comes, do you want your loved ones to have to make difficult decisions about your funeral? Instead, consider preplanning your funeral or cremation. Preplanning has many benefits for both you and your loved ones.

Preplanning is the process of making end-of-life arrangements in advance. This can include anything from deciding on burial or cremation to finalizing service details and selecting a funeral home. Making these decisions ahead of time can be a difficult but rewarding process. It allows you to take control of your own death and ensure that your wishes are carried out exactly as you intended; it can also be a great way to relieve some of the burden from your loved ones during what will undoubtedly be a difficult time for them.

Here are the top five present & future benefits of preplanning:

1. Personalize Your Funeral Services:

When the planning is left to the family after death has occurred, it can be very difficult to make so many decisions while processing the grieving process. But when you preplan your own funeral, you have the opportunity to make your end-of-life services personal. You can choose special music or flowers for your memorial service, or plan a specific theme. This will make your service more meaningful for your loved ones and help them to remember you in a positive way – plus, relieve the burden for your loved ones.

2. Relieve the Financial Burden:

Funeral costs can be expensive and often come as a surprise to loved ones who are already struggling with the death of a family member or friend. By preplanning your funeral, you can set aside money to cover the costs, or even pay in full ahead of time. This will take a burden off of your loved ones during a difficult time. In addition, you can lock in the cost of your funeral, which can save you thousands of dollars.

3. Take Your Time:

Preplanning your funeral gives you the opportunity to take your time making decisions. You can research different options and make sure you are getting exactly what you want. This is especially helpful if you have specific requests or needs.

4. Avoid Emotional Decisions:

After a death has occurred, loved ones are often left to make decisions about the funeral while they are grieving. This can be an emotional and difficult time for them. By preplanning your funeral, you can avoid putting your loved ones in this position. You can make all of the decisions ahead of time, so they will not have to worry about it later on.

5. Peace of Mind:

Perhaps one of the most important benefits of preplanning is the peace of mind it can provide. Knowing that your funeral is taken care of ahead of time can give you a sense of relief and comfort. It can also ease any anxiety or worry you may have about what will happen after you die.

Preplanning your funeral may not be something you want to think about, but it is a good idea to consider nonetheless. It can provide many benefits for both you and your loved ones. If you have any questions or would like more information on preplanning, the planning directors at Tharp Funeral home can assist you. Make an appointment with a preplanning director today – it’s no cost to you.

Photos to Fingerprints: Unique Ways to Keep Your Loved Ones’ Memories Alive

Wed, 22 Jun 2022 04:00:00 GMT

When someone we love dies, it can feel like a part of us dies with them; what many of us don’t realize is that a part of them will live on forever – our memories of them. From a unique cologne that they wore, to their smile or laugh… or even their special way of looking at the world around them… here are some ways to keep the memories of your loved one alive and with you.

Fingerprint Jewelry

Have you ever heard the saying, “you leave your mark on everything you touch?” Well, that couldn’t be more true than when it comes to fingerprints. No two people have the same fingerprint – not even identical twins! So, why not wear your loved one’s fingerprint close to your heart in the form of beautiful jewelry? LegacyTouch keepsakes offer a variety of fingerprint jewelry, like dog tags and bracelets.

Photo Restoration and Preservation

A photo says a thousand words, but it also holds memories. If you’re lucky enough to have photos of your loved one why not have them restored or preserved? My Digital Memories is a husband-wife team who digitizes photos and organizes them in a way that is meaningful to you and your family.

Here are some tips recommended by My Digital Memories to organize and preserve your photos:

Create a Memory Box

Another way to keep the memories of your loved one alive is to create a memory box. This can be anything from a shoe box to a chest of drawers, and you can fill it with anything that reminds you of them. You could put in photos, items they used, letters they wrote, or even things that remind you of them.

A memory box is a great way to keep the memories of your loved one alive, and it can be something you can pass down to future generations.

Do you have any other ideas on how to keep the memories of your loved ones alive? We’d love to hear them in the comments below! And, if you’re looking for ways to memorialize your furry friend, check out our post on unique ways to memorialize your pet.

Professional death assistance? What you should know about End-of-Life-Doulas and how to plan for support

Wed, 25 May 2022 04:00:00 GMT

While death is inevitable, it is still something that many of us are uncomfortable talking about. This discomfort can make it difficult to know how to support a loved one who is dying. However, by reaching out to a professional end-of-life doula, you can ensure that your loved one has the support they need during this difficult time.

No matter what stage of grief a person is in surrounding their illness, it is important for them to have as much emotional, physical and spiritual support as they can get. And while this support usually comes from many angles including medical staff, family, friends, the funeral director, and the clergy… there is still sometimes a hole left that is not being filled… especially when friends and family are already coping with the anticipatory grief of their dying loved one.

That’s where end-of-life doulas come in. They are there to provide support in any way they can. These professionals are trained to provide physical, emotional, and spiritual support during the dying process. Also called death doulas or midwives, these individuals work with clients throughout their illness – from diagnosis through hospice care and beyond.

This may include helping to make arrangements, providing emotional comfort, or even just being present during the dying process. Death doulas are not medical professionals, so they cannot offer medical advice or perform any medical procedures. However, they can be a valuable resource for information and support .

Death doulas can help in a variety of ways, both big and small. Here are just a few examples:

As you can see, death doulas can provide invaluable support during one of the most difficult times in a person’s life.

The difference between funeral directors and death doulas

Funeral directors are an integral part of the death and final disposition process and are responsible for many of the logistics surrounding a death. They help with paperwork, cremation or burial arrangements, and provide support to the grieving family. But unless the family has preplanned, funeral directors don’t come into the picture until after death has occurred.

Death doulas, on the other hand, provide support throughout the dying process. They work with clients and their families from the time of diagnosis through hospice care and beyond. While funeral directors are an important part of the death industry, they cannot offer the same level of support as a death doula.

Can I preplan for a death doula?

If you are interested in having a death doula, the best time to start is before a diagnosis is made. This way, you can be sure that you have the support you need from the beginning of the process.

If you or a loved one has been diagnosed with a terminal illness, it’s not too late to reach out to a death doula. These professionals can provide support and guidance at any stage of the dying process.

If you’re interested in finding a death doula assistant, or if you want to start by preplanning your arrangements, set up a meeting with Tharp Funeral Home staff and they can help you locate a professional, trained doula.

What not to wear to a funeral and 7 other etiquette faux pas

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 04:00:00 GMT

Manners matter, especially when you’re attending a funeral. What you wear and say can make or break an already difficult situation. It can be nerve-wracking trying to follow etiquette rules that you don’t know or understand. Let’s go over some basic things you can keep in mind so you can feel comfortable and confident, and most importantly – be able to honor the deceased and their family.

From what not to wear to a funeral, to how to properly address the bereaved family, we have you covered!

What not to wear to a funeral

First and foremost, dress appropriately. This means no jeans, shorts, or tank tops. Instead, opt for dark, conservative clothing. Women should avoid wearing anything too revealing or flashy, and men should make sure their clothing is clean and wrinkle-free.

In addition to dressing conservatively, be sure to check the weather forecast before choosing your funeral outfit. You’ll want to dress comfortably for the occasion, but you don’t want to be caught in a downpour without an umbrella!

Other important things to keep in mind when choosing your funeral attire:

Check here for what to wear to a wake…

What if you don’t have black in your closet?

It’s OK not to wear black, but try to find something muted in color like gray, dark blues, or other neutral colors. Bright colors may bring more attention than you want, especially since the focus should be on the deceased, not what you’re wearing.

If you’re still unsure about what to wear, ask a friend or family member for their opinion. They can help you choose an outfit that is both respectful and stylish.

Now that we’ve covered what not to wear to a funeral, let’s move on to some other etiquette faux pas…

7 Etiquette Faux Pas to Avoid

1. Saying nothing at all

When paying your respects to the bereaved family, be sure to introduce yourself if you don’t know them well. If you’re at a loss for words, simply say something like “I’m so sorry for your loss.” It’s better to say something than nothing at all!

In addition, avoid making small talk or discussing anything unrelated to the funeral. This is not the time for idle chitchat – the family is grieving and your words should reflect that.

If you’re unsure what to say, simply offer your condolences and a hug. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words.

2. Coming across insensitive

When it’s time to say goodbye to the family, be sure to do so in a respectful manner. Avoid asking questions about how they are coping or making assumptions about their feelings. Instead, offer them words of support and let them know you’re there for them if they need anything.

A simple “thank you for having me” or “I’ll keep you in my thoughts” is usually sufficient. If you want to say more, you can always write a condolence letter to the family. This can be done before or after the funeral and is a great way to express your thoughts and feelings if you’re not comfortable doing so in person.

3. Arriving late

Arriving late can seem very disrespectful to the family. Aim to arrive early, instead. This gives you time to sign the guest book and say hello to close family members before finding your seat.

4. Sitting in the front row

And speaking of seats, try not to sit in the front row unless you’re part of the immediate family or very close friends with the deceased—it’s considered disrespectful to jump ahead in line.

5. Checking your phone

Avoid using your phone during the service, even if it’s just to check the time, or take photos.

6. Talking too much

Family members usually have a long line of people to talk to after the service. Avoid dominating their time and spending too much time with chit-chat. If you feel they need more from you, offer to help them find their seat or get them a glass of water.

7. Leaving before the end of the service

Unless you have a very good reason, try to stay until the end of the funeral. This shows respect for the deceased and gives you time to say goodbye to family members.

We hope this guide was helpful in understanding what not to wear to a funeral, and some other basic etiquette rules. Just remember – be respectful, be mindful of your words, and focus on honoring the deceased and their family. With these things in mind, you’ll be sure to make it through the funeral with grace and dignity.

And if all else fails, just ask a friend or family member for help! They’ll know what’s appropriate and will be more than happy to assist you. Thank you for reading. until next time!

Preserving memories: how to create a memorial website to honor your loved one

Tue, 01 Mar 2022 05:00:00 GMT

When a loved one dies, it is important to find ways to honor and remember them. One way to do this is by creating a memorial website. This can be a place for friends and family members to share memories and photos, and it can also act as a virtual shrine to the person who has passed away.

What is a memorial website?

A memorial website is essentially a living, digital memorial that is created to share memories, photos, and stories about the person who has passed away. It can also be used as a way to keep the person’s memory alive.

There are a variety of services available that allow you to create a memorial website, and many of them are free. Here are a few things to keep in mind when creating a memorial website:

Memorial websites can be therapeutic

Creating a memorial website can be a great way to honor your loved one’s memory, and it can also be therapeutic for those who are grieving. It can be a place to share stories and memories, and it can also be a way to connect with other people who are grieving.

If you are considering creating a memorial website, be sure to consult with friends and family members about what they would like to see included. You may also want to ask them for photos and videos to include on the website. The more input you get from others, the better your memorial website will be.

Memorial Website Options

Forevermissed.com

Mykeeper.com

Memories.net

Tips for maintaining and updating your loved one’s memorial website:

A memorial website can be like a digital time capsule , or it can be a place to keep a memory alive forever. It is up to you how often you want to update the site. You may want to add new photos or videos as you come across them, or you may want to wait until special occasions like anniversaries or holidays.

Creating a memorial website is a beautiful way to keep your loved one’s memory alive, and it can provide comfort and support to those who are grieving. At Tharp Funeral Home, we want to see you honor your loved ones in meaningful ways. Here are a few resources available to you to help you during your time of need:

10 Tips for Maintaining Healthy Relationships with Your Loved Ones After a Loss

Thu, 27 Jan 2022 05:00:00 GMT

You probably already know this, but grief can do really funny things to people. It can make them act impulsively, lash out in anger, or withdraw completely from the world. And in some cases, it can cause in-fighting among friends and loved ones.

It’s important to be patient with your loved ones during this time and to understand that their behavior is not necessarily a reflection of how they feel about you.

It is also important to realize that added stress put on your mind, heart, and body can actually draw out the healing process, causing increased grief and heartache, even pausing the natural process altogether.

Here are some tips for maintaining healthy relationships with your loved ones after a loss…

If you have any other tips for maintaining healthy relationships with your loved ones after a loss , please share them in the comments below. We would love to hear from you.

Caring for the grieving during the holidays: 5 ways to help

Wed, 08 Dec 2021 05:00:00 GMT

Decorating the tree, carving a turkey, or something as simple as a favorite holiday song can be difficult for many of us when we have lost someone in our lives that made it special. The holidays can bring a flare-up of sorrow, loneliness, anger, and other strong emotions.

It’s normal for grief to come in waves, and to feel heavier when we have so many memories tied to the things we hear, eat, smell, and see.

The grief of loss can sometimes be so overwhelming that a person may not want to celebrate or acknowledge the holidays at all. Recognizing the grieving and finding ways to help can ease the pain for your loved ones, and help them to begin healing.

Acknowledging the grief can be the first step to healing

Sorrow is a normal part of the healing process and can come at unexpected times or last for unknown amounts of time, depending on the person and situation. There are some cases when grief can last so long that it deserves professional help, like seeing a therapist. See the signs of “complicated grief” here.

The good news is that friends and family can help.

But first, it’s important to know and understand what your loved one may be going through. Here are some ways that grief professionals and physicians recommend that the bereaved help themselves heal:

If you are close to the bereaved, you can encourage these actions in your loved one, by just being there and not ignoring the hurt.

Here are some other ways that professionals recommend for you to help the grieving during difficult times.

Grief Support Groups at Tharp Funeral Home

Tharp Funeral Home grief professionals offer a variety of weekly and monthly grief support groups, including a New Beginnings luncheon. See the full list of events here.

Beyond Thanksgiving: the mental, emotional and physical benefits of habitual gratitude

Mon, 15 Nov 2021 05:00:00 GMT

With the coming of Thanksgiving and “National Gratitude Month,” it’s easy to be thankful in November. But what most of us don’t think about is the year-round physical, mental and emotional benefits of habitual gratitude.

Gratitude isn’t just saying “thank you”, it’s holding space for appreciation when thinking about all the things you have in life. It’s realizing when we have things others don’t, even if those things aren’t perfect. It’s showing kindness to others, and practicing empathy. It’s choosing the positive over the negative.

Many believe that gratitude is the foundation of other positive character traits, like joy and delight, and benefits not just our mental health but physical health as well.

The foundation of gratitude is a wellspring for abundance.

Scientist Robert Emmons of the University of California, David, has been studying gratitude for years and has written several books on the subject. According to Emmons, gratitude comes in two parts: “First, it’s an affirmation of goodness. We affirm that there are good things in the world, gifts and benefits we’ve received… The second part of gratitude is figuring out where that goodness comes from. We recognize the sources of this goodness as being outside of ourselves.”

But not only is gratitude an essential characteristic of a kind or loving person, it is also scientifically proven to create more joy, less depression and anxiety, and to have lasting effects on our brains.

Here are 13 scientifically-proven benefits of practicing gratitude:

So, want to be happier, less depressed, and keep yourself from complaining so much? Let’s take a look at how to recognize the good and give thanks.

Gratitude practices for a happier, healthier life

Gratitude doesn’t always come naturally. Maybe that’s why so many of us love to celebrate Thanksgiving and embrace November as National Gratitude Month – because it reminds us all of how fortunate we really are, and to be grateful for the people in our lives.

To put things in perspective, it might help to think about the opposite of gratitude, which is the state of being ungrateful, unappreciative, thankless, inconsiderate, rude, thoughtless, or disregarding what you have. None of us want to be treated that way, so it’s even more important that we consider how we treat others.

Thankfully, gratitude is like a muscle memory; once we begin to strengthen our “gratitude muscle” it will have lasting effects on our daily lives. Here are 3 exercises recommended by scientists and psychologists on gratitude that endures…

1. Recognize something good in every situation

A glass of water, a sunny afternoon, salt on your table… from the mundane things we experience every day, to the more unusual or even unpleasant experiences like getting sick, or getting a last-minute cancelation for a dinner party you were preparing for; recognizing the good is more than just a feeling, it is a trait of a grateful lifestyle.

2. Say thank you out loud

From childhood, most of us are taught to say “please” and “thank you”, but this practice is not as common among adults.

In a study by the John Templeton Foundation, the most common thing that Americans are grateful for is family. And while 90% of Americans report being grateful for their families, only about 45% say “thanks” aloud on a regular basis. But the art of gratitude is more than a common courtesy, and there are no bounds to who, what, or how you express it.

In another study by Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, people were reporting that saying “thank you” out loud not only made them smile for a moment, but also “made their whole day glorious.”

3. Gratitude journaling

There are several methods that scientists and psychologists have used to study the long-term effects of gratitude, and one of those is called gratitude journaling.

In the same study by the Greater Good Science Center, the longer that people would regularly journal their gratitude, the more they felt a positive impact, reporting that they felt less lonely and more satisfied with life in general.

Many people journal publicly on their social media profiles in the month of November. But remember, this is a lifelong journey to strengthen your gratitude muscle, so you can journal publicly or privately, any time of year. It is recommended to not only write down what you are grateful for, but also how you feel after expressing it!

Gratitude Resources

Virtual funerals, etiquette and grieving: 16 steps to healing

Wed, 15 Sep 2021 04:00:00 GMT

It’s no secret that virtual meetings have taken our world by storm since the appearance of COVID-19. While virtual streaming services have been around for years, many families are choosing to limit in-person funeral services to immediate family and putting the rituals online so friends and family can participate safely.

But celebrating and grieving the loss of a loved one can be difficult over a computer screen, leaving us feeling awkward and confused, and for some, lonely and without closure. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be that way.

Here are 16 steps to virtual funerals, etiquette, and grieving:

When coping with death, it’s not uncommon to feel uneasy and nervous. Not only are we grieving, but we are having to navigate the world around us – and in the post-covid days that includes using technology in new ways. This guide is meant to make it a little easier to navigate the questions, to help those dealing with loss to focus on healing , even if it’s on a little computer screen.

Start your ritual early

Whether the services have been moved online, or if you just can’t make it in person, treat the virtual services as the real deal. Prepare yourself early, both mentally and physically, by dressing your best and choosing a comfortable and appropriate location so you can be both mentally and physically present. Since you won’t have to drive anywhere, use the extra time to think about your loved one. You can have your own healing rituals at home, in your own space and time.

Prepare some words of healing for yourself and the surviving family

At a traditional funeral, it isn’t always possible to share your own tribute, but with virtual funerals, it should be a focus of the participants to be able to share stories, pictures, and remembrances. This is your opportunity to offer the family words that have the power to mend.

Silence everything around you

Your cell phone and TV are obvious, but you should think about creating a space of complete solitude. If you have young children, you will need to get them proper care if they are too young or if you do not feel it would be appropriate for them to participate. While this is a decision for parents and caregivers alone to make, many people decide to wait until children are 7 or older, depending on the relationship to the deceased, their maturity level and whether or not they express that they want to attend.

Follow basic Zoom/Streaming etiquette

While many employers have gone virtual, so have families that have taken birthday parties, holidays, and anniversaries online; and most of us have a basic understanding of Zoom, Google Meet, and other software options. But it is important to follow some basic guidelines of etiquette during virtual meetings, including:

Not only will these guidelines keep other people from getting distracted, but this is how you can show the family the maximum amount of respect and love.

Simply be present

Virtual funerals are challenging, there is simply no way around that. It takes extra patience and focus to be mentally present online. But ironically this is also the most important thing you can do for yourself and the grieving family. Pay close attention, think about the life of your loved one or friend, and honor them with your sincerity.

Reach out to others afterward

It can be hard to connect with people through a virtual event, that’s why it’s of utmost importance to reach out and talk to people. If you can’t see them in person, talk to them over Zoom or through a phone call, and avoid a text-only conversation. It is also important to reach out to the grieving family in the days to come and offer your support through favors, food, or just words of kindness.

Nothing can, or ever will, replace in-person gatherings where we are able to see each other physically, offer a warm embrace or just simple words of kindness. But we can make the most of our virtual world and help each other heal, even from a distance.

Meet a Planning Director at Tharp Funeral Home

The professional and caring staff at Tharp Funeral Home can help your family with all of your questions and guide you to make the choices right for you. To schedule a planning session, simply choose a location and we will help you pick a day and time that works best for you.

Grief in children: colorful ways to help children deal with life and death

Wed, 28 Jul 2021 04:00:00 GMT

New Ownership at Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory

Wed, 26 May 2021 04:00:00 GMT

Murrell W. Thornhill IV New Co-Owner with Chris Tharp

For Immediate Release

Lynchburg, VA: Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory, Inc. announced today that Murrell W. Thornhill IV has become an owner of the company.

Thornhill started in the industry at Community Funeral Home in Lynchburg, the first African American-owned funeral home in Lynchburg, established in 1946 by his grandfather, M. W. “Teedy” Thornhill, Jr., who also served as Lynchburg’s first Black mayor in 1990. Murrell Thornhill joined Tharp Funeral Home in 2014 and has served as Location Manager for the Lynchburg facility which is home to the company’s administrative offices, chapel, visitation rooms, and a cremation facility.

Thornhill stated: “Growing up and working with my Grandfather in a family funeral home, I know how that informs the way we treat the families we help – it’s a family serving family focus that puts the client’s needs first and foremost. When I decided to make a change, joining Tharp – another family-run funeral home with the same shared values I grew up with – it was an easy and obvious choice and it’s been a wonderful fit.”

Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory was established in Bedford in 1961, by Glenn W. Tharp, the grandfather of Chris Tharp, who has been owner and president for over a decade. Under his leadership, the business has grown to have multiple locations across Central Virginia, including two on-site crematories.

Of the new ownership arrangement, Co-Owner Chris Tharp said: “Murrell is, quite frankly, the best funeral director and manager I have ever worked with and I couldn’t be happier to move forward with him as my business partner and co-owner.” Co-owner Thornhill added, “Having two third-generation family funeral professionals, one white and one Black, come together as co-owners to serve our community is historic in our region, especially given the history of racial segregation in the funeral business.”

About Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory, Inc.

Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory is the most often-selected funeral home in Central Virginia and one of the fastest-growing funeral businesses in the state. With offices in Lynchburg, Bedford, Madison Heights, Smith Mountain Lake and Roanoke, the company offers comprehensive funeral, pre-planning and cremation services. Founded in 1961, the company currently employs 63 people and assists over 800 families annually.

Financial Assistance for COVID Related Funerals Available April 12

Wed, 07 Apr 2021 04:00:00 GMT

For families who have lost someone due to COVID-19 last year, there may be financial assistance available to help pay for funeral expenses through the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA). FEMA will begin accepting applications through their dedicated call center starting Monday, April 12th.

The stimulus package passed last December called The Consolidated Appropriations Act 2020 includes $2 Billion specifically to be able to provide funding for Covid related funeral expenses.

Here’s what potential applicants need to know:

Who is Eligible to Apply for Funeral Assistance from FEMA?

There are minimal eligibility guidelines to get FEMA reimbursement for funeral expenses. The death has to be in the United States and is attributed to COVID-19. Here are the specific details from the FEMA website :

Applying for Funeral Benefits from FEMA

Starting April 12th at 9am Eastern, FEMA will begin accepting applications on their toll-free hotline at 844-684-6333 . Hours of operation are Monday through Friday 9:00 am – 9:00 pm Eastern Time.

In order to apply for benefits, families will need to have an official death certificate, funeral expense documents such as the invoice, and proof of funds that may have been received from other sources – like burial insurance, veterans benefits, etc.

Families can get a copy of the death certificate from the state or county vital records office. For those who no longer have documentation of funeral expenses, try requesting a copy of the invoice from the funeral home.

View the FEMA Covid-19 Pre-Call Checklist Here

Go to the FEMA websit e here

For further assistance or questions, contact Tharp Funeral Home at 434-237-9424 .

The Benefits of Creative Therapy for Grief

Mon, 08 Feb 2021 05:00:00 GMT

Grief is heavy. Every one of us – no matter where we are in life – will at some point come face to face with the seriousness of grief. Unattended grief can manifest as physical sickness, depression, anger and can affect us in a wide variety of other ways, so it is important to give grief the support and attention it needs.

There are many healthy techniques for dealing with grief – such as talking to friends, joining a support group, prayer and worship, meditation, even exercising and other self-care activities. But many people don’t realize that creativity is also one of the most influential ways to deal with your inner emotions.

Creative activities like journaling, coloring and painting, poetry and even singing or dancing can be extremely healing during the toughest times.

The “Next Right Thing”

Focusing on creative therapy doesn’t mean pretending to be healed, or that you will suddenly be done grieving. Healing is a journey that takes time – and sometimes the best thing you can do is to anchor yourself on one page at a time.

In Frozen 2, Elsa’s younger sister Anna has to face the darkest moment in their journey to save Arendelle. Left alone in a dark cave that seems completely hopeless, Anna believes that her sister and their magical snowman, Olaf, are gone forever. In her darkest moment, she sings ‘The Next Right Thing’… here is an excerpt:

This grief has a gravity, it pulls me down
But a tiny voice whispers in my mind
You are lost, hope is gone
But you must go on
And do the next right thing

By focusing on what’s right in front of you, on your next move, you will be able to move through your grief. With art, all you can do is focus on one piece at a time – there’s no way to see the finished product – just like each day.

Benefits of Creative Therapy

Since the beginning of recorded history people have turned to song, dance, painting, and many other mediums as a means to heal.

Now, science has given us more definitive reasons why art therapy is so beneficial. Studies from the National Institute of Health show that listening to music, painting and drawing are powerful enough to reduce anxiety as well as process feelings that cannot be put into words. Other benefits of all types of art therapy include:

Don’t Think, Color

Regardless of artistic skill, anybody can enjoy the benefits of art therapy. In some ways, coloring a page in a book can be more relaxing than looking at a blank canvas. By eliminating some of the decisions, you can focus on the calming action of coloring one piece at a time. It can also be helpful to keep a blank page nearby to write down thoughts or feelings as they surface.

Healing by Design

Download Healing by Design: a Keepsake Activity Journal for Adults

Understanding Veterans Burial Benefits

Wed, 13 Jan 2021 05:00:00 GMT

The brave men and women of the military have done us all a great service. The very least we can do to show our appreciation is to offer them the peace of mind that their families won’t suffer financial hardship because of their passing.

Dying can get expensive, the average funeral in the US costs between $7,000 and $12,000 dollars. Thankfully, as one last thank you for their service to veterans and their families, the VA provides burial allowances when a veteran passes.

Let’s break it down and see what benefits are available and who is eligible.

Veterans Burial Allowances

When burying a veteran in a national cemetery, the VA veterans burial allowance provides funds for the following expenses:

The maximum burial allowance offered for veterans who died a service-connected death on or after September 11, 2001 is $2,000. Veterans who died a non-service-connected death on or after October 1, 2020 are eligible for up to $300 burial allowance and $807 for the plot. If the veteran died a non-service-connected death in a VA hospital on or after October 1, 2020, they are eligible for an $807 burial allowance and another $807 for the plot. A headstone or marker allowance may also be provided.

Families have 2 years after a non-service-connected death to file for the burial allowance. There is no time limit for those who died a service-connected death.

The maximum allowable amounts have been slowly increasing. The VA site offers more information on allowable amounts for past years and application information.

The BRAVE Act Benefits

The BRAVE Act is an important piece of legislation just recently signed into law by President Trump in January 2021.

You may have noticed from the previous section that veterans who died a non-service-connected death in a VA hospital receive a higher allowance than those who died elsewhere. The BRAVE Act eliminates this inequity and allows all veterans who die a non-service-connected death to receive the same allowance, regardless of the location of their death.

Who Qualifies for Veterans Burial Benefits?

So, which veterans qualify for burial benefits? The short answer is anyone paying the burial expenses of a veteran and is not being reimbursed by some other government agency is eligible. To get more specific, though, you’ve got to go deeper. There is a list of requirements that applicants must meet in order to receive the benefits.

For example, the applicant must be serving a professional role as an executor or administrator of the veteran’s estate or be one of the following relations:

Additionally, the veteran must meet certain requirements at the time of their death in order for their family to be eligible.

First, they must be a veteran, which means they are not still active duty. For obvious reasons, they must not have received a dishonorable discharge. (If their discharge status is changed to something other than dishonorable posthumously, family members then become eligible to apply for the allowance). Additionally, if the veteran was serving as a member of Congress, or serving a federal prison sentence at the time of death, they are not eligible.

In general, the veteran must have been receiving a VA pension or be eligible for it even if they chose military retirement instead or receiving care in a VA facility.

How To Apply for Veterans Burial Benefits

Surviving spouses generally do not need to make a claim for the veterans’ burial allowance. If they are listed as the veteran’s spouse in the veteran’s paperwork, the burial allowance will automatically be issued.

If you do not receive your allowance or are a different type of family member, you will need to apply for benefits. You can easily apply online. Make sure you have the following paperwork available:

The statement of account must contain the following information:

If you’d like to apply by mail instead, you can use this form and mail it to your nearest regional VA office.

Services and Discounts for Veterans Offered by the Funeral Home

It’s also important to check with the assisting funeral home. Some businesses will offer extra discounts or benefits as a way of showing their appreciation for veterans and their sacrifices. Here at Tharp Funeral Home, we’ve always had a special place in our hearts for the needs of veterans. Our founder, Glenn Tharp, was a veteran of World War II, serving under Patton and receiving the Silver Star and Purple Heart.

We will work with you to make sure you receive the best care and all of the benefits available to you. A Veteran’s funeral service may be eligible for a number of benefits provided by both Tharp Funeral Home and the V.A.

Lastly, many local organizations offer burial benefits for veterans. It doesn’t hurt to check around and see what is available to help ease the financial burden of your loved one’s passing.

About Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory

Saying goodbye is not easy. The good news is that there are options to help cover funeral expenses for your beloved veteran. Reach out to us today to learn more about our compassionate funeral care for veterans.

How (and Why!) to Write Your Own Obituary

Wed, 04 Nov 2020 05:00:00 GMT

If you’ve ever had to write an obituary for a loved one, you know what an intimidating responsibility it can be—to try to sum up someone’s life on a piece of paper is nothing short of profound. To ease the difficulty during the period of loss, many individuals are choosing to write their own obituaries—a task that can feel difficult, but it can also be a very meaningful activity that can be revisited from time to time. So, with great respect, here are some basic instructions on how to write your own obituary.

The difference between an obituary and a death notice

Don’t confuse an obituary with a death notice – a death notice simply announces the passing and informs the public of the funeral, memorial, or celebration of life services. The obituary should be more of a true tribute, a chance for you to share about your interests, accomplishments, and a list of your surviving family members. And speaking practically, it would not be possible to pre-write a death notice other than to share your location preference for the funeral.

Getting Started Writing Your Own Obituary

If you open your local newspaper, you may find that the obituaries are a mix of short, simplified biographies, followed by the death notice information including their surviving family members and service information. You want your obituary experience to be unique, so you may not want to follow the traditional format found in newspapers and obituary websites.

One of the personal benefits of writing your own obituary is that it can be a powerful self-discovery activity, one that is both therapeutic and personally challenging. You have the opportunity to give others a glimpse of the person you really are, and it can also be a legacy you can pass onto your children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

To make your obituary as unique as you are, it may help to read other thoughtful, clever, or even humorous notices from others who decided to write their own obituaries before they died. Do a quick Google search for unique obituaries or go to your local bookstore to find compilations of memorable obituaries that you might enjoy reading.

Writing your own obituary should be a unique experience, and you may not want to follow someone else’s format. However, here are some basic elements that you can include to get you started:

Journaling Prompts to Inspire your Obituary

Your obituary can frame for others how you wish to be remembered. This could be your personality, devotion to family, or your work as a volunteer. Beyond achievements, it can also show your unique qualities as a person. It really can be whatever you want it to be.

Here are some writing prompts to help with inspiration. You can use these to journal first, and then decide if you want to include them later.

Why I did …

This could be anything you’ve done in your life that you want to remember, such as joining the military, choosing a specific career path, living in a foreign country, or quite the opposite—choosing to never leave your hometown.

My life was special because …

What events in your life made it extra special? Was it a wonderful spouse, having a dozen grandchildren, being part of a special church or community group or learning a unique trade?

I wish I had/hadn’t …

What do you wish you had (or had not!) tried? Maybe it was something you were afraid of, like skydiving or taking a hot air balloon ride, or maybe you wish you’d never moved away from the city you lived in when you were 30. Why is this important to you?

Use these prompts to get your creativity flowing. Write down memories of people, places, and experiences. You don’t have to decide what’s in your obituary, just write freely. You might even decide to write a memoir out of it!

Funeral Services Can Provide Closure for your Family

Just like writing a eulogy or being part of a funeral service, it is important that your family takes steps to grieve after you pass. Receiving sympathy and love from others at a memorial service, for example, can be an important part of what is called the “acute loss period” of grief. Remember, the funeral services are really about the people left behind after you pass, to help them grieve, get support, and find closure.

In the decades of service that we have provided to area families at Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory, something we have never heard a family say is, “I wish my dad had NOT preplanned.”

So, while you are writing your obituary, take the opportunity to have a special talk with your loved ones to explain to them your wishes—and allow them some time to express their wishes of how they would like to honor you after you pass. This can help relieve your loved ones of a tremendous burden after you have passed.

Other Steps in Making Advanced Arrangements

Now that you have some direction on writing your own obituary, you can start the process today. If you want to go beyond this first big step in easing your family’s burden when you pass, you can learn about the complete pre-planning process.

Tharp Funeral Home offers free virtual preplanning webinars . This allows you to take control of your entire funeral process and eases the burden on your family. We also have several planning guides available, including a preplanning guide , cremation guide and even an end of life, estate planning guide .

And as always, we have dedicated preplanning funeral directors at each of our Tharp locations ready to answer any questions you may have!

Food and Feelings: the effects of comfort foods during stress

Wed, 30 Sep 2020 04:00:00 GMT

It’s no wonder that food is tied to so many of our emotions – the brain is the central hub to all of our senses, taste and smell included. When we experience the stress of losing a loved one, our physiological needs change. Our brains are under attack, and so is our appetite.

Understanding our physiological needs during stress

Adrenaline is the body’s first response.

Emotional stress can begin immediately after bereavement and can leave you feeling anxious, tired, or even give you flu-like symptoms, like muscle and bellyaches. It can feel like someone punched you in the stomach, took all of your oxygen away, and there is nothing you can do about it.

The immediate and intense stress can send the body into fight-or-flight mode, using adrenaline as your body’s method of protecting itself from a perceived threat, and shutting down your appetite for a period of time. Digestion literally slows down.

The job of the adrenaline is to speed up the heart rate, blood circulation, breathing, and give you more energy. But this is only the body’s first reaction to shock.

Cortisol solves for appetite loss.

After the initial shock, there will be ongoing stress and anxiety to deal with. As a response to the adrenaline, your body sends out the hormone cortisol to level out your heart rate and help your body get what it needs to continue to survive. That means it’s going to crave and store fat. This is where some people under stress start to gain pounds.

But eating won’t look quite normal again for a while.

When we eat, we can generally differentiate between flavors – sweet, sour, bitter, salty and savory. We can even sense the presence of fat. But it isn’t the food or the taste buds that are responsible for all of the flavors; our sense of taste is created in our brains, just like the sense of smell and touch. And when our brain is under emotional attack from the shock of losing someone important to our lives, then our taste buds are under attack, too.

In other words, as cortisol is released and as our bodies go through hormonal changes, our taste buds become a target.

It is for that reason that they say grief begins in the mouth. It really begins in the brain, but the mouth is the first place that grief and flavor collide. So, while food can be one of the most passionate experiences in life, when affected by sadness or shock, the intensity of the experience can be completely diminished. And our taste buds are rendered useless.

Well, not totally useless. Only for the sour, bitter, salty, savory… leaving the two main comfort cousins of food: sugar and fat.

Welcoming the comfort cravings can give

Remember that the human body uses hormones to protect itself. So, our cravings for sugar and fat are a natural response to keep us alive. While this may not be a healthy long-term solution for stress, fat- and sugar-filled foods are proven to subdue our stress-related emotions (according to Harvard).

Some of the most common foods found at funeral receptions include fried chicken, salty ham biscuits and gooey sheet cakes with frosting. In truth, it’s ok to indulge, enjoy, and focus on your healing. This stage of grief is not the time to count calories, worry about the fat, or avoid carbs and sugar. Amazingly, these stress-induced cravings may temporarily help reduce stress. And comfort foods will most definitely help give you some enjoyment and relief.

Providing comfort food to the grieving

The grieving may not remember what they ate, but they will remember who was there. Here are some resources for you to use when your friends and family lose someone they love, or are going through emotional stress for any reason:

“How can I feed them?” 23 food delivery ideas for the bereaved

Fri, 28 Aug 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Food brings comfort to those who are recovering. And there are simple ways to be prepared for meal deliveries when families need it the most.

Choosing the right meal train recipes

Here are 6 things to keep in mind when you are choosing your meal train recipes:

23 Meal Train Food Ideas

Chicken

Pork

Beef

Sides

Dessert

The job of the cake is to bring everyone together – because the cake is shared together through equal portions, it symbolizes unity and the breaking of boundaries.

Other Ideas

4 Easy Condolence Recipes + Printable Meal Cards

Fri, 07 Aug 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Food is not only a necessity, but it also brings comfort to our friends and loved ones who are recovering. Whether it’s a food train, helping with the reception, or an individual effort to contribute, food is a deeply meaningful and integral part of the community’s effort to aid those in distress.

“What we really want to do, intend to do, is to deliver a dish that is wholesome, satisfying and, most of all, enjoyable. Something that will be truly appreciated and do what we mean it to – provide comfort, show kindness and hopefully bring some joy.” – Perre Coleman Magness, The Southern Sympathy Cookbook

Here are simple ways to be prepared for meal deliveries when families fall on hard times:

“Because I love food gifting, it’s become kind of second nature for me to make an extra casserole and freeze it, or double my batch and send on the extras. I don’t like to wait until something tragic has happened, I send food out all year round.” – Kristina

Cheez-It Chicken

“My mom made this growing up, that was before gluten was a thing, before we watched every carb and ID’d the fat type of food. Of course, it’s not deep fried or dripping with bacon fat, so all in all it’s a pretty lean and healthier choice of comfort food – but still extremely satisfying. It’s like snacking on your own dinner. Also a good one for the kids.” – Aaron

Crush up the cheez-its and mix it with the garlic salt and panko. Dry off the chicken pieces and dip them in the ranch, then cover with the dry mix. Place on a baking sheet or in a glass pan. Bake at 375 for 20-25 minutes.

Serve with the leftover ranch dressing or BBQ sauce. Good sides include corn or mashed potatoes.

Cheez-It Chicken Printable Meal + Condolence Card

“Day 3” Tea Room Pasta Salad

“I got this recipe from a fundraiser cookbook that was published 20 years ago. Originally, it was stolen from a tea room, and when they found out they were pretty upset… the fundraising committee had to remove that recipe from all the remaining cookbooks before they were sold. Luckily I got to keep my copy!” – Dawn

Mix 1 cup buttermilk with 1 package of ranch dressing and set in the fridge. Prepare pasta and let cool. Mix in the sour cream and coat well. Sprinkle garlic salt and Salad Supreme. Add onion, celery, Parmesan cheese, and drained chicken and olives. Mix well. Stir in ranch dressing; chill the salad in the fridge. Salad is good right away, but best on day 3.

“Day 3 Pasta Salad” Printable Meal + Condolence Card

Taco soup

Combine and mix all ingredients. Bring to a boil; reduce heat and simmer for 20 minutes. Serve with tortilla chips, cheese, sour cream, etc.

Taco Soup Printable Meal + Condolence Card

Layered, Baked Spaghetti

1 lb ground beef
1 chopped onion
1 chopped green pepper
1 chopped red pepper
5 garlic cloves, crushed
1 box spaghetti noodles (can substitute gluten free)
1 jar spaghetti sauce
Large bag of Mozzarella cheese
1 cup Parmesan cheese
Italian seasoning
1 Tbsp honey

Cook the spaghetti. Saute the onion and peppers in light oil for 3 minutes; add the garlic and saute for 1 more minute. Add the ground beef and cook through; drain. Add the sauce, honey and a large pinch of Italian seasoning and cook on low until heated through. Mix the mozzarella with half of the Parmesan cheese. Layer the sauce, noodles and mozzarella two times, leaving ¼ of the sauce and mozzarella to layer on top. Finish it with ½ cup parmesan. Bake at 350 for 20 minutes.

Layered Baked Spaghetti Printable Meal + Condolence Card

Have your own meal to put on a card?

Here are some blank “Thinking of You” Cards to print and put on any meal!

Blank Meal + Condolence Card

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Grief Rituals that Overcome COVID Limitations

Thu, 16 Jul 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Healthy grief cycles are tied to healthy funeral rituals. Remembering the person who died, accepting the reality of death, and receiving love and support from others are all part of a grief cycle that leads to healing for those who are left behind. The human need to mourn is met by funeral rituals because they provide a time and a place for us to go through different stages of grief.

But with COVID-19 limitations, our social rituals have had to change and so have traditional funerals. From group sizes to service locations and physical contact, there are many factors to consider when planning for funeral and memorial services.

Here are a few of the ways the coronavirus pandemic has affected our grief rituals:

But despite the limitations, families that have faced loss are choosing new and different ways to mourn that can ultimately lead to healing .

People who are facing loss need to experience support from others, and they also need a way to reflect and celebrate their loved one’s life:

Has COVID Changed our Grief Rituals?

Just as each person, each relationship and each circumstance are different – not everyone’s grief rituals look the same. While some families want to say goodbye with an open casket, some want to scatter the body’s cremains in a way that was meaningful to their memory.

Grief rituals can be as special as the honor and love you feel for your loved one and as unique as the life that they lived. From live-streamed indoor services to drive-thru casket viewings, there is no lack of creative and personalized options for funeral and memorial services.

Here are a handful of alternative service ideas that other families have used since COVID has impacted our’ ability to be together in the traditional funeral setting:

For many families, technology has been the silver living that opened the door to many new opportunities to connect virtually from anywhere – even from the safety of our own homes. Families are celebrating life right ceremonies like birthdays, anniversaries – and even funerals – through live group meetings on Zoom or BlueJeans apps. Services all over the world are being broadcast live on Facebook, Vimeo, and being permanently stored on the web for later viewing.

Opportunities to connect are greater than they ever have been, even if it looks and feels different than before. Families should consider taking advantage of technology to celebrate the life of those who have passed and help each other through the healing journey.

Sharing through Virtual Tributes

Virtual opportunities give us the ability to share photos, recordings and videos of our loved ones, creating everlasting tributes of their lives. Here are some places that other families have taken advantage of technology to create virtual tributes:

Are these Changes to Grief Rituals Permanent?

Although grief rituals may not be what they once were, it is important to remember why we have them: to recognize and celebrate life, and ultimately to begin healing. And although some of our traditions may have changed and evolved permanently, the experience can be deeply meaningful and unforgettable.

Tharp Funeral Home Helps Families Grieve

At Tharp Funeral Home, our mission is to help families with the healing cycle through funeral and celebration arrangements . For help on understanding grief rituals and COVID limitations, please schedule a meeting with a director here , or call us at 434-237-9424 . We serve Central Virginia families in and around Lynchburg, Bedford, and Roanoke.

Photo credited to Tharp Funeral Home outdoor service that used an FM transmitter

Covid-19 Funerals: guidance for individuals and families

Thu, 18 Jun 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Funeral rituals have taken a new direction in order to slow the spread of the coronavirus. Group guidelines and physical interaction are two elements that are most affected by social distancing.

Many families are asking what their options are for either planning or attending funerals with all of these changes. People are asking questions like: What are the specific guidelines you will be asked to follow? What are the potential risks? How are you supposed to act while around others? And most importantly, how can you participate in the grieving process even with the regulations in place?

Here are some answers to some of your most important questions about funeral services. We hope that it will be helpful to you during this time.

Am I at risk if I go to a funeral for someone who died of COVID-19?

As far as we know from the information provided by the CDC, you are not at risk of catching COVID-19 from a deceased body that tested positive for the disease. At Tharp Funeral Home, we recommend that you follow social distancing recommendations, like keeping 6 feet of separation and wearing a mask at funeral gatherings just like you would at any other gathering.

Is there special funeral handling for people who died from Coronavirus?

Yes, funeral homes are under specific guidance from the CDC about how to handle individuals that are a known or suspected COVID-19 case. Medical examiners, morticians and embalmers have specific PPE recommendations that they follow as well based on these guidelines.

Can someone who died from Coronavirus be buried?

Yes, anyone who has died from Coronavirus can be either buried or cremated, depending on the family’s wishes.

What are my funeral options during COVID-19?

Immediate family members still have all the same service rights and options for celebrating their loved one’s lives as they did pre-pandemic, although there may be some adjustments to the size and density of public gatherings.

My loved one preplanned their services before they died. Do I have to change their wishes?

No, you do not have to change the wishes of a loved one during this time. We encourage you to discuss all options with your funeral director.

What does a safe funeral service look like?

At Tharp Funeral Home, we want to offer a safe and caring environment for grieving families. We recommend that you discuss the size and format of your funeral so that social distancing practices are taken into consideration. In some cases, funeral rites and rituals may need modification.

What is a Zoom funeral?

A Zoom funeral is a service that is streamed live over the internet so that friends and family can watch from the safety of their own homes. Zoom is only one method of streaming live services. At Tharp Funeral Home, we offer live-streamed services over a variety of platforms and methods.

Do I have to wear a face mask?

Guests are asked to wear a mask in accordance with the Commonwealth of Virginia’s department of health’s recommendation. However, the final decision on this is up to the individual. For more information about Executive Order 65, please visit the Virginia Governor’s website.

Can I give hugs or shake hands after the service?

At this time, we ask that you refrain from physical condolences such as hugs or handshakes. We ask that you practice social distancing and wave or nod as a way to share comfort with one another.

Can my children attend any of the services?

Yes, children are welcome to the funeral home for services and visitations. Children are counted in gatherings just as adults are. As a parent, you might want to talk to your children about hugging and distance protocols as you see fit.

How many people can be in attendance?

Per Virginia’s recommendations, churches and funeral homes may operate at 50% capacity, and gatherings are limited to 50 people or less.

How am I supposed to act at a funeral with Coronavirus regulations?

Grief is grief, and no two people grieve the same way. There are many different ways that you can cope with grief even at a service with regulations. Take part in something that has meaning to you that is in memory of the loved one that you have lost.

If the service is virtual, you can share stories and photos through video chats, email messages, or even mailed letters. You can have virtual meetings with your faith-based leaders and/or counselor, see grief counseling services, and attend support groups.

How is the grieving process affected by the COVID-19 regulations?

The biggest challenge for families is that grief does not wait for the coronavirus lockdown to be lifted. Families continue to experience their loss in the same manner. At Tharp Funeral Home, we work hard to give healthy options for processing grief despite the changes in public services.

Funeral Services that Heal

At Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory, we are committed to helping families like yours to have the services that your loved one deserved. We want you to be able to participate in sharing, celebrating, and supporting each other. For more information on how we can help, please call 434-237-9424 .

For more information on grieving in a time of social distancing, read this article on 5 healthy steps forward.

Grieving in a Time of Social Distancing: 5 Healthy Steps Forward

Tue, 28 Apr 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Funeral services can be a definitive moment to say goodbye, to share stories, and find relief. But grieving in a time of social distancing brings its own unprecedented challenges. Under the current restrictions, we’re faced with social distancing, isolation, and shifting expectations. Although it may feel discouraging, it is possible to discover creative ways to remain connected and move forward.

The truth is we can postpone some plans – but there’s no such thing as postponing grief. There’s no magic button to press for fast forward, rewind, or pause. We cannot put it off and expect to have a healthy grief cycle.

For now, it’s still important to come together as a family. Private services, virtual services, and closed-circuit connections are some of the ways to begin a healthy grief cycle.

5 Steps to Begin Grieving Now

Grief rituals can take many different forms and can be both personal and spiritual in nature. Tharp Funeral Home is taking precautions to ensure that we can still grieve in healthy ways, without having to postpone all services. Here’s a list of 5 steps forward:

1. Have a small ceremony now, and a larger service later.

In order to begin grieving right away, many families are planning small gatherings immediately but waiting on larger ceremonies later. You may want to consider planning a modified ceremony now and additional service or gathering to commemorate your loved one in a more public, community-centered way.

2. Make arrangements remotely.

Arrangements can be made entirely from the comfort and safety of your home. You can speak one-on-one or set up a conference call or virtual meeting for multiple members of the family. Documents can be shared electronically, as well.

3. Live streaming and recorded services.

By leveraging technology, there are creative ways to connect your family to these services. You can choose to live stream and/or record the event and a link to the recording can then be hosted on our obituary page and sent to your family via email.

4. Sharing stories virtually.

Reminiscing about the life and legacy of our loved ones is such an integral part of the grieving process. If it’s not possible to come together physically, these stories can be written and collected, then read by one family member during a funeral service. Families can also come together virtually and take turns sharing their memories over video conferencing.

5. Holding a wake while maintaining social distance.

At this time, the number of guests in attendance at a wake is restricted. However, many funeral homes have additional staff on-site to direct guests to separate areas of their facilities so that a memorial can continue to be held while maintaining social distancing. Through closed-circuit systems, guests can even remain connected in a safe manner.

We have made a list of seven therapeutic rituals that can help you take control of your grief. Get our list of grief rituals here.

The truth is – no matter how you choose to do it, finding a unique way to pay tribute to your loved one brings resolution and comfort for all of their family and friends. Choose something that they would have loved and you will be well on your way to a fitting celebration of life event. Learn more about a Celebration of Life ritual.

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to give us a call. We’re here for you: (434) 237-9424 .

Funeral Services During COVID-19: Frequently Asked Questions

Wed, 22 Apr 2020 04:00:00 GMT

At Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory, the safety of our client families and staff is of the utmost importance. Our Mission is to provide you and your family with the highest level of service and attention to detail—at an affordable cost. As a family-owned and operated community resource, we pride ourselves on making sure that your services are exactly what you wanted. Even in these difficult times, we promise that you will look back on the healing tribute you plan for your loved one with pride and satisfaction.

Will all the services we planned need to be postponed? No. There are still ways to celebrate a life within the current rules and safety parameters. Our first priority is always safety for you, your family and each of our guests. We have taken precautions to ensure that you can still grieve in a healthy way, without having to postpone all services.

Are we allowed to have a wake? Yes. In full compliance with both Federal and local regulations and out of an abundance of caution, we have taken thoughtful measures to accommodate a wake in a safe and controlled manner.

How many people can attend a wake? At this time, restrictions prohibit gatherings of 10 persons or more. However, if more than 10 are in attendance, we have additional staff on-site to direct guests to spread out in separate areas of our facilities. Through our closed-circuit system, everyone can remain safely connected.

Can services be postponed? Yes, some services can be postponed. Certainly, the safety of your loved ones is of utmost importance. Arrangements can be made to suit your specific needs.

Is it possible to hold services under current social distancing restrictions? Yes. Some religious services continue to be conducted. By leveraging technology, we have creative ways to connect your family to these services. You can choose to live stream the events and/or record services using a platform called Vimeo. A link to the recording can be hosted on the obituary page and sent to your family via email.

Can arrangements be made remotely? Yes. If you prefer, arrangements can be made entirely from the comfort and safety of your home. While speaking over the phone, we can walk you through every step. We can talk one-on-one or set up a conference call or virtual meeting for multiple members of the family. Documents can be shared electronically, as well, so that if you so choose, you do not have to come in at all.

Can I still schedule an in-person meeting? Yes. We understand that while processing a loss, adding a computer to the mix can be an unwelcome challenge. If you prefer not to make arrangements remotely, call to schedule an appointment in our office. In full compliance with both Federal and local regulations and out of an abundance of caution, we have taken thoughtful measures to meet in a safe and controlled manner.

Can I see my loved one for the last time? Yes, of course. We encourage you to say goodbye and will make accommodations to ensure that you can do so safely.

How are services for veterans impacted? We are still helping families obtain military honors. Our local American Legion continues to conduct military honors. We also have service members on our staff who are available to ensure that the rituals like folding and presenting the flag can be conducted.

I still have questions. What should I do next? With ever-changing guidelines, more questions can arise every day. Do not hesitate to give us a call or send us an email. Together, we can go through your specific situation and tailor a solution that meets your specific needs and goals. We’re here for you.

We’re only a phone call away: (434) 237-9424

Live Streaming Services Now Offered to Local Families

Tue, 14 Apr 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Live streaming funeral and memorial services are now being offered to families in the Lynchburg, Bedford and Roanoke areas so friends and families have the option of coming together to grieve their loss without the risk of spreading COVID-19. Streaming options include video recording and Facebook Live.

In compliance with the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), National Funeral Directors Association and the Virginia State and local Health Departments, Tharp is providing a variety of options to accommodate safe ways for families to grieve the loss of their loved ones.

“We are here to help families find healthy ways to grieve,” said Chris Tharp, Owner of Tharp Funeral Home. “Within the current social distancing restrictions, we are providing alternative ways to begin the grieving process. Rituals and services that pay tribute to our loved ones are part of a healthy grief cycle because through them, we help one another tote the burden of grief. As my father has always said, ‘Grief shared is grief diminished.’”

Utilizing the online funeral planning tool, as well as arrangements made over the phone and email, families can plan their loved ones’ services entirely from home. Live streaming offers families an option to conduct services while connecting in a virtual manner. Extensive and regular cleaning procedures are being conducted at all Tharp locations that follow the updated recommendations from the CDC. Additionally, modifications have been made on-site to accommodate safe, on-site services that comply with the directives of local and state authorities.

Families concerned about coronavirus and its impact on funerals, visitations and memorial services can go to https://tharpfuneralhome.com/, or call 434-237-9424 for all updated information. For immediate arrangements, Tharp can be reached 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year.

Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory is proud to be the most often selected funeral home and crematory in Central Virginia, offering affordable funeral and cremation arrangements and services, preplanning, burials, cremation planning and pet loss services. As a family-owned and operated community resource, Tharp has proudly served Central Virginia for nearly a century with locations in Lynchburg, Bedford, Smith Mountain Lake, Madison Heights and Roanoke. Tharp’s mission is to provide the community with the highest level of service and attention to detail, at an affordable cost. Tharp takes great pride in attentively assisting families plan a healing tribute for their loved one that they can look back on with pride and satisfaction.

Unique Ways to Remember Your Pet

Fri, 01 Nov 2019 04:00:00 GMT

You never forget the impact that a pet has on your life. Pets deserve to be remembered in a special way, and the options available to you are as unique as your furry friend. Here are some ideas to get you inspired.

Commission a piece of art featuring your pet.

A custom portrait of your pet, whether on canvas, in watercolor, or even in sculpture, will give your family an heirloom to treasure for generations to come. If you have an artistic streak yourself, perhaps paint or draw their portrait yourself. The creative process can be a very healing part of your grief journey.

Remember your pet with a piece of jewelry.

The options for pet-inspired jewelry is extensive, and you’re sure to find something unique that speaks to your heart. Some options include:

Consider getting a custom tattoo of your pet.

Pet portrait tattoos have become so popular that there are very talented artists who specialize in beautiful, photo-realistic pet tattoos. What better way to keep your best friend close forever?

Give your pet a part of their favorite park, forever.

If you have wonderful memories of playing with your pet at a favorite part or other outdoor space, consider memorializing your pet in the park forever . Dedicate a tree to your pet, a bench, or a brick to your pet and visit it whenever you want to spend some extra special time remembering them.

If you want to learn more about Tharp’s funeral services for pets, we would be honored to speak with you. Start here .

Honoring “Man’s Best Friend” – Funeral Options for Pets

Tue, 01 Oct 2019 04:00:00 GMT

When you lose a pet, you lose a treasured member of your family. As such, your precious pet deserves to have compassionate options after their passing. Tharp Funeral Home is dedicated to serving your entire family. As lifelong pet owners ourselves, we know how much your pets mean to you. Pets love us unconditionally, and it’s devastating to lose such a wonderful and devoted friend.

Funeral Options for Pets

As part of our professional funeral and cremation services, we offer the following options for pets:

Celebration of Your Pet’s Life

We understand the deep sadness that results from losing a pet, and our entire professional staff is dedicated to meaningful ways to celebrate your pet’s life. We can even help you plan a special ceremony, whether it be:

We, like you, believe that your pet’s life mattered . Their loss is a profound one that deserves to be honored and grieved . Your pet will always be treated in a loving and dignified manner by the compassionate staff at Tharp. Everyone handles grief in their own way, and the grief of losing a pet is just as real any other grief you can experience with a loss of a loved one. Take time to heal and find a meaningful way to celebrate the life of your beloved pet.

If you’d like to learn more about our caring services for pet loss, contact us today. We’d be honored to speak with you.

Children and Grief: It doesn’t always look like you’d think

Fri, 27 Sep 2019 04:00:00 GMT

No matter what our age, grieving is a process. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and the process looks different for every individual. But for children, grief can look very different than the grief of an adult. Children are still learning to understand, identify, and regulate their emotions. When a child is faced with loss and/or trauma, they may need a little extra support as they process their “new normal.”

Research shows that children grieve differently than adults.

Children’s minds process information differently than adults do, so it makes perfect sense that grief would also manifest differently in young minds.

‘”Kids often grieve in spurts because they can’t seem to tolerate grief for long periods of time,” says Susan Thomas, LCSW-R, FT, program director for the Center for H.O.P.E. at Cohen’s Children’s Medical Center of New York. Adults, she explains, “have one foot in grief and one foot on the outside, but kids jump in and out of grief.” A child may seem deep in their sadness one minute, and then be happily playing with toys the next. “ Children may give the appearance of coping well, when suddenly a seemingly innocuous event unrelated to the loss triggers a disproportionate response.” For example, says Thomas, “A child may scrape her knee and say, ‘I wish Daddy were here. If he were here this wouldn’t have happened.’ Children can compartmentalize their grief in ways many adults cannot, but it does not mean that their feelings are any less real. Kids are masters at being able to distract themselves and focus on other things, but when something happens, all of the emotion they’ve been pushing away comes back.” This coping mechanism, Thomas says, allows them to “handle the intensity of the experience.”’ -Kate Jackson, Social Work Today .

Children need rituals too.

While an adult’s instinct may be to try to shield children from the reality of death and the funeral rituals it often entails, that is simply not the case. Rituals can help children process loss too.

However, children shouldn’t be forced to attend or participate in rituals that make them feel uncomfortable. Providing them with an “out,” such as a trusted adult to take them elsewhere if they feel like they need to step out to leave, can be helpful.

Know when to get extra help.

When it comes to older children and teens, Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt shares, “Any kind of extreme behavior is an obvious red flag. These behaviors include:

Other changes that probably warrant evaluation are an inability or unwillingness to socialize, a significant decline in schoolwork, or continued denial (in words or behavior) that the death happened.”

For most children who have suffered a loss, it’s a good idea to have them speak to a compassionate grief counselor. It can only benefit them to have an expanded support system during this challenging time. If you are looking for more resources for grieving kids, please reach out anytime. We would be honored to assist you.

Children and Grief: How do young children mourn?

Mon, 26 Aug 2019 04:00:00 GMT

Helping a child process the loss of a loved one is never easy, particularly when you’re in the midst of dealing with your own grief. But when that child is a preschooler? It can be an even bigger challenge. How do you help a child grieve when they can’t effectively articulate their feelings yet? Here are a few important factors to consider.

Young children don’t show their grief the same way adults do.

Babies and toddlers need extra love and a sense of security, as they often feel scared or carry a sense of anxiety when they see their parents grieving.

A baby or toddler who has lost someone close to them may be irritable, cry more easily, be clingy, become quiet and less responsive, show signs of anxiety and fretfulness, and even lose weight. Young children will need a great deal of consistency, routine, security, and affection as they process their grief. They need their caregivers to be extra calm, gentle, and to provide even more comfort than usual.

Play is healing.

Children, especially very young children, learn and process their emotions through play. Encouraging open-ended play, such as puppets, dolls, drawing, painting, and sensory play can be incredibly helpful during the child’s grieving and healing process. Playing with peers can also be very beneficial during this time. Young children need to keep a routine that’s as similar as possible to “normal,” including playdates and fun outings.

Be honest with children about hard topics.

Young children can handle the truth, even when it seems painful. Being honest with them can be part of their ultimate long-term healing.

Don’t be afraid to seek help.

Don’t wait to get help if you feel like your grieving child needs additional support. Many children find healing through counseling sessions, sometimes play therapy, and other times in group family sessions. Contact Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory for information on local resources that are ready and waiting to help your family.

Memorializing Our Furry Friends: Saying Goodbye & Processing the Loss of Pets

Mon, 03 Jun 2019 04:00:00 GMT

When the time comes to say goodbye to a beloved companion, it can be hard to find the right way to process your grief. Losing a pet is a tremendous loss, and memorializing that precious friendship is a wonderful way to honor the many years of unconditional love your pet offered you and your family. Here are a few ideas to inspire you:

Have a memorial service for your pet.

In the event that your pet needed to be put to sleep, many veterinarians will offer a paw-print impression of your pet that your family can keep forever.

“I loved the paw print we got from the vet. My daughter just gave me a watercolor of our two lost babies for Mother’s Day. It was very meaningful. People, in general, seem to be very understanding that it hurts so much. I appreciated all the kind words.” – Jill.

Write an obituary for your pet (yes, really!).

“This is something I did for myself that was SO helpful in my grieving process: I wrote obituaries for our dogs who died. It’s weird, I know, but they had so much personality and took up so much space in our worlds. We had hundreds of pictures. They had funny traits that made them unique. They had hilarious stories we could tell. They were real members of our families, and honoring the love that they gave us was so tender for me.” – Krista.

Writing an obituary for your pet is a wonderful way to honor their memory and give yourself and your family something to cherish forever. The process of reflecting on and writing about your pet really helps you grieve healthily!

Remember your pet with artwork.

A piece of art is a beautiful way to memorialize your cherished pet. If you are the creative type, perhaps you could create a painting or drawing of your pet yourself. Some other ideas include:

A meaningful piece of art is a special, unique way to remember your pet and their friendship for generations to come.

Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory is honored to be able to provide cremation and burial services for your treasured pets. Contact us today to learn more.

The Very Real, Very Raw Grief of Losing a Pet

Wed, 29 May 2019 04:00:00 GMT

When speaking of the loss of a beloved pet, it’s easy to try and minimize the grief. Sometimes, people feel that their sadness isn’t justified. It was “just a pet” after all.

But this couldn’t be further from the truth.

Pets are beloved members of our families, often spending a decade or more sharing their joy and unconditional love with us. Our pets are sometimes the only ones who have stood loyally beside us through life’s ups and downs. The loss of a pet is just that, a profound loss , and the grief is very real. If you are processing through the loss of a pet, here are a few strategies that people have shared that have helped them work through their grief.

Talk about your pet.

Talking about your pet and sharing happy memories about them can be a healing balm to our hurting hearts. If a loved one has lost a pet, don’t be afraid to bring it up. Acknowledge their grief and ask them if they would like to talk about their furry friend.

“I loved when people shared their favorite Dobby memories with me after he died this past August. In terms of gifts, a couple of days after Dobby died, I had a hair appointment with my long-time stylist. She listened to me talk about Dobby while doing my hair, then when I went to check out, she and the rest of the staff gave me a photo of him in a lovely frame. They had pulled the photo off my Facebook post and printed it ahead of time. It wasn’t an expensive gift but touched me deeply. I still have the photo out on a shelf.” – Kelley.

A small act of kindness goes a long way.

Know that you gave your pet a great life!

“Since the death of a pet often comes as the result of the decision to end their suffering, with that can come emotions of guilt. When this happens I always remind people that they gave their pet the very best life they could have hoped for: the animal wanted for nothing, was spoiled beyond reason, and was the luckiest critter in the world to be paired up with a human who adored them so much. I think it’s important for me to say that because it’s the validation and assurance that I’m looking for myself, to know that I did right by my pets and gave them a good life.” – Amanda.

The choice to end your pet’s suffering can be an agonizing one. Trust that you and/or your veterinarian made the best possible choice for your pet’s ultimate well-being, and rest in the knowledge that their suffering is over.

Acknowledge your grief.

The grief of losing a beloved pet is real, and it hurts. Don’t minimize your grief. Allow yourself to feel all of the emotions that come with loss, without judging how quickly or slowly you are moving through the stages. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, so just let yourself ride it out. Do whatever you need to do to care for yourself during this challenging time. That might mean:

No matter what you need, or how much time it takes, don’t judge yourself or your feelings. Be gentle with yourself.

Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory is honored to be able to provide cremation and burial services for your treasured pets. Contact us today to learn more.

Eco-Friendly Death: What You Need to Know About Green Burial

Mon, 04 Feb 2019 05:00:00 GMT

Green Burials, also called Natural Burials, are becoming more and more popular in Virginia. While cremation is also on the rise, eco-friendly burials are better for the environment than traditional burial or cremation options. Not to mention, Green Burials are also easy on the wallet.

In a nutshell, Green burial is inexpensive, simple, and gentle on the earth, making it a very appealing option for individuals from all walks of life.

“Interest in these pared-down, eco-friendly options has grown as people look for ways to cut their carbon footprint. Nearly 54 percent of Americans are considering a green burial, and 72 percent of cemeteries are reporting an increased demand, according to a survey released earlier this year by the National Funeral Directors Association. […] Choices can be made at each step of the death care process to limit waste, reduce the carbon footprint and even nourish the local ecosystem.” – The New York Times .

How does green burial work?

Green burial is usually marked by four important factors:

Without traditional embalming, the body is allowed to decompose as nature intended, without releasing unnecessary toxins into the earth. Humans have been decomposing naturally for thousands of years, and green burial brings us back to this simple, even beautiful, return to the earth.

Where can I have a green burial in Virginia?

In general, Green Burials in Virginia can take place at any designated Green Cemetery, or on a person’s private property (with permission, of course).

According to the National Funeral Directors Association, 72 percent of cemeteries are reporting an increased demand in Green Burials. The Green Burial Council keeps a directory of Natural Burial Grounds, green cemeteries located on natural preserves, and hybrid cemeteries that are designated for green burials. In Virginia it is lawful for property owners to have burials on their own land, and a casket is not required. Many cities and counties do have local ordinances about zoning and guidelines for grave plots, so it’s a good idea to check that as well.

Why is green burial less expensive?

Green burial is significantly less expensive than traditional burial for multiple reasons. Without embalming, costly caskets, expensive burial vaults, or additional service and cemetery fees, the price for Green Burial can remain very affordable.

How is green burial better for the environment?

Green cemeteries are often located on natural preserves, protecting the land for local wildlife, plants, and trees. Without embalming, the body is allowed to decompose as nature intended, without releasing unnecessary toxins into the earth. Humans have been decomposing naturally for thousands of years, and green burial brings us back to this simple, even beautiful, return to the earth.

The most important thing about the return of green burial is that it gives people more options than they might have realized they had for meaningful ceremonies.

The popularity of green burial has made it clear that people want choices when it comes to the end of life, and the option of green burial is empowering them to make choices they can feel good about.

Types of Green Burials

One of the beautiful things about Green Burials is that it really leaves room for a lot of imagination, with dozens of possibilities for how and in what people choose to be buried.

Here are some of the types of boxes and materials that Green Burials use:

And here are a few more unique green burial methods:

Plan a Green Burial

If you are interested in a Green Burial in Virginia, you probably have a lot of questions! Sitting down with a planning director at Tharp Funeral Home is a quick and efficient way to get your questions answered and start planning, or pre-planning, an eco-friendly burial.

Dying Overweight: Are My Options Still Dignified?

Sat, 06 Oct 2018 04:00:00 GMT

If you or a loved one are very overweight, you may have unspoken worries and concerns about what will happen to the body after you/they pass away . Some very common, but often unvoiced, questions include the following:

These questions are valid, important, and need to be discussed with openness and compassion. Every person deserves to have a variety of end-of-life options that they can feel good about, regardless of their shape or size. Here is what you need to know:

I’m a large person. Will my body still be treated with respect and dignity after I die?

Yes . Absolutely. Funeral directors are not surprised by any variation of the human body. An ethical funeral director treats each and every person’s remains that they are entrusted to care for with compassion and respect.

Can I still be cremated?

Yes. Tharp offers crematory facilities that can accommodate bodies of every size. For bodies over 300 pounds, there is an extra fee of $100 to accommodate for the additional time and staff needed to ensure a safe and dignified process.

Are my burial options the same as those of average-sized people?

If you want a traditional burial, depending upon your size, you may require a larger sized casket. Tharp proudly offers casket options to accommodate all sizes. Some cemeteries may charge additional fees for a larger vault and/or larger burial plot. An excellent option to consider is green or eco-burial. Green burial does not require a casket or burial vault, so no extra fees would be incurred in relation to the body’s size.

The most important thing to remember is that an ethical funeral home will treat every client and family with the utmost kindness and respect. If you have any questions, we would be honored to speak with you. Contact Tharp today.

10 Things You’re Too Afraid to Ask about Cremation

Thu, 27 Sep 2018 04:00:00 GMT

If you’re considering cremation, you likely have questions. While most questions are common and easily answered, there are other questions that you may be hesitant to ask. Here are ten of our most frequently asked questions that you may be afraid to ask.

1. How do I know if the cremains returned to me are actually those of my loved ones?

Carefully maintaining the integrity of the remains entrusted to us is of the utmost importance. At Tharp, we have a unique process in place where two members of our expert staff verify the body and sign off on the cremains so that the family can rest assured that what they receive is, in fact, their loved one’s cremains. During every cremation, a metal identity disc with a unique number and the name of the funeral home is placed with the body. This disc stays with the body throughout the entire process and is eventually placed in the urn with the remains once the cremation is complete. After each cremation, the crematory space is carefully swept and cleaned to ensure that nothing is left behind.

2. Can my family be present for the cremation process?

Absolutely. It is the family’s legal right to observe or participate in any part of the cremation process .

3. Is there an option to not have to be responsible for taking possession of the cremains after the process is complete?

Yes. Tharp will happily take possession of the cremains, and they can be scattered in the Blue Ridge mountains if the family requests that we do so.

4. Will the funeral home divide up the cremains for me if I plan to give a portion of the cremains to multiple loved ones?

Absolutely. Tharp will make whatever arrangements the family requests regarding the dividing of cremated remains.

5. Can I have a more traditional viewing and/or funeral before the remains are cremated?

Yes. At Tharp, we can assist families with any private or public viewing and/or services prior to the cremation.

6. Will the body be clothed during the cremation process?

We can dress the deceased in whatever clothing is requested by the family prior to the cremation. At Tharp, even if the family does not provide clothing, we always make sure the individual’s remains are covered.

7. What happens to medical hardware and/or implants before or during cremation?

Certain medical devices, such as pacemakers, must be removed before cremation because their batteries can explode during the process. Metals that withstand the heat of cremation, such as steel, titanium, and staples, are removed with magnets and other sorting methods before processing cremains. These will either be returned to the family or sent off for recycling–whichever the family requests.

8. Will my loved one’s body be treated with dignity and respect throughout the process?

Unequivocally, yes. Crematories are carefully regulated, and crematory operators and funeral directors are deeply compassionate individuals who treat each body with respect. At Tharp, we treat each family like they are members of our own family.

9. Will the body have to be transported to a different location or cremation?

While this depends on the funeral home, at Tharp, we operate our own crematory on-site.

10. Can objects such as flowers be cremated with the body? Are any objects prohibited from being cremated with the body?

Yes, we can cremate flowers, stuffed animals, or whatever combustible items a family requests. However, at Tharp, we do not cremate jewelry, but we can place jewelry in the urn following the cremation.

Do you have more questions? We would love the opportunity to answer them for you. Contact Tharp today for an honest and compassionate conversation about your needs.

Everything You Need to Know About Memorial Services

Wed, 22 Nov 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Memorial services, (another term for a funeral or a celebration of life), are services to honor the deceased any time after their passing. Here is what to expect from a memorial service, and some basic etiquette you might want to know before attending one.

Locations for memorial services

A memorial service can be held almost anywhere. Such as:

There is no right or wrong place to hold a memorial service, and the options are endlessly customizable to fit the needs of the family and the personality of the deceased.

Features of a memorial service

While there is no formal structure for a memorial service, most include some kind of message from a clergy member or a member of the family. There are many ways for loved ones to participate, such as contributing a reading or a memory. There is often music, and maybe a photo slideshow or video of memories. But a memorial service can be as unique as the person it’s honoring. There are really no rules for how to best celebrate a life.

The reception

Usually, there is some form of reception for family and friends after a memorial service. It can be held at a funeral home, a church, or at a family member’s home. This is a good time to offer condolences and share memories in a more relaxed, less structured setting than the service itself. It can be a healing time to show your support for the family, have some refreshments, and even laugh about the good times.

Memorial service etiquette

As a guest at a memorial service, your only job is to offer support and condolences to the family of the deceased. It’s ok to be unsure of what to say. When in doubt, a simple “I’m so sorry for your loss,” or, if appropriate, “I love you,” can be just the thing. It’s traditional to dress neatly and tidily in dressy attire, usually in dark and subdued colors (unless otherwise instructed.) It is no longer the rule that only black will do. Plan to arrive a bit early, and sit in an unobtrusive spot. Be sure to take time before or after the service to greet the family and offer your support and kind wishes. Be sure to sign the guestbook if one is provided; it can be very helpful for the family to have a record of who attended as they look back later on.

For more information on memorial services, contact Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory at (434) 237-9424 .

Surprising Benefits of Prepaid Funeral Expenses

Wed, 22 Nov 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Taking care of prepaid funeral expenses and funeral pre-planning can be a surprisingly empowering experience. It gives you a sense of control over your end-of-life experience, ensuring that things can go just the way you hope they ought to. Here are a few surprising benefits of prepaid funeral expenses.

Prepaid funeral expenses are just another part of end-of-life planning

Think of prepaid funeral expenses as an essential part of your end-of-life planning. Just like your writing your will and getting your estate planning in order. It can be very freeing to make these arrangements in advance, and offer you a great deal of peace of mind. Go through all the details together with your partner or another family member to ensure you are both on the same page as your make your plans.

Prepaid funeral expenses can save you money

When funeral expenses are pre-paid, the expenses will be covered at the rates you purchased them at. Even if that was years before. You’ll save yourself and your family the risk of inflated prices, and have the confidence that a financial burden has been lifted from your loved ones.

Funeral pre-planning ensures you get the service you want

Pre-planning your funeral in advance allows you to plan out the service you hope for in detail. You get to choose how you would like your life celebrated. In addition to choosing the type of service, you can decide on monuments, caskets, and even what you wish to be wearing. By putting your wishes in writing and discussing them with your family, it will help make things go as smoothly as possible for your loved ones when the time comes.

Pre-paid funeral expenses offer your and your family peace of mind

Making decisions while in the midst of processing grief isn’t easy for anyone. Unfortunately, planning a funeral involves making lots and lots of choices. By pre-planning your funeral and choosing pre-paid funeral options, you can have the peace of mind of knowing that those decisions have already been made. It can be a wonderful gift for your family that you can choose to give them today.

If you’re interested in getting started on pre-planning a funeral, contact us at (434) 237-9424 .

Words of Condolences You Should Avoid

Thu, 16 Nov 2017 05:00:00 GMT

It’s never easy seeking the right words of condolence to share with someone you care for who has suffered a loss. Even with the very best of intentions, the wrong choice of words could inflict more harm than good. Here is a sensitive guide to words of condolence to avoid, and a few that might be just right.

Words of condolence to avoid : “They’re in a better place.”

While this phrase might seem kind at first glance, but it can be quite invalidating to feelings of the bereaved. Even if they do believe that their loved one is in a better place, it doesn’t change the pain of not having them here, with them. Instead, acknowledge how special the person was in life. More sensitive option may be: “they were a wonderful person. I will miss them,” or “when you’re ready, I would love to learn more about them.”

Words of condolence to avoid: “Everything is going to be ok.”

Yes, eventually, your loved one will be ok. But not today. And maybe not anytime soon. There is no one way to grieve, and no time-table for recovery after a loss. Telling a grieving friend that “everything will be ok” can make them feel like they need to hide or ignore their pain. Instead, perhaps say, “I love you,” or “I’m so sorry for your loss.” Acknowledging how unfair the situation is is more than ok.

Words of condolence to avoid: “I know just how you feel.”

While you may have suffered great loss yourself, we can never know exactly how another person is processing their grief. These words can make a person feel like they are not being heard or understood in the midst of their pain. A comforting alternative might be something like: “I’m thinking of you/praying for you all the time.”

Words of condolence to avoid: “Let me know if you need anything.”

A grieving person will probably not ask for help, even when they need it most. Often, they won’t have the energy to express what they need, and may not reach out to even those closest to them. A better response? Say, “I will bring you dinner on Tuesday,” or “Can I come by tomorrow to clean up and do some laundry for you?” or “I’ll pick the kids up from school and bring them home this week.” Offer to complete specific tasks, follow through, and keep on offering. Often, several weeks after the loss, things start to calm down. Including offers for help. This is the time to offer extra support and attention to your loved one.

Words of condolence that can offer comfort:

Just the fact that you’re reading this says that you are trying to be the best friend or family member you can be to someone who’s grieving. While it’s never easy, it’s important to never give up offering comfort and support.

For more information on proper words of condolences, contact Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory at (434) 237-9424 .

Why Choose A Local Community Funeral Home?

Fri, 10 Nov 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Choosing a local community funeral home can put your mind at ease when planning a funeral for a loved one. When you choose a local provider for your services, you know that you are working with someone who is an everyday part of your community. Someone who cares about you and your neighbors. Someone you could run into at the grocery store. Your dollars are staying in the local economy. Here are just a few reasons that choosing a community funeral home over a big chain is a wise choice.

Choosing a community funeral home is choosing your neighbor

When you work with a local, community funeral home, you are working with your neighbors. They are invested in the community. They really care about their customers. And they have a wealth of connections and relationships that can help you get all of the services you need at the best prices.

Local funeral homes provide grief support

A community funeral home will be able to provide you with referrals for carefully vetted local grief support groups. A local funeral home considers offering healing resources to their customers an essential part of their services. A community funeral home will have relationships with counselors, hospitals, and faith-based centers that can offer a wealth of support to those they serve.

A community funeral home doesn’t want you to walk this road alone

In contrast to large chain funeral homes that are all about the bottom line, a community funeral home is all about you, the client. A family-owned funeral home is just that: a family. One family reaching out to and helping another. The key value of a community funeral home is the family-like connection they strive to forge with everyone they serve. You are not just a customer, you are a grieving neighbor who deserves compassion, empathy, and support. By choosing a local funeral home, you are choosing to receive the highest level of compassionate service available.

A local funeral home sees the whole picture: loss, grief, celebration, and recovery. And they want to walk with you every step of the way.

For more information about Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory, contact us at (434) 237-9424 .

5 Uncommon (But Fitting) Funeral Flowers

Mon, 06 Nov 2017 05:00:00 GMT

How do you choose the perfect funeral flowers? Flowers are how we mark so many important, emotional milestones: births, weddings, and the celebration of a life well lived. Traditionally, funeral flowers consist of roses, carnations, lilies, and gladiolus. These are classic choices, but they aren’t the only choice. Here are some creative, non-traditional ideas to celebrate and honor your loved one.

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Uncommon funeral flowers

1. Wildflowers to symbolize freedom, the love of nature

Perhaps your loved one was a nature lover. Perhaps they loved to spend time outdoors. Maybe they had a garden. Gathering wildflowers from their favorite spot, or even from their own garden, can be a lovely touch to their celebration of life. You could even include leaves and branches, depending on the season. This is also an extremely cost effective option for funeral flowers.

2. Tropicals such as protea, bird of paradise, or gloriosa lilies.

If your loved one enjoyed nothing better than sunshine and crashing waves, tropical flowers can be a unique and lovely choice. They are stunning to behold, vibrant in color, and long-lasting. Flowers like these have excellent staying-power and will last for several days cut.

3. Sunflowers give joy

Sunflowers are perhaps the most joyful of flowers. Big, bold, and vibrant, maybe they are the perfect descriptor of your loved one. Since they are so bright and large in size, a few flawless stems can go a long way, making them a cost effective choice as well.

4. Peonies: a soothing choose

Peonies may be the most luxurious, soft, and elegant flowers in nature. Their presence suggests english gardens, high tea, and lazy afternoons in the perfect air of late springtime. With delicate colors in shades of pink and white, and a heavenly fragrance, they can be a particularly soothing choice to celebrate your loved one. While they are on the expensive side depending on the season, each bloom is so big and fluffy that you won’t need many to make a big statement.

5. Non-floral options that replace funeral flowers

While funeral flowers are the traditional choice to honor a loved one, there are plenty of non-floral options that are just as beautiful. Consider creating decorative origami or tissue paper flowers to brighten up the celebration of a creative soul. Decorate with fresh fruit or vegetables for the gardener or farmer. Display collages of pictures and beautiful memories. Ask friends and family to donate to a favorite charity in lieu of sending flowers to the service. The options are endless as your consider how you want to uniquely celebrate the life of your loved one.

If you have any additional questions about adequate funeral flowers or pre-planning funerals, contact Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory at (434) 237-9424 .

When Funeral Flowers Just Aren’t Enough

Tue, 24 Oct 2017 04:00:00 GMT

While funeral flowers may seem like the standard gift after the loss of a loved one, there are more unique and personal options available as well. Flowers are always a beautiful choice, but here are some more ideas for when you want to do something more.

Donate to your loved one’s favorite charity.

Make a donation in your loved one’s name to a cause you know they loved and supported. This is a special way to continue their legacy for years to come.

Bring or send meals.

In the face of grief, it’s always a loving gesture to nurture the family of the deceased with meals. Drop meals by with a quick hug, or have meals delivered to the home from their favorite restaurants. Keep this in mind especially in the weeks and months after the funeral, when help and visitors start to taper off.

Offer hands-on help.

Don’t assume that your loved one wants to be alone. Offer to help do some general cleaning, errands, or take them out to lunch. They might need the company, or they might even just really need the help.

Send a care package instead of funeral flowers.

Include a heartfelt note, tissues, coffee, tea, gift cards for restaurants and groceries, a soft blanket, and perhaps a candle or some soothing bubble bath. Make it personal. And perhaps send more than one. After a death in my family, a cousin arranged a schedule that we could all sign up for to send care packages to the deceased’s spouse and parents every week for several months. It was a touching way to remind them continually that support and love surrounded them.

Name a star.

There are several companies that will allow you to name a real star in honor of a loved one. This could be an incredible treasure for your loved one’s partner or parents that will last a lifetime and beyond.

Send notes and cards.

This option costs you almost nothing, but can bring comfort and peace for years to come. Write a series of notes and letters to the family of your loved one and send them often. Sometimes, after the dust of the funeral and visitors settles, the deceased’s family can start to feel forgotten. Sending notes and cards throughout the first year and even beyond reminds them that they are loved and are not alone.

Veteran’s Funeral Planning: Celebration of Life

Wed, 18 Oct 2017 04:00:00 GMT

A veteran’s funeral ought to be a celebration. They deserve the greatest honor for their years spent serving our country. A veteran lived a selfless life of sacrifice for their family and their nation, and that life deserves to be celebrated. Making a funeral into a celebration of life can be a very healing, joyful option for the loved ones of the deceased. It can help bring some light and life into a season of grief. Veterans should receive full military honors at their funeral from the VA, but here are some more personal ideas for celebrating a veteran you love.

Consider what they were passionate about, and incorporate that into your veteran’s funeral .

Perhaps your veteran was an avid outdoorsman, an athlete, or an artist. Consider that the ceremony could take place outdoors in a beautiful setting. Perhaps loved ones could run or bicycle in a race in their honor. Or maybe friends and family could create a piece of art together for the veteran’s partner to keep and treasure. The options are literally endless for incorporating a person’s passions and interests into a celebration of their life.

Celebrate with your loved one’s favorite music.

A celebration of life can include any music you like, from soft and traditional, to loud and exciting. If your veteran was in a band, live rock music might be just the thing to celebrate them. Perhaps a bagpiper would set the right tone. Or maybe a soloist playing their favorite instrument can be the soundtrack to the ceremony. The music needn’t be stuffy; joyful and full of life might be just what everyone needs to hear.

Make a memory together.

Some memorable, beautiful ideas might include:

-Releasing sky lanterns or balloons

-Floating flowers in a river, lake, or the ocean

-Making origami peace cranes together

-Planting a garden in the veteran’s honor

-Taking a trip to the veteran’s favorite place

-Write treasured memories on stones to give to the family

Recently, a family friend attended a celebration of life where loved ones went skydiving in the deceased’s honor! Talk about creating a memory that will last a lifetime.

How Prepaid Funeral Expenses Can Save You Money

Mon, 09 Oct 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Prepaid funeral expenses can reduce the stress on your loved ones during a very difficult time. It’s never too early to start thoughtfully considering what your wishes may be. Preplanning and prepaying your funeral expenses is definitely something to consider, and it may even save you money in the long run. Here are some things to keep in mind as you consider the future:

Explore Funeral Homes that Offer Prepaid Funeral Expenses .

The best way to explore the possibility of prepaid funeral expenses is to talk with the experts. Set up meetings with local funeral directors to see what options they can offer their customers. The right funeral home will be completely transparent about their pricing, and will be willing to try to work with any budget. Choose a plan that has no hidden fees, and no extra money due upon your death, regardless of price increases since you purchased the plan. Some plans are transferable too, in case you relocate.

Put your wishes in writing ahead of time.

Save yourself and your loved ones money by taking the guesswork out of your funeral plans. Figure out your wishes, put them in writing, and communicate them to your loved ones as soon as you can. This kind of clarity will help you avoid unnecessary expenses when the time comes.

Consider opening a payable-on-death account (POD).

One way to ensure that there is money available to pay for end-of-life expenses is a setting up payable-on-death account (POD) with your bank. Make the person who will be handling your funeral arrangements the beneficiary, and communicate your plans to them in detail. You will maintain control of your money while you are alive, but when you die it will be available immediately, without having to go through probate.

Purchase a grave plot or now.

A sure way to save money on future end-of-life expenses is to go ahead and purchase your final resting place now. These can often be obtained via a low monthly payment. Prices on such things will inevitably rise as the years go by, so taking the time to invest now will save your loved ones money and planning when the time comes.

Finding an Affordable Funeral Home for Your Budget

Tue, 03 Oct 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Finding an affordable funeral home can be challenging, especially since the average cost of a funeral in America is over $8,000. So what are your options? Can you still celebrate your loved one’s life on a tight budget? You absolutely can. Here are some things to keep in mind as you’re making plans during a difficult time:

Finding an Affordable Funeral Home

Know your legal rights when purchasing funeral services.

“The Federal Trade Commission’s ‘Funeral Rule’ makes it law that a funeral home must disclose their General Price List to you when you make an inquiry (whether by phone or in person).” -us-funerals.com. Choose a funeral home that cares about their customers and provides their services with openness integrity.

Finding an affordable funeral home involves creating a budget and sticking to it.

The simpler your funeral plan is, the less expensive it will be. Be honest with the funeral home you choose to work with and let them know that your budget is firm. A funeral home that cares will do their best to meet your family’s needs on any budget.

Consider lower cost funeral alternatives.

Cremation can save open up options for very personal and special options with which to celebrate your loved one. You may also consider a “green” or eco-burial, which is much less expensive than a traditional burial. An eco-burial is gentle on the environment, and some consider it more dignified than a traditional burial as it does not involve the embalming process.

Arrange a direct cremation & conduct your own service.

The least expensive funeral option is arranging a direct cremation, and then hosting your own intimate memorial service wherever you choose. A direct cremation involves having the funeral home or crematorium collecting your loved one, performing the cremation, and then returning them to your family in a temporary urn. You can then choose to have exactly the kind of private, family-focused service that fits your loved one best.

How to Choose Affordable Cremation Services

Fri, 22 Sep 2017 04:00:00 GMT

When seeking out funeral possibilities, cremation services are frequently the most affordable option. Affordable cremation services are a great way to make sure that even cremation puts the least possible financial burden on you and your family.

Choosing Affordable Cremation Services

Plan ahead.

If possible, take the time to price out, compare, and even pay for your future cremation service in advance. Decide what kind of service, if any, you may want. You can choose from three main options for a cremation:

Decide in advance the details of your cremation and your memorial to save yourself and your family money and time in the long run.

Invest in a high-quality urn.

The options for cremation urns are highly variable in price, and can cost up to several hundred dollars. Since you’re saving money on burial costs, you could choose to invest in a unique, high quality urn for your cremains. If you are having your cremains scattered, there is no need to purchase one. The box given by the funeral home will do just fine. You could also choose to use a container you already have, perhaps one that has some meaning to you, as an urn for yourself or a loved one.

If you’d like to speak with someone about affordable cremation services , our team would love to assist you. Contact us today.

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Wed, 20 Sep 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Why Finding a Good Grief Support Group Really Helps

Tue, 19 Sep 2017 04:00:00 GMT

If you have recently, (or even not so recently), lost a loved one, please consider finding a grief support group. There is no one way to grieve and everyone moves through grief at a different pace. But being surrounded by other people who know what you’re going through can make all the difference when it comes to healthy healing. A support group can offer you a safe space to express your feelings, share experiences, and help support other people who are processing a similar traumatic event.

If I have friends and family, why do I need a grief support group?

Even the most well-meaning friend or family member can say the wrong thing when you are wrestling with grief. Sometimes, you just need to talk with someone who knows exactly how you feel because they are walking the same path. Grief support groups are often lead by licensed professional counselors. Having a counselor in place can guide and mediate the conversation to keep it productive, healthy, and moving in a positive direction. These groups are also usually free of charge to participate in, and can help you build real relationships with other people who know what you’re going through.

What if I’m not ready to talk about my loss?

That’s ok. Only you can know when you are ready to reach out. It can be really scary to ask for help, but please know that you are not alone. Grief affects every one of us at some time or another. It is an inescapable part of the human experience. But if you can glean some comfort from another person’s story, and perhaps offer comfort in return, it can help you realize that even the most crushing pain is not wasted. It can also be exceedingly helpful to meet people who are further along in their grief journey and to see that things do get better. Someday, you will be able to breathe again. Losing a loved one is often described as losing a limb. You do heal, but it takes a long time, and you are never quite the same. Having other people by your side through this journey can make all the difference in the world.

Contact Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory at (434) 237-9424 to speak to someone about your loss. We’d love to do whatever we can to help.

Find a Grief Support Group For Healing in the Lynchburg Area

Thu, 14 Sep 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Grief is not a journey you need to take by yourself; a grief support group can come alongside you so you don’t have to walk this road alone. After losing someone you love, it can be tempting to isolate yourself. Even the simplest tasks like eating dinner, returning a text, or getting out of bed can feel impossible. There is no right way to grieve, and there’s nothing wrong with spending time alone, but connecting with others can be a beautiful part of the healing process. The idea of attending a support group might be intimidating, or even terrifying. But taking that first step may open the door to a tremendous source of support. Here’s how a grief support group can help you heal.

Lynchburg’s grief support groups give you permission to feel your feelings.

When you’re surrounded by even the most well-meaning friends and families, it can be tempting to tamp down your emotions and keep them in check. Maybe you don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. Perhaps they keep encouraging you to “move on.” And if you really opened the door to your feelings, who knows what would happen? But in a grief support group, you’re all in the same boat. There’s no one to put on a happy face for. It’s a safe place to sit in your grief and let the feelings come, painful as they are. This is a critical part of the healing process. Ignoring or denying your feelings only stalls the healing. Allow yourself a safe place to let it all out.

Grief support groups can help you learn new coping skills.

After the loss of a loved one, you have to adapt to a “new normal.” Being surrounding by others who are walking the same road can help you learn healthy ways to process and cope. They can also support you if you’ve struggled with unhealthy coping mechanism. If the group is led by a professional counselor, (and many are), you’ll have yet another source of unbiased wisdom to tap into.

Sometimes, “me too” is the most beautiful phrase in the world.

Above all else, a grief support group lets you know that you are not alone. It can help to validate your feelings and thoughts. It lets you know first-hand that someone else has been on this journey before you, and they survived. Hearing someone say “me too” can be a profoundly healing balm to the soul.

For assistance finding a support group, feel free to reach out to Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory at (434) 237-9424 .

How Prepaid Funeral Expenses Benefit Your Family

Fri, 08 Sep 2017 04:00:00 GMT

It may seem a bit premature to consider prepaid funeral expenses when you are relatively young and healthy. But you might be surprised at how much peace of mind having your funeral expenses out of the way can bring to you and your family. Here are a few benefits of taking care of your funeral expenses now.

Prepaid funeral expenses can save you money.

Prepaid funeral expenses help your family carry out your wishes

The clearer your wishes are in advance, the less the burden is that is placed on your loved ones after you’re gone. And if the financial arrangements have already been made, that can be a tremendous benefit to those you leave behind. Considering these things now is just as reasonable as planning for retirement or saving for a college education. It’s all about forethought, and making the future easier for yourself and for those who love you. Have an open, honest conversation with your loved ones about your wishes, your budget, and what you plan to pay for in advance. This will provide peace of mind to both you and your family.

Consider setting up a Totten Trust with your bank

A Totten Trust is a convenient way to prepay end-of-life expenses. It is a simple bank account that allows you to keep all of the accrued interest. You can draw the money out with no penalties, and on the event of your death, your family will control all of the funds. Talk to you bank or your attorney about setting one up.

Prepay with Your Funeral Home

You can prepay for funeral expenses with your chosen funeral home. If you end up relocating, this cost is transferable. Considering that the cost of funerals increases every year, prepaying will actually save your family money.

Contact Tharp Funeral Home today to talk with an expert about compassionate and proactive planning for the future.

Creative Ways to Use Cremation Remains in Honor of Your Loved One

Fri, 01 Sep 2017 04:00:00 GMT

If you or a loved one has chosen cremation , you may be considering creative ways to honor them using the cremated remains. The possibilities are nearly endless, so take some time to consider your loved one’s unique personality, and how they might like to be celebrated after they are gone. If you are planning for yourself, be sure to leave clear instructions so your family will be able to follow your wishes.

Scattering the Cremains

Scattering your loved one’s cremated remains in a place that had special meaning to them can be a very healing experience. Whether it’s a mountaintop, a favorite park, or at the beach, it’s important to choose a location that family will always have access to and where you have the necessary permission to scatter human remains. If you are unsure what permission (if any) is necessary, simply ask your funeral director. Laws in certain areas prohibit the scattering of cremains in many public places, often including lakes and rivers. Be sure to research the laws in your area in advance–or ask your funeral director– before choosing the spot to scatter your loved one’s cremated remains.

Create an Undersea Reef

If your loved one was passionate about the ocean, having their cremated remains transformed into part of an ocean reef could be a very meaningful option. The cremains are mixed with concrete and formed into a personalized reef, creating a permanent home for sea life. Your funeral director can provide more details on this option if you are interested.

Commission a Piece of Memorial Jewelry

Many artisans are now creating beautiful, one of a kind pieces of memorial jewelry that contain cremated remains. This could be a special way to keep your loved one with you all the time, and since only a small amount of cremains are needed for each piece, a way for several family members to carry the tribute with them.

Plant a Tree

Cremated remains can be placed in a special biodegradable container from which a tree or flowering shrub grows. This can facilitate a beautiful memorial space at your home or another special outdoor space.

Plan a Fireworks Show

There are companies that can incorporate your loved one’s cremated remains into custom-made fireworks. This is a unique and exciting addition to a celebration of life ceremony that won’t soon be forgotten!

Get a tattoo with cremated remains…Really!

For the very creative, you can actually have your loved one’s cremation remains turned into a tattoo. A small amount of the remains are sterilized and milled very finely, and then mixed with the tattoo artist’s ink. This is an exceptionally unique choice for honoring your loved one’s memory.

As with all funeral choices, options vary widely and what is perfect for one family is certainly not perfect for another. The important point is to think about what is right for you and your family and plan ahead!

For more ideas on using cremains to honor your loved one, contact Tharp Funeral home .

Burial Planning: When is the right time?

Thu, 24 Aug 2017 04:00:00 GMT

When it comes to burial planning, there’s no such thing as being prepared too soon. The sooner you start to consider what your wishes are, the sooner you can gain the peace of mind that comes with being prepared. Even if you are relatively young and healthy, consider now how you might want to be buried after you’re gone. Do you want a traditional burial? Would you like to be cremated and then buried in the family plot? Are you interested in the possibility of an eco-burial with no embalming? These are all important considerations as you plan for the future, and prepare for the inevitable. And even if you make choices and decide to prepay for them in advance, you can always make changes to your plans later on if you need to.

Traditional Burial Plots and Cemeteries.

For a traditional burial, you can purchase a cemetery plot at any time. Many cemeteries even offer very manageable payment plans and discounts for purchasing ahead of time…just as funeral homes do. With the payments spread out over several years, preplanning becomes a nominal expense.

Choosing a plot for yourself has a lot of advantages:

Is cremation right for you?

Cremation can be economical, flexible, and gives you and your family a lot of options. If you choose cremation, think about what you want done with the remains after the cremation process is complete. Some people choose to be interred in the family plot or in a church columbarium after cremation, to give their loved ones a designated place to visit and pay their respects. Others have more creative ideas, like having their remains scattered at sea, or turned into a beautiful piece of artwork or jewelry. Your funeral director can give you examples of many different options and one of the most positive aspects of pre-planning is that you have the luxury of time to think about what makes sense for you and your family.

Eco-Burial

Eco or “green” burials have risen in popularity in recent years. An eco-burial involves choosing a biodegradable coffin or urn, and not doing anything to the body to inhibit the decomposition process, such as embalming. If you want an eco-burial, ask your funeral director what options are available in your area. If there are no eco-burial sites nearby, consider if a family member has property they would be willing to use as a family cemetery. An eco-burial is not only kind to the earth, but can also be less expensive than a traditional burial.

Discuss your ideas with family and pre-plan.

After you have given some thought to all of your options, talk about them with your family and loved ones. The clearer your wishes are shared in advance, the fewer burdens are placed on your loved ones after you’re gone.

And if you choose to take advantage of paying for your arrangements in advance, you are providing a tremendous benefit to those you leave behind. Considering these decisions now is just as reasonable as planning for retirement or saving for a college education. It’s all about forethought and making the future easier for yourself and for those you love.

So, if you’re asking yourself if now is the right time to consider burial planning, the answer is yes. It’s always a good time to make choices that will make your life and the lives of those you love easier.

For any questions on burial planning, contact Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory .

Is a celebration of life right for your loved one?

Wed, 23 Aug 2017 04:00:00 GMT

More and more families are choosing a celebration of life ceremony as a more joyful alternative to the traditional funeral. So how can you honor your loved one’s memory with a celebration? Here are some ideas to get your started:

Consider throwing a party

A celebration of life can look any way you want it to. From elegant and formal, to extremely casual and festive, make it fit your loved one’s personality. Consider serving their favorite foods and drinks, playing their favorite music, and decorating with their favorite colors. A celebration of life is a wonderful time to share happy memories , and remember all the good times you had with the treasured person you love. It’s also a wonderful memory-making opportunity for those left behind to remember the loved one’s life.

Add a memorable touch

Some festive and memorable options for a celebration of life can include lighting and releasing sky lanterns (or balloons), which are absolutely stunning to behold. Sometimes, attendees write messages or prayers on the lanterns before setting them free, which can be a very healing exercise. You could also have a fireworks show. If your loved one chose cremation, the fireworks could even include the cremated remains. Specialized companies are now offering this service.

Hiring a band or DJ that plays music your loved one enjoyed during life could also be a special way to remember them. If there was a fun activity your loved one especially enjoyed, like dancing, karaoke, or hiking, it could be nice addition to the celebration as well.

Create something together

Consider having all of the attendees contribute to a project that can be kept by your loved one’s family members. For example, everybody could participate in creating a painting, mural, or commemorative photobook. Or the attendees could work together to plant a garden that will bring forth beautiful flowers for years to come. The act of working together to make something new and beautiful will be both memorable and therapeutic.

Anything that honors your loved one and helps you say goodbye with joy and peace is a wonderful idea. So feel free to have a celebration that is as unique as your loved one!

Understanding Veteran’s Funeral Benefits

Tue, 22 Aug 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Planning a veteran’s funeral presents a unique set of opportunities and challenges during a time of stress and sadness. It’s important to fully understand what benefits your family may qualify for, which may help lift some of the financial burden off of your loved ones.

What benefits can I expect?

According to the VA, their monetary burial benefits have been simplified in recent years, and can now pay eligible survivors more quickly and efficiently. The VA can now pay, without a written application, most eligible surviving spouses basic monetary burial benefits at a flat rate right away.

For a service-related death, the VA will pay up to $2,000 toward burial expenses. If the Veteran is buried in a VA national cemetery, some or all of the cost of transporting the deceased may be reimbursed. For a non-service-related death, the VA will pay up to $749 toward burial and funeral expenses, (if hospitalized by the VA at time of death), or $300 toward burial and funeral expenses (if not hospitalized by VA at time of death), and a $749 plot-interment allowance (if not buried in a national cemetery.) Veteran’s spouses and dependent children also qualify for burial and funeral benefits.

We realize this can be complicated, so if you bring a copy of your DD214 (Honorable Discharge) to Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory and we will contact the VA for you and determine EXACLTY what benefits you or your loved one qualify for.

How do I know if I’m eligible for veteran’s funeral benefits?

You can read a very detailed list of eligibility requirements from the VA , but as a general rule, all honorably discharged veterans are eligible for some benefits. The veteran is disqualified if he or she was dishonorably discharged or is a federal prisoner.

Can my loved one be buried in a National VA Cemetery?

Yes, Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory can contact the VA for you or you can apply here to determine eligibility.

According VA.gov, the following benefits may be provided for burial in a National VA Cemetery:

All of us at Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory salute you for your service to our nation and it would be our honor to assist you any way we can.

To determine EXACTLY what benefits you or your loved one is entitled to, simple bring us a copy of the DD214 (Honorable Discharge) and we will contact the VA on your behalf.

Making Family Memories in Roanoke, VA

Tue, 01 Aug 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Looking to create some for exciting family memories this summer in Roanoke, VA? From museums and parks to farms and zoos, locals have several options for a special day out with the family.

Top 4 Places to Make Family Memories in Roanoke, VA

1. Mill Mountain Zoo

Mill Mountain Zoo in Roanoke provides an interactive experience that will surely provide lifelong memories for the whole family. Mill Mountain Zoo has committed to care for for endangered and vulnerable animal species. Over 90 different species of animals live in the zoo, creating a wide variety of attractions and exhibits for families to enjoy together. Available for birthday parties or private events, the zoo provides a great setting for any family celebration.

Plan to come on the third Saturday of any month between May and October, and you can sign up to have Breakfast With the Animals. This special event includes a breakfast buffet with one of the animals, a chat with a zookeepe,r and ends with a child-parent learning project.

2. The Roanoke Star

Roanoke, VA is known as the Star City of The South , and the 88-foot star on top of Mill Mountain holds the city true to that name. Also known as the Mill Mountain Star , the illuminated display is the largest of its kind in the world, with over 2000 feet of neon tubing. The Roanoke Merchants Association erected the star in 1949 as a holiday season celebration and has since been lit every night until midnight. The star sits on Mill Mountain, overlooking a gorgeous city park complete with biking and walking trails. As one of the most photographed sites in the Blue Ridge Mountains, the Roanoke star is sure to become a family favorite.

3. Virginia Museum of Transportation

The Virginia Museum of Transportation provides an educational experience for parents and children alike. Interactive attractions within the museum create an exciting, fun-filled experience for families to learn more about the history of U.S. transportation. The museum’s location near modern railroad tracks allow children to watch today’s trains zip by as they walk around locomotives from centuries before their time. Planes, trains, and automobiles abound in this museum, and every member of the family will find something of interest.

4. Roanoke Pinball Museum

This museum is dedicated to the art, science and fun of pinball machines. Pay a flat fee (free for children under 5) and play all day on the 50 machines dating back to the 1930s. Before or after your visit, make it a family project to learn more about pinball machines and the science behind them.

Funeral Flowers Etiquette

Wed, 26 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMT

It is custom to display flowers from friends, family, and coworkers at the funeral of someone who has passed away. They are a symbol of remembrance, and add color to a solemn atmosphere. Not everyone knows the right funeral flowers etiquette, so we have compiled some basic rules that should to be followed when sending funeral flowers.

Funeral Flowers Etiquette

Who Should Send Funeral Flowers?

Flowers can come from friends, family, coworkers, or even acquaintances who want to commemorate the person’s life. Sometimes a dentists’ office or a doctor will send flowers to a patient’s funeral. Churches, clubs, or sports teams that the person was part of will also often send flowers. It’s really a very personal matter. If you felt you knew the person well enough, they meant a lot to you, and they impacted your life, sending funeral flowers is appropriate.

Be aware that some families will request that funeral flowers not be sent. They may instead request a donation to a charity or cause that had a special meaning to the deceaesd. In this case, donations should be made in memory of the deceased.

When Should Funeral Flowers Be Sent?

Traditionally, funeral flowers are sent three to four before the viewing. Also, note that most floral shops require 24 hours notice to deliver flowers to any event. If you aren’t able to send them in time, you can still send them to the family’s home, as a reminder that your thoughts are with them.

What Kind and How Many Flowers?

There is no one universal rule for which flowers need to be avoided, as it varies between cultures and countries. Just send what you feel is best, it is the thought that will resonate with the family.

Ultimately, funeral flowers etiquette is a matter of your personal memories and relationship with the deceased. It’s personal, and what you choose to send is a way of communicating your condolences.

The Meaning Behind 5 Different Types of Funeral Flowers

Sat, 22 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMT

When you are choosing flowers for your loved one’s funeral, you may want to consider the traditional meanings behind different types of funeral flowers. The arrangement you pick should reflect your relationship with the deceased as well as cultural and possible religious significance.

The Meaning Behind 5 Different Funeral Flowers

How to Find the Right Words of Sympathy

Fri, 21 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMT

It’s hard to know what to say to someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one, but it’s important to find words of sympathy that let the mourners know you’re thinking of them. They need to know that they are loved and supported during this difficult time. If you feel stuck, here are five ways to jump-start your thought process.

1. Remember the Words of Sympathy You’ve Received

If you’ve ever lost a loved one, think about or read through some of the sympathy cards you received at that time. You probably remember that the words were generally comforting, and it felt good to know people cared. You appreciated the outpouring of love, no matter the specific words that were written in each card.

2. Think About the Person Who Passed Away

How did that person make you feel? What memories do you have of him or her? What qualities about him or her stood out the most to you? Come up with a memory you want to share, or just share how much you appreciated having the person in your life. The family will feel comforted knowing the impact their loved one had on your life.

3. Relax

This isn’t an essay, and it won’t be judged or graded. It’s simply an opportunity for you to express how much you cared for someone who has passed on and that you’re thinking of the people who were left behind.

There’s no need to write a lot. In moments like these, the gesture of taking the time to write a note means the most.

4. Journal

Before writing in the card, take a moment to write your thoughts on another piece of paper. Sometimes your ideas become clearer as you write.

5. Speak and Write From the Heart

You don’t have to be especially eloquent or strive to impress the person who will read the message. Simply be yourself and write from the heart.

Remember: sometimes, no words are needed. When face-to-face with mourners at a funeral, a hug might be enough.

Who Has the Legal Authority to Make Funeral Arrangements?

Tue, 18 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMT

When someone dies, who has the legal authority to make the funeral arrangements?

It might seem like a simple question, but when families are trying to make arrangements during the stressful time immediately following a death it can get complicated. And if the family doesn’t live nearby, it can become even more convoluted. This question is one that almost every family will need to consider.

At Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory we always serve our families to the best of our abilities, and within the guidelines of Virginia law. To help our client families understand their options we will outline Virginia’s law on this topic in plain terms.

Did the deceased designate someone to make decisions about funeral arrangements?

A person may choose to designate a specific person to make decisions regarding the disposition of their body. This is done for a variety of reasons, but is especially prudent in a situation where the family doesn’t agree on religious or cultural beliefs. By designating a specific person to handle the arrangements, the deceased can make sure that their beliefs and wishes are honored.

This person can be designated in a notarized legal document–often in an advance directive or a Will. According to VA Law , this designation takes priority over any other next-of-kin who typically have a legal right to make the arrangements. By assigning one person to be in charge of funeral arrangements, you can avoid many potential conflicts in cases where family members would not be able to easily agree on the service plan. We have blank copies of this designee form here at Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory available free of charge. If you would like one, simply contact us and we will email you a copy.

Next-of-Kin and Blood-Related Family Members

If the deceased did not legally designate someone to make decisions regarding their funeral arrangements, it falls to the next-of-kin; which is the closest blood-related family member (or spouse). Virginia Law states that funeral homes only need one blood-related family member to be present while making arrangements. Once that family member steps up and takes responsibility for both making and paying for the funeral arrangements, they sign a legal contract which obligates the funeral home to follow the instructions of that family member alone. As you might imagine, this can cause a great deal of tension in a family, especially when some of the family members feel left out or disagree with the arrangements being made. It’s important to remember that the funeral home is legally bound to the contract made with the family member that took initial responsibility making and paying for the arrangements.

What happens when there is no one to make arrangements?

In cases where there is no surviving blood relative and no one has been designated by the deceased to handle the funeral arrangements, VA Law states that, “Any person 18 years of age or older who is able to provide positive identification of the deceased and is willing to pay for the costs associated with the disposition of the decedent’s remains shall be authorized to make arrangements for such disposition of the decedent’s remains.”

What this means for Pre-planning

Most of the disagreements between family members when planning funeral arrangements come from the sincere desire of each family member to honor their loved one’s life. The tension comes because each surviving family member has their own idea of exactly what that tribute should be. When they are dealing with the grief of their loss, it becomes much harder to manage these disagreements. This is one reason why pre-planning is so important for families. By pre-planning, you can designate one person to make these decisions, and you are also able to leave behind specific instructions as to your wishes regarding the arrangements. That way, your loved ones know exactly what you wanted done and how to honor you. By completing your funeral prearrangement you will illustrate to all family members what you wanted done and then much of the tension (and potential family conflicts) will be avoided.

5 Summer Activities that Will Create Lasting Family Memories

Wed, 12 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Summer brings with it the opportunity to create lasting family memories. School is out and the weather is warm, it’s time for some quality time with your family! Here are five fun summer activities that will create lasting family memories your kids will look back on for years to come.

5 summer activities that will create lasting family memories.

1. Family Reunion

Family gatherings provide the chance to learn about your roots and bond with extended family. It can help to answer questions for children about their family origins and heritage. And while you can certainly hold a family reunion at any time of year, summer is one of the most popular times for such gatherings. Great weather gives you the ability to meet in a park or in someone’s back yard, saving money on renting a space. Plus, it enables you to serve food picnic style and enjoy games that include water balloons, water guns, and even swimming.

2. Kite Flying

The beauty of this activity lies in its simplicity. People have been flying kites for hundreds of years. It does not require the use of electronics or any other expensive equipment. And despite what your big brother may have told you when you were five, it does not require any special skills. Any one of any age can do it. What’s more, you can extend this activity by first building the kites yourself. Imagine the pride you will instill in your children by taking them to the park or the beach to fly kites that they built themselves!

3. Camp Out

Even if you are not into camping, it is one of those things that you have to do at least once in your life, even if it is disastrous. In fact, some of the best memories are made when things do not go as planned. Every camp out must include pitching a tent and building a campfire (and s’mores!). Other activities you can try include fishing, hiking and swimming. Whatever you do on your camp out, nothing can compare to spending an evening under the open stars.

4. Painting Rocks

This one may sound silly, but don’t write it off just yet. It’s a great way not just to make memories, but to make keep sakes that will remind you of that memory over and over. This is a lot of fun for kids as it allows them to get messy and be creative– two of their favorite things. Also, because it is summer, you can take this activity out doors– sparing you the indoor clean-up. They can paint their rocks to look like bugs, lizards, flowers, etc. and then place them all over the yard. Every time you see one of your special rocks, you will remember the fun you all had painting them.

5. Outdoor Movie Night

You can watch movies anytime, but it isn’t all the time that you can watch them under the stars. Hang a sheet, pull out your multi-media projector (or wheel out the TV), make up a big batch of popcorn, and set out the lawn chairs and blankets and you are ready to go. Pick a family friendly movie for the kids or enjoy a great date night film with someone special. You can even invite friends for a bigger event.

Create some lasting family memories with these ideas, then share about your experience in the comments!

Meaningful Condolence Quotes for Your Sympathy Message

Thu, 06 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Writing a heartfelt sympathy message can be very difficult. Many of us are afraid of saying the wrong thing or sounding insincere and because of this, it is often hard to know where to start. Sometimes phrases like, “I know how you feel” or “I’m sorry for your loss” can fall flat and seem less heartfelt than you intend simply because they tend to be go-to sympathy sayings. That is why we’ve compiled a list of helpful condolence quotes to help you say what’s on your heart.

Condolence Quotes for Your Sympathy Message

Regardless of the message you choose, know that a personal message that comes from the heart speaks volumes to those who have lost a loved one.

For more help conducting a sincere sympathy message, contact Tharp at (434) 237-9424 !

Leave a Legacy with an Online Photo Album

Mon, 03 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Knowing what life was like when your grandparents were children and remembering stories from your family history become more important the older you get. You miss your family members and you want to feel connected to them. Unfortunately, those memories fade as time ticks by. Old photographs bear the faces of people you don’t remember and there’s no one around to help you identify these forgotten family members.

In the busyness of life, the good intention of collecting and documenting these memories gets put on the back burner. But with a little time, effort, and the help of loved ones, you can compile the photographs, letters, and stories of relatives and leave a legacy for generations to come!

Leave a Legacy with an Online Photo Album

The traditional photo album is becoming less and less common as many save their photographs on their electronic devices. And while those old albums contain cherished memories, they have a tendency to fall apart with the pictures getting mixed up, falling out, and disintegrating over time.

An excellent idea to consider is creating an electronic photobook. Sounds like hard work, but if you can scan a picture and upload it, you can turn the photographs and stories of your family into print-on-demand keepsake. Sites like Shutterfly or Mixbook are a great option for this and they have easy to follow instructions to guide even those who are not experienced with computers.

Before You Get Started

Time to dust off those old photo albums! If your older loved ones are still with you, sit down and go through the photos with them. Ask who the people were, what they did, and where they came from. As you go through, set aside the more special photos or the ones that highlight a meaningful moment. Jot down notes to go with each photo. If there are letters or important documents, collect those as well. Marriage certificates, birth announcements, obituaries, newspaper articles that featured relatives and letters all help to tell the story behind the pictures. This process will most likely reveal other stories that had been long forgotten.

While time may be of the essence in getting a memory book compiled, don’t rush through it. Create a timeline and organize your photos, notes, and stories. Once you have everything you need , upload your photos and begin creating your family heirloom!

When It’s All Said And Done

Once you have completed your memory book, copies can be made to order and shared with family far and wide. Plus, you no longer have to worry about anything being lost or forgotten, as the book will always be available with everything safely stored away in its pages.

And the best part is the new collection of the memories you’ll make while sifting through the past with your loved ones while building your timeless collection of days gone by!

7 Summer Traditions Your Children can Pass On

Fri, 23 Jun 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Traditions are a beautiful part of any family. Each one is something that is uniquely yours, that bonds you with past and future generations. Now is a great time to start some summer traditions that your children will be sure to continue with their children. You’ll enjoy quality time with your family and create memories that will last a lifetime.

7 Summer Traditions for Your Family

1. A Sunset Picnic

This could be done on the last day of school or the first day of summer. Depending on the age of your kids, it might be extra special because they get to stay up late! And think about it: when was the last time you watched the sun set?

2. Homemade Ice Cream (YUM)

There’s still something special about making ice cream at home, particularly if your kids help choose the flavors and add the ingredients. This could be something your kids associate with a particular holiday, or you could do it throughout the summer whenever that ice cream craving strikes.

3. A Fun Run

You don’t even have to run that 5K! Walking is perfectly fine, and it still gives you an opportunity to train for the event together as a family. If you choose a race that supports a special cause, you’ll have the added benefit of helping someone in need while you develop healthy habits in your own family.

4. Neighborhood Water Fight

Recruit your neighbors and stage a massive annual water fight during the hottest part of the summer. Meet at the park or in the largest backyard, and have each family work as a team.

5. Family Vacation

You don’t have to take an extravagant trip to create this tradition. Even a day trip to a nearby town or a local museum or park can be special and memorable for your kids. Research your options. Decide what you’re going to wear and where you’re going to have lunch. Include your children in the planning and make it an event.

6. Camping in Your Backyard (or in the Living Room!)

You can make s’mores, sleep under the stars, tell ghost stories, and still have access to your own bathroom! The kids will love setting up a tent or building a pillow fort.

7. Lawn Game Tournament

Spend the summer practicing badminton, cornhole, and bocce ball, then have a tournament before school starts. You could invite friends and extended family, or keep it in-house. Make a special meal or snacks to go along with it.

The most important part of any tradition is simply the time you spend with each other. It doesn’t matter what you do, just do it together. =

Guidelines for What to Wear to a Funeral

Wed, 21 Jun 2017 04:00:00 GMT

General guidelines

Traditionally, mourners choose dark-colored attire when attending funeral services. As a rule-of-thumb, if you would feel comfortable wearing the outfit in a professional business meeting, a job interview, or a traditional religious service, it would be an appropriate choice for attending a viewing or funeral as well.

Splashes of color (e.g., a scarf, earrings, pocket square, tie) are not inappropriate, but it is good practice to avoid bright, flashy, or overly revealing fare. Modest, conservative choices are best.

Your goal is to demonstrate a reverent respect for the solemnity of the occasion. There are exceptions to this general rule, but by defaulting to this approach, you will rarely offend others or feel terribly out of place.

For Men

For men and teenage boys, consider a dark suit with a freshly ironed, button down shirt, a traditional tie (avoid whimsical prints), and dress shoes. Blues, blacks, and grays are all acceptable colors. If you do not own a suit, a nicely ironed pair of pants is usually just fine. Avoid fragrant colognes and aftershaves.

Women

Women often choose dark colored dresses, skirts, or pants when attending a funeral or viewing. When selecting accessories, avoid those that would draw attention to yourself (e.g., a rhinestone-studded, strapless sundress and orange spiked heels). Avoid strong perfumes.

Children

Select dresses, skirts, or pants in darker colors for young girls; pants and a shirt for young boys. Ensure that children’s clothing is comfortable, as they may be expected to remain still and respectful during the service.

Special requests by the family

In some cases, the general rules (above) will not apply. For example, some families may specifically request that attendees don attire honoring the deceased favorite sports team, or in the case of a child, perhaps a superhero or television character. The most important principle to keep in mind is to show respect to the family in your clothing choices.

Specific Roles in the Ceremony

Receiving line participant

If you will be part of the receiving line greeting fellow mourners and accepting their condolences, you may be standing for quite a long time. Consider this when selecting shoes. Some mourners may want to bring along a more comfortable pair of choices for this portion of the service.

Pall bearer

If you will be serving as a pall bearer, keep in mind that the weight of a casket can be very, very heavy. If you have back or knee problems, you may want to consider wearing a brace beneath your shirt or pants. If you are prone to sweating, keeping a change of dress or shirt in the car as a back-up.

Weather considerations

If you will be attending a burial or if the service itself will be held outdoors, be sure to dress accordingly. If there has been rain the night before the service, the grounds of the cemetery may be quite damp. Planning for a change of shoes, particularly for those who might be wearing heels, can be very helpful.

10 Time Capsule Ideas

Fri, 16 Jun 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Traditionally, a time capsule preserved documents until they could be discovered by someone in the future. In your own life, you can use time capsules in much the same way: to preserve records about your life to share with future generations. This way, your great-grandchildren will never have to say, “I wish we knew more more about Grandma and Grandpa.”

What should you include? Here are 10 time capsule ideas to help you get started.

10 Time Capsule Ideas

1. Letters – What would you like to say to future generations? What stories can you tell them about your life and the activities you enjoy? Write it all down.

2. Photographs- Share photos of your wedding day, the first time you held your children, other special events, and random snapshots of your daily life. Sometimes those simple moments of laughter and joy are the most cherished photographs. Don’t forget photos of your pets and your house, your street, and your town. Future generations will enjoy seeing how it has all changed by the time they open the time capsule.

3. Newspapers – This could be from any day of the current year, or if something big occurs while you’re gathering your time capsule ideas, you can include the paper from that day. News or pop culture magazines are also a good idea.

4. Objects That are Important to You – If you can stand to live without it, you might choose to include a souvenir from a special vacation, a piece of jewelry, or another memento.

5. Tickets and Invitations – If you attended a major event, like a popular festival or presidential inauguration, or saw a world-famous speaker or musician, include the ticket or program. Add invitations to family weddings, graduation receptions, or retirement parties.

6. Technology – When you upgrade your phone, save your old one. Fill it with photos and videos, and include it in your time capsule (with a charger!). This will be fun not only because the people who open the capsule will enjoy the photos and videos, but because they will be able to marvel at the old-fashioned cell phone–who knows what they’ll be using by then!

7. Books – This could be your favorite book or a book that is especially popular this year.

8. Food Packaging – This sounds strange, but look at how much a Coke label has changed over the years. Include the packaging from an iconic or a favorite food or beverage.

9. Family Tree – This is especially nice if you’ve done some genealogy research and intend this capsule to be opened several generations down the road.

10. Predictions for the Future – This is just for fun! Write down what you think will happen with technology, politics, and your own family.

Making a time-capsule is a great way to pass on a legacy to future generations, and to preserve your family history!

What to Write in a Sympathy Card

Mon, 12 Jun 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Deciding what to write in a sympathy card can feel overwhelming. What can you possibly say to people when they’ve just lost someone so important?

The fact that you are saying something is what matters. As long as you write with care and love, the recipient will appreciate the gesture and be glad to know you’re there for them.

You don’t have to write a lot, and what you say might depend on how well you knew the deceased and his or her surviving family. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

What to Write in a Sympathy Card

“With Deepest Sympathy”

Simple condolences are perfectly fine to use in your card. One or two sentences is enough.

“It Was an Honor to Know Him/Her”

If you knew the deceased, say so in your sympathy message.

“I Remember When…”

Share a short memory you have of the deceased.

“Let Me Know How I Can Help”

Sometimes it’s difficult for someone in mourning to come up with a specific request. So go ahead and be specific yourself:

“What Not to Write in a Sympathy Card”

Whatever you do, here’s what not to write:

Don’t let your concern over what to write in a sympathy card stop you from sending one. As long as you write with love, your message will be received and appreciated.

Keep Your Family History Alive With These 2 Ideas

Wed, 07 Jun 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Have you ever looked at pictures taken from an important event and for the life of you, you couldn’t recall all of the names of the people in the photo, or the year that it was taken? This is why it is so important that you label all pictures and events with names and dates. Even label pictures that you are sure you will always remember. That way, you can ensure your family history will be kept alive for generations to come and even after you are gone.

1. Recording Your Family History as it Happens

Recording your memories as they happen is an important step towards keeping your family history alive. Be sure to keep mementos of important or memorable events to add to a scrapbook. If you are not a scrapbooker, just keep them in a sturdy “Memory Box/Chest.”

Items to keep include, but are not limited to the following:

When your children find these items years later, they will have tangible reminders of the meaningful times you all spent together. They might not remember all aspects of the event, but they will remember how they felt that day. They will feel the love and family bond you all share.

2. Record What You Remember of the Past

Chances are that there are memories and photos of your family that lack context. Try to find out the stories behind these memories before they are lost. Record everything you can remember of your parents and grandparents, so your kids have something to look back on. Knowing who their family was and where they came from can be very meaningful as your children grow older. Find old pictures and write the story behind the moment on the back. Ask your parents to tell you about their childhood or better yet, to go through the old pictures with you. You might be surprised about what you learn!

Your family history is an important part of who you are. Make an effort to keep it alive so that those memories and lessons are preserved for years to come.

Making Memories That Will Last Forever

Mon, 29 May 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Remember the days you spent helping Mom in the kitchen, or those long, lazy, perfect days spent fishing with Dad? When a loved one leaves us, we are left with many powerful memories that we made together. Making memories gives our loved ones something to hold on to after we’re gone.

6 Ideas for Making Memories That Last

These are just a few ideas for making memories and passing them on to your loved ones. You can personalize these ideas and make them your own. Just remember, it’s never too late to start making memories with the people you love.

Send a Creative Sympathy Message

Tue, 23 May 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Showing your sympathy is one of the hardest things to do. You just never know what kind of gestures will bring appreciation, and which ones will bring tears and hurt. Other than physically being there for them, you can also consider giving them a creative sympathy message. It doesn’t have to be confined to some nice words on a card, come up with a sympathy message that communicates something more than words can express. Here are some creative ideas using t-shirts to send the perfect sympathy message.

Send a Sympathy Message with More than Words

Shirt Quilt

Gather the shirts your deceased friend or family member used to wear and put them together into a shirt quilt. This is a good way to take some of the memories surrounding your loved one and make them into something that will last.

Shirt Pillows

Gather the shirts your loved one used to wear – collared shirts look great – then turn them into pillows. You can attach a saying like, “This is a shirt I used to wear whenever you hold it know I am there.” This is a thoughtful message and you can make enough for all the children or grandchildren so they can have a way to remember their loved ones who have passed away.

Shirt Teddy Bears

Another creative sympathy message you can create using the shirts of a loved one is a teddy bear. Visit here to learn how to make a teddy bear with a shirt. This is a good option when creating a sympathy message for younger children.

Shirt Patches

You can also cut patches from the shirts of your loved one and attach them to other stuffed animals, pillows, etc. This is a good option if you do not have access to as many shirts.

Shirt Necklaces, Bracelets, or Headbands

For a small but wearable keepsake, you can use the shirts of a loved one to create necklaces, bracelets, or even headbands. Learn how to make them .

Heartfelt and Useful Messages

Sending a sympathy card with a heartfelt message is a good first step. But if you really want to show that you care – include specific offers for help. It is usually difficult for those going through a hard time to think of the specific ways another person can help them. Come up with some ways you can help and include those offers in your message. Here are some ideas:

Creating Family Memories and Building Traditions

Wed, 17 May 2017 04:00:00 GMT

In the age of social media, you likely feel connected to your friends and family more than ever before. Daily Facebook updates, Instagram pictures of every meal, smartphone footage of every family gathering posted to YouTube, and so much more. And it’s true: these are all family memories floating by on your timeline.

Yet you likely feel something fleeting about it all. The sheer amount of content, shared among a sea of ads. As wonderful as these services are, they often lack the intimacy of more creative or traditional ways to make family memories that stay with you for the rest of your life.

Why Making Family Memories Is Important

Traditions bring families closer together and help stabilize relationships . A simple tradition like, say, heading out to an orchard to pick apples with your extended family, might come across as arbitrary. But what would that day look like each year without that tradition? What would your long-term relationships look like with the people you mostly only see on that day? How many fun and memorable stories would simply never occur without that silly little trip?

Traditions keep families in each other’s orbit. It gives you all the chance to make memories together and to get to know each other better.

Bolster or Revive Existing Traditions

Old family traditions are a great hook to get people involved. They tie to the history of your family, connecting to people’s imaginations in a way something brand new might not.

Dig into your family lore. Ask older relatives about the origins of your family’s traditions. Maybe it’s something simple, like baking cookies at Christmas. The simple time spent together, making something everybody wants to enjoy is the hook.

Or maybe there’s a deeper hook, like a family that makes ribbon candy every holiday season because a great-grandfather was a professional confectioner; that’s your hook to fire up the imaginations of your family.

Building New Traditions

Don’t worry if your family doesn’t have any long-standing traditions. Make your own! As long as you continue developing and coming back to your tradition, it will quickly become a part of family lore.

Pick a simple, fun activity to attract as many family members as possible. Find a recipe that your family loves, that is also collaborative and labor-intensive. Play an accessible board game that allows everyone to participate. Go on a short trip to somewhere everybody can afford, like a park or a museum for a day. Bolster or create traditions that bring you closer with your family, creating closer ties to everybody you love and fostering new, potentially unexpected relationships with people you currently aren’t as close to.

5 Ways to Leave a Legacy with Your Kids

Fri, 12 May 2017 04:00:00 GMT

When we talk about how to leave a legacy, it’s often only a financial conversation. But leaving a legacy is about more than just money, it’s about the memories and lessons that you leave with your loved ones. Here are five ways to leave a memorable and meaningful legacy with your kids.

5 Ways to Leave a Legacy of Memories

1. Make More Good Memories Now

After you have passed, your kids will hold on to memories of you. Make sure there are plenty of memories for them to cherish. Spend time together. Hang out. Eat together. Do chores together. Go to their concerts and games. Call to check on them. Have family dinners regularly, and even when they’ve grown and moved out, work to be a part of their lives.

Make sure they know how valuable they are to you. Give them a call or talk when everyone is home at the end of the day, and tell them you’ve been thinking about them and want to be sure they know that you love them. Plan times together, something low-key and low stress so that you can all enjoy yourselves and build your relationships.

2. Craft a Memory

You can do this together, or do it as a gift, but create something tangible for them to hold on to when you are gone. Some great ideas to spark your imagination are:

No matter what it is, create something that they can touch, hold, and feel the love that went into making it.

3. Talk to Them About What’s Really Important.

Have real conversations, not one-way lectures. Talk about your values and where they came from. Tell your children about the best things you’ve experienced in life. Talk about the hardest times you’ve been through, and how you coped. Write them a letter that outlines some of your best experience and advice, something they can turn to when you are no longer there. Make sure they know what you believe is important in life and what you have learned about how to live a good life so that they may draw on your experiences and wisdom.

4. Provide a Family History.

Make sure your children know some of their family history. Make a scrapbook with all the pictures labeled and write out the stories that go with them. It can be a literal book, or a virtual website, just make sure the connections are there. Tell them stories about their family history. Audio or video record these stories; your voice/image telling them will be just as important as the history later.

5. Pre-plan your arrangements.

Pre-planning your funeral arrangements helps you leave a legacy in a number of ways. First, it takes the burden of trying to determine what you would have wanted off of your family while they are grieving. For many families, this can prevent conflict between family members, some of whom might have differing ideas for how to best honor your memory. Secondly, if you choose to pre-pay, you will take this financial burden off of your loved ones. When you pre-pay, that price is locked in, so it is not affected by the inevitabilities of inflation and there are multi-year, interest-free payment options available. But preplanning does not have to cost anything at all. By just leaving a plan for your family to follow you are helping to insure a legacy of love rather than of potential conflict and confusion.

No matter how you choose to leave a legacy, leave something that your loved ones can look back on. Something that reminds them of you and that will bring them comfort once you are gone.

5 Mother’s Day Traditions You Should Start this Year

Mon, 08 May 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Mother’s Day is a great opportunity to celebrate your mom in a special way. Here are five special Mother’s Day traditions you can start this year to show your mom how much you care.

5 Mother’s Day Traditions to Start This Year

1. Breakfast In Bed

It’s a classic for a reason. Maker her favorite breakfast dish and serve it alongside some fresh flowers and a hand-written Mother’s Day card.

To take this gift a step further, you might want to implement a “no mom in the kitchen” rule on Mother’s Day. Have everyone else in the family cook meals and clean up. Give your mom a break.

2. Give Her Some “Me Time”

This is perfect for mothers of young children. Sometimes all a mom wants is some alone time. Dads, after wishing your wives a happy Mother’s Day, take the kids out for a couple of hours. Your wife will appreciate the time to herself.

3. Mom and Me Spa Day

For moms with older children, try a spa day! When you’re older your mom wants more time with you, and a spa day is the perfect way to treat her. You can also combine it with brunch or a shopping trip. Just make sure to pick up the bill—it’s your mom’s special day after all.

4. Make a Weekend Out Of It

Mother’s Day weekend is a great time to surprise your mothers and wives with a fun vacation or road trip. You might want to make a tradition of traveling to those places you always swore you were going to visit, but never have the time. Go the beach, the mountains, or the lake.You can even keep a roadmap and check off all the places you’ve visited on your annual Mother’s Day road trips.

5. Mother’s Day Hike

A family hike is a great way to celebrate Mother’s Day. It gives everyone a chance to unplug and focus on spending time together (which is one of the greatest gifts a mom could ask for). Every year you can challenge yourself by hiking new paths in different parks.

Start a Mother’s Day tradition this year. It’s a meaningful way to show that you care.

5 Life Lessons We Learn from Mom

Thu, 04 May 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Moms are often our first teachers. From how to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich to how to manage your first heartbreak, there are countless life lessons a mother teaches her child. Here are just a few.

Life Lessons Learned from Mom

1. Take good care of yourself (and say yes to the chocolate).

While chocolate can’t solve all your problems, it can certainly bring a little comfort. Whether it’s chocolate or some other kind of treat, remember to take care of yourself. That means treating yourself every once in awhile, even when life is crazy and out of control. Paying attention to your own health makes it a lot easier to handle the hard things in life.

2. In the end, it’s the people that matter.

Our moms taught us to prioritize relationships. Most importantly, she modeled this philosophy in her daily life, which made this advice convincing instead of cliché. These days, smartphones and laptops make keeping in touch with others easier than ever. While nothing can replace face-to-face conversation, sending a quick text to let a friend know you’re thinking about them can go along way.

3. Everything in moderation.

Moderation may not always feel easy, but it is freeing to live without deprivation – or excess. Be mindful of finding moderation in all aspects of life: work and “play,” exercise and rest, and time alone and time with others. Finding this balance in your life helps manage stress, and keeps your priorities straight.

4. Keep it simple.

A birthday party for a toddler need not be an extravagant affair, and dinner guests won’t enjoy their evening any less if you forgo the Beef Bourguignon for your trusty spaghetti dish. Sometimes simple is better, and helps us keep our sanity.

5. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Getting a grade less than an A or having a “Mom Fail” need not be cause for self-deprecation. It’s ok to laugh at yourself. Remember, everyone makes mistakes.

Moms teach their kids a lot of valuable lessons. Those lessons are like the best gifts: timeless, useful, and cherished. What’s the most memorable lesson your mom taught you?

7 Celebration of Life Ideas

Wed, 26 Apr 2017 04:00:00 GMT

One of the most powerful, comforting ways you can say goodbye to someone you love is to make the funeral, burial, or reception a celebration of life . Planning a celebration of life is a personal project. There are a wide variety of ways to do it, and you want to find something that feels right to you. Here are a few of our favorite celebration of life ideas to honor your loved one.

A Memorial DVD of Photos

Gather pictures from their entire life, starting with their childhood, and create a slideshow set to some of their favorite songs. This can be a nice intermission or background to the reception.

Share Stories

Host an open mic of sorts, where anyone who would like to share a story of your loved one is free to do so. Tears may flow, but it can be a great time of love and laughter. Friends and family often get to hear stories of their loved one that they’d never heard before.

Choose a Theme

If your loved one was partial to a certain color, sports team, animal, or hobby, incorporate those elements into the decor of your reception. You could ask that everyone send yellow flowers, share memories of time spent watching the big game with your loved one, or have a horse-drawn hearse take him or her from the funeral home to the burial. We’ve even had a motorcycle brigade escorting the hearse in honor of an avid, life-long motorcyclist.

Plant a Tree

Planting a tree at the cemetery (if allowed), the deceased’s favorite park, or in your backyard is a beautiful gesture of love. This can be done privately, of course, or you can invite all the guests to share in the ceremony. You could also give tree seedlings to each guest, and ask them to tell you about where they plant it.

Create a Memorial Garden

If you host the reception at your home, take time to turn a small patch of soil in your backyard, plant your loved one’s favorite flowers or vegetables, and decorate it with stones and a bench. Lay a concrete path and press small mementos or etch quotes into the cement before it dries.

Make Donations in Your Loved One’s Name

This could include the memorial money sent by friends and family or your loved one’s personal belongings. You could ask each guest at the celebration of life service to bring an appropriate gift that can then be donated to your loved one’s favorite cause, or the charity can be named in the obituary.

Make a Scrapbook

Ask guests to write their favorite memories or share a photo of your loved one, and compile them together in a book. Now you have something you can look back on and see how others remembered your loved one.

Celebration of Life Ideas that Bring Resolution

No matter how you choose to do it, finding a unique way to pay tribute to your loved one brings resolution and comfort for all of their family and friends. Choose something that they would have loved and you will be well on your way to a fitting celebration of life event.

7 Grief Rituals That Get Us Through a Loss

Fri, 21 Apr 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Grief is universal. It’s unavoidable. It’s difficult. In today’s fast paced world we often look at the grief that comes with losing a loved one as something to “get through.” But many cultures around the world turn to grief rituals to help honor the passing of a loved one.

Grief rituals all have one thing in common: they help you to regain a sense of control of your emotions and your life. Having some method to work through loss helps the grief-stricken to feel more in control after a devastating loss. We know what a strong impact grief can have on overall mental health, and a ritual, both spiritual and otherwise, can help you heal.

Different Grief Rituals for Different People

Grief rituals can take many different forms and can be both personal and spiritual in nature. For many, a traditional funeral or memorial service accompanied by a burial can greatly help in the mending process. For others, choosing custom rituals in addition to the funeral services are crucial for their peace and healing.

For this reason it has become even more important for funeral services to be customizable and offer a variety of options. Many choose cremation for this reason. Cremation offers different timing and location choices, and different burial options, including the “scattering of the remains.”

But how and where your loved one is buried may not be as important as the custom and personal rituals that you choose – before, during and even after the services. Going to your loved one’s favorite restaurant to eat their favorite meal, toasting them with their favorite beverage at family events, or leaving something special at their grave can help remember and honor your loved one.

Here are 7 therapeutic rituals that can help you take control of your grief.

Remember, they are not forgotten.

Not only does a grief ritual help you heal as you regain steady emotions, it gives you and other friends and family an opportunity to remember and reflect on your loved one’s life. Having a regular ritual to remember them and honor their life is essential in a healthy grieving process.

For additional rituals or questions, contact Tharp Funeral Home and Crematory at (434) 237-9424 .

6 Bucket List Items to Do with Your Adult Children

Mon, 17 Apr 2017 04:00:00 GMT

In the blink of an eye your babies are out of diapers and heading down their own life path. Suddenly, the long sleepless nights, the football and ballet practices, and the high school graduations are behind you and the tiny people you’ve raised are out on their own. Though these quiet moments are the ones you’ve been waiting for, you realize your own life is also flying by, and you begin to wonder if you’ve left your children with enough memories. Have you shown them everything you wanted them to see? Have you taught them all they need to know ?

If you don’t have a bucket list of items of things to do with your adult children, it’s not too late to start!

6 Bucket List Items to Do with Your Adult Children

Nothing shapes us into the people we are more than our very beginning. Show your child where your roots were laid. Take a picnic and ask the current owners if you can borrow a square of their yard for the afternoon. Point out trees you’ve climbed, tell stories of your youth. Drive through the town to see what has changed, and what hasn’t. Allow your child to listen to tales of your childhood, stories of your first love, your favorite restaurant; you’ll enjoy the reminiscing too!

Perhaps you play piano, are a fabulous woodworker, or know how to knit. Pass those skills on. Take an afternoon over a cup of tea and share your skill with your children. They’ll enjoy learning about something you’ve spent time mastering. And you may be surprised by how appreciative they are of your thinking of them!

Every kid thinks they’ve pulled one over on their parents at some point. Now that they have grown, let them in on the secret. You knew a lot more than they thought you did. Tell them about the time you knew they were sneaking in past curfew, or breaking some other rule of the house. Share with them a story of your own youth too!

If time is fleeting, there is no time like the present to write a letter to your children. Tell them all the things that are difficult to put into words, explain your feelings, hash out your dreams, share with them what is in your heart. You can give it to them now, or save it for later. The important thing is taking the time while you still have it to share your messages and love.

It is so fun for future generations to look back on old family photos and talk about long, lost relatives. Sharing stories over a yellowing photo album is a great way to connect with your children. Better yet, add to the collection. Make time to take a great family photo together.

Maybe it’s snorkeling in the tropics or visiting the Grand Canyon. Maybe it’s writing a novel or building a dresser. Whatever it is that’s been on your personal bucket list, invite your child along on the adventure. Making memories doesn’t have to stop when your children become adults!

Leaving your children (and grandchildren) with memories and life lessons is, perhaps, the greatest legacy that you can leave . All of that wisdom and life experience will live on and exemplify itself in your family, and one day, they can pass those same lessons on to their own children.

“My Condolences”: Avoiding Awkward Moments at a Funeral

Fri, 07 Apr 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Here you are, standing in the receiving line at a funeral, waiting to offer your condolences. Your friend has suffered a loss and you want so much to say the right thing. “My condolences” doesn’t quite sum it up, and no matter how hard you try, you feel that your words come off as awkward, or insensitive. Really, what you may want to express boils down to a few simple ideas:

When faced with offering condolences, it’s easy to say too much. Here are a few phrases to avoid.

Like anyone who has suffered a loss, your friend is a walking wound. Your words of sympathy mean a great deal. You may be concerned about how he or she is handling the loss, but do not pressure him. Stay focused on their needs. And remember that listening when your friend is ready to talk can be the greatest way to show you care.

What Should I Wear to a Wake?

Mon, 03 Apr 2017 04:00:00 GMT

The first thing that comes to mind when a friend or loved one passes away is probably not “what should I wear?” Nevertheless, navigating the etiquette surrounding a funeral and mourning can be difficult, and answering simple questions like what to wear can cause a lot of stress. While your main goal should be to show respect to the family and the deceased by wearing something appropriate, it is also important to be able to easily pull something out of your closet.

If you’re wondering what to wear to a wake or funeral service, we’ve put together a few guidelines to help you along.

What is a wake?

A wake is is a type of funeral service that is focused on sharing stories and memories of the deceased. Wakes are generally more casual and interactive than funeral services, which are more structured around certain rituals. Many families will have both a wake and a funeral, with the wake taking place the day before the funeral service or afterward at the families’ home.

For more information on types of funeral services, see our guide.

What should I wear to a wake or funeral service?

Have you ever heard someone say, “wear your Sunday best”? Whether or not you are a church-goer, what they are referring to is looking your best out of respect and honor. And one of the most obvious ways to honor the deceased and their family than to dress the part.

Keep in mind that the dress code may change depending on the situation. Pallbearers, for example, generally wear suits. Specific religions also have specific rituals that they follow, including what they do and do not wear.

The opposite can be true for other kinds of groups, for example, biker burials, where the attire can be more casual. In this case, the most respectful thing considered is wearing their biker gear or something that commemorates the deceased, like a piece of their jewelry.

In most cases, you will want to wear something simple yet nice. Here are some ideas on what to pull out of your closet for the funeral service:

What to wear to a wake? Be respectful.

The most important consideration when you’re choosing what to wear to a wake is respecting the deceased and their family. You don’t want to try and draw attention to yourself; this event isn’t about you. Overall, your attire at a wake should be subdued, avoiding flamboyant colors or patterns, and should be at least business casual in the level of formality.

Pre-planning a Funeral – Considering Cremation

Mon, 27 Mar 2017 04:00:00 GMT

There are a lot of decisions to be made when you are preplanning a funeral, and one of them is whether you want to be buried or cremated. Here are some of the things to consider .

Why should I consider cremation when I’m preplanning a funeral?

How do I preplan a cremation ?

Choose a Funeral Director

There are over 300 licensed funeral homes in Virginia, but not all of them provide the option of cremation . If you know you’d prefer to be cremated rather than buried, make sure your funeral home is able to assist you.

Options for Cremated Remains

There are many options for respectfully disposing of cremated remains. Some people choose to have their ashes buried in the family cemetery, near their loved ones. Preplanning a funeral with your funeral director means that any questions you need to be answered can be answered well in advance, like if will you need to buy a plot, requirements for burial vaults or grave liners, headstones, etc.

There are several regulations surrounding cremated remains , so you’ll want to be sure and research the laws in your state when you’re preplanning a funeral.

Remembering Your Mom on Her Birthday

Fri, 17 Mar 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Years can go by, but you’ll always remember your mom and the impact she had on your life. She made sure you were fed, even it meant that her food got cold. She made sure you got to soccer practice, piano lessons, and sleepovers. She was there for you – when you were upset and when you were successful. Your mom saw you at your best and at your worst, and she loved you through it all. Now that she’s gone, how can you remember and honor her in a way that honors everything she was in your life?

It’s OK to grieve, and to continue to grieve.

Some people think that grief is a process with a definite beginning and end. While the process of experiencing and recovering from the raw pain and shock and loss may end, many will continue to grieve their loss for years to come. There is nothing wrong with looking back to remember and honor the loved ones we’ve lost, and in many ways, it is part of our own personal development. We can look back and learn from our moms – how they treated us, raised us, disciplined us, and loved us. This remembering is a kind of grief; we are looking back on someone we’ve lost and honoring the impact they had on our life. There’s nothing wrong with that.

5 Ways to Remember Your Mom on Her Birthday

Spending a little time to look back at your memories with your mom on a day like her birthday can be very therapeutic and encouraging. Everyone will have different memories of their moms, but here are five ideas to honor her memory on her birthday.

Honor the impact your mom had on you by doing the same.

How Does Cremation Work?

Wed, 15 Mar 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Cremation is becoming more and more popular as an interment option. It can be much more affordable than a burial and offers more flexibility in memorializing the remains. But how does cremation work? The process involves… and takes up to three hours.

The Cremation Process

The Cremator. Crematories can be found in a variety of different places. Sometimes they are a part of a funeral home and sometimes they are a standalone building and service. Inside a crematory you will find a “cremator”, which is the space where the body is cremated. Cremators are made up of two chambers, one where the body is placed and the other that circulates the gasses to produce the intense heat that cremates the body.

Cremains . The body is placed in a combustible container, and is then placed in the cremator. It is “cremated”, vaporized by intense heat, generally between 1800 and 2000 degrees. The process produces what is called “cremated remains”. Many people call these the “ashes,” but actually they are vaporized remains – and we call them “Cremains.”

What are the Benefits of Cremation ?

Cremation offers a number of benefits in addition to affordability. Flexibility is a big factor because you can choose where to scatter the remains. If your loved one was an avid sailor, you can scatter them at sea. If they had a favorite spot in the woods that they liked to retreat to, you could scatter them there. There are a few regulations governing the scattering of cremated remains , so just be sure to check before you make your decision.

Interested in learning more? Many crematoriums offer tours so you can see for yourself what it’s like and the process that is used.

Something Borrowed – Honoring a Loved One at Your Wedding

Tue, 14 Mar 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Weddings are a time for celebration, family, and commitment. It’s one of the few events for which an entire family will travel to one place, and the absence of a loved one who has passed is hard not to notice. Take the opportunity to use “something borrowed” as a way to honor someone important to you that couldn’t be at your wedding.

Something Borrowed to Honor Your Loved One

Decide Whether to be Subtle or Bold

Decide whether or not you want your tribute to be subtle or bold. This will determine the kind of tribute you do, and how it will affect your guests. Something small and borrowed is a good way to remind yourself and close family of your loved one, while a dedicated speech or musical tribute might be more bold. No matter what you choose, remembering your loved one at your wedding ceremony is the perfect way to honor their memory.

Grandma’s Dinner Rolls

Fri, 10 Mar 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Many of us can look back upon a fond memory of one of Grandma’s recipes. For some was her signature apple pie. For others, it was Grandma’s gravy that she made for every Thanksgiving meal. For many, it was her dinner roll recipe.

“I know surprisingly little about my great great grandmother, Sophronia Louise Browning. But what I do know, what I have always known, is that these are Grandma Browning’s rolls. Ever since I was a small child, that is what they have been called. Never dinner or yeast rolls, never simply bread, her name was always attached to this dough, like the recipe itself was consubstantial with her very being.” – Jacob B.

There is something iconic about the food that Grandmas make. It creates memories, and it sticks with us for our entire lives. Jacob B.’s memories of Grandma Browning’s rolls are probably similar to the memories you have of something your Grandma made. It’s funny that a simple recipe for dinner rolls becomes her recipe. It was probably a recipe perfected over generations, and it was so perfect that everyone knew her rolls from everyone elses (and of course there was no comparison).

Memories Made with Grandma

It’s not always just about remembering the flavor and exerience of having Grandma’s signature dish every year. It’s also about the memories you made with your Grandma. Many of us can remember helping our Grandmas cook in their kitchens every year, and this might be what really made their food so delicious.

“As a child, standing on a stool, my hands on her cutting board, squishing the dough between my tiny fingers, I remember Grandma I smiling down at me, telling me that this was very special bread, that this bread had to be kneaded for exactly twenty-five minutes. No more. No less. And to this day, whether in the mixer, or by hand, I ensure that it kneads for exactly that long. If I close my eyes I can still remember the smell of her kitchen, the sound of her gentile, contented humming, the way she seemed to glide from counter to counter, as if in some elaborately choreographed food ballet.” – Jacob B.

The smell of her kitchen, the sound of her voice, and her one, very specific instruction, are what made her rolls so good, and what makes Jacob remember them so fondly.

Cremation Planning Checklist

Tue, 07 Mar 2017 05:00:00 GMT

When you lose a loved one, the last thing you want to try and remember all the details of planning a funeral service and scheduling events. That’s why we have compiled a Cremation Planning Checklist to reference in your time of need. Plus, we’ve put together a downloadable guide to help you navigate all the questions surrounding cremation.

The Decision

The Preparation

The Process

Cremation Planning – Pre-Planning Makes it Easy

5 DIY memory projects to display something tangible

Wed, 01 Mar 2017 05:00:00 GMT

We all have little things that remind us of a loved one who has passed. It could be an old quilt, a rolling pin, an old tobacco pipe, or even their biker rag. Sometimes, the best way to keep these memories safe for years to come is by refurbishing them into something new – something that can be seen and even held.

Check out these 5 DIY ideas for turning something that belonged to your loved one into a conversation piece in your home.

No-sew pillows

A pillow is a great way to take an old shirt, piece of a blanket, or jacket that belonged to your loved one and making it into something you can see and use every day. The best part is that you don’t even need to know how to sew! Just find something of your loved one’s that would make good pillow fabric, cut it to size, and create a beautiful piece for your home.

Check out this tutorial for no-sew pillows on youtube.

Frame a piece of their art

If your loved one was artistic, find a piece of their art and frame it. This works great for old drawings that were never framed or displayed, but that you don’t want to just throw away. Displaying it in your home lets you remember them every day.

Create a glowing photo luminary

A photo luminary is a type of lantern that has a space for a photograph. You can find kits to make them at most craft stores, or you can make your own with a few simple supplies. This is a great way to remember your loved one every day, and it’s also a great way to share their memory with others. Here’s a DIY luminary tutorial.

Create a memorial planter

Do you enjoy having plants in your house? Use something of your loved one’s like a motorcycle helmet or old guitar and make a planter out of it.

Here is a tutorial on how to turn someone’s favorite book into a planter.

Take advantage of photography

Photography can be a powerful tool for remembering our loved ones. Framing an old photo or going a step further with a collage is a great way to gather all the best memories in one place.

For example…

Cremation Urns: A Guide to Selection

Mon, 26 Dec 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Cremation services offer many advantages, and one of them is the uniqueness available in cremation urns. Cremation urns are highly customizable and allow you to honor the deceased in a personal and expressive way. Here are some of the options to consider when choosing from the selection of cremation urns.

Size

There are several sizes of cremation urns. When determining the size of urn you will want to take two primary things into consideration.

Color & Style

There are many different colors and styles of cremation urns, and many individuals will select one in the favorite color of the deceased. You will also want to consider where and if the urn will be displayed, and select a color and style that goes with its surroundings.

Material

Choosing the material of your urn will not only impact the look and color of it, but also the where it might be displayed. If you are displaying it indoors, almost every material is available to you. On the other hand, if you wish to display or inter the urn outside, you will want to select a durable material that can withstand the elements and climate change. Outdoor cremation urns are often made out of metal or stone.

If you are planning to scatter the cremated remains at sea or in a river or lake, you can choose a biodegradable urn so it can break down in the environment without causing any harm. Again, your funeral director can show you numerous options and styles.

Cremation Urns Are Personal

Choosing a cremation urn is a personal choice, that’s why there are so many options to choose from. The most important thing is that the urn you choose is meaningful to you and that you feel honors and represents the deceased.

To learn more about urn selection, go to our products page at tharpfuneralhome.com

Considerations for an Open Casket vs. a Closed Casket

Thu, 22 Dec 2016 05:00:00 GMT

When you’re planning a viewing, family visitation and/or funeral service, you will need to decide whether you would like an open casket or a closed casket. You will have a lot to consider, from what you believe the deceased would have wanted to time constraints and religious considerations. We’re here to walk you through the things you might want to consider.

An Open Casket Helps Provide Closure

An open casket can provide a sense of closure, especially to friends and family that were not with their loved one when he or she passed. Seeing the deceased one last time to say goodbye can be a great comfort and can allow that person to begin the journey of healing.

Even if family was present at the time of death, it can be extremely comforting to see their loved one wearing clothing that they loved and with their hair fixed just right. “ Now that ’s how I remember my mom looking! She was so particular about her appearance and when she was in the hospital she was in so much pain, but now she looks at peace …”

Closed Casket Considerations

Religious considerations- Some faith traditions do not encourage an open casket, or require that the body be buried as quickly as possible after death.

The condition of the body- Depending on how your loved one died, the body may not be in a condition that is appropriate for a public viewing. You may also want to consider a closed casket if the deceased was very sick and had lost a great deal of weight before they died. You may feel that they wouldn’t want to be seen and remembered as they were when they passed.

The date of the funeral service- While most funeral services take place within a week of the loved one having passed, sometimes it is not possible to plan it and gather family and friends so quickly. In this case, the body may no longer be presentable and the family may choose a closed casket.

Dealing with Death During the Holidays

Mon, 19 Dec 2016 05:00:00 GMT

When we think of the holidays, most of us remember time spent with family, making memories and enjoying the season. But when you’ve lost a loved one, the holidays can bring back feelings of grief and sorrow. If you’re dealing with death this holiday season, here are four things to help you cope.

1. Let yourself grieve

“I remember the first time we sat down for Thanksgiving dinner after grandpa died. We all came around the table to sit, but before we could sit down mamma and grandma were both in tears. It was hard to enjoy the meal without grandpa seated at the head of the table. As I ’ve grown into a woman with children of my own, I still miss him – and mamma still cries sometimes. But we ’ve learned that it ’s important to talk about our special memories of him and what it was like at Christmastime when he would put the tree up, or the way his eyes would light up when his grandchildren opened their presents. ”

It’s natural to grieve, and the holidays can be especially hard. Sometimes it might feel like they take you right back to the day you lost your loved one, and that’s ok. Let yourself grieve. Some families find comfort in going through old photos and talking about the special memories and holidays you spent together. Grief shared is grief diminished, so always try to find someone to talk with about your feelings.

2. Hang a Special Ornament

Sometimes we need to create a special tribute or dedicate a certain item in our home to remembering our loved one. Make or have a special ornament made that you can hang up every year. It’s a great way to honor your loved one each holiday season.

If you don’t have a tree or a place to hang ornaments, consider another special decoration that you can put up every year in their memory. It could be a piece of artwork, a holiday quilt, or even some holiday dinnerware.

“Years after he died, my family decided to put together a book of stories – meaningful events that we remembered about our life with him. Each member of the family hand-wrote two or three memories into the same journal. When it was done, we wrapped it up and gave it to grandma. It still sits on her coffee table every year at Christmastime. ”

3. Pull Out Their Signature Recipes

“ Everyone knew what Grandpa loved: rum cake drizzled with icing, a giant slice of pumpkin pie covered with whipped cream, and Grandma ’s gravy … on everything else. Each year the flavors of the season remind us of the love we felt when he was around, and the love that is and always will be in our hearts for him. “

Whether it was a pumpkin pie recipe or Grandma’s gravy, many of us remember dishes our family made with fondness. If your loved one had a signature dish they cooked, baked, or just really enjoyed, the holidays are a great time to recreate it with your whole family. Together you can remember all of the good times spent around the table with your loved one.

4. Make New Traditions or Carry on the Old Ones

“We still have strong family traditions that mamma has carried on from her childhood. Grandpa especially loved setting up the manger scene that grandma hand-painted, and getting out the big Christmas characters that sang and danced when you walked by. Each year there is a giant, bright tree in the living room decorated with beautiful bows and ribbons that Grandma sets up. ”

There were probably a lot of traditions you shared with your loved one. You might find you want to carry on some of these on as a kind of legacy or you might want to start new ones. Either way, traditions can be a great way to remember your loved one, and memories of them will no doubt influence both old and new traditions in your family.

Dealing with death during the holidays

Dealing with death in the holiday season can be very difficult, but it’s important that you find some way to cope. Don’t hide your grief or pretend it’s not there. Grief shared is grief diminished so look for ways to connect with other loved ones to talk about your loss.
You might also want to find a grief group in your community to find others who are also dealing with death. These groups can help provide the support system you need over the holidays.

“It ’s really helpful for my family that we have each other to talk to. Grief comes at unexpected times, but not everyone has a build-in support system. Take advantage of grief groups or church groups in your community, or just phone a friend … it really helps just to have someone who will listen. ”

Sending Comfort with a Holiday Sympathy Message

Fri, 16 Dec 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Sending a sympathy message to someone who has lost a loved one is very natural in the days surrounding the funeral. But grief doesn’t fade away in just a couple days, weeks, or even months. Families often deal with the grief of losing someone for years, and the holidays can be an especially difficult time. When you’re thinking of friends and family members this holiday season, consider sending a sympathy message to those who are still grieving a loss .

A sympathy message lets them know they aren’t alone

One of the most difficult parts of dealing with grief is feeling alone. Though it may seem small to you, sending a simple sympathy message to a grieving family can be an incredible comfort. Just knowing that someone is thinking of them makes it much easier to deal with the pain of loss.

If you live close by, consider having coffee or dinner with the friend or family member dealing with the loss, especially if they don’t have many other relationships close by.

Crafting an appropriate sympathy message

It can be difficult to know what to say, but the most important thing is to let them know you are thinking of them. Here are some ideas for crafting an appropriate and meaningful sympathy message.

What else can you do?

If your friend or family member doesn’t have other family in the area, invite them to your celebrations. It will not only show your support for them, it will also help them combat the loneliness they are undoubtedly experiencing. This might be especially true if the person lost a spouse; someone they spent every holiday with even when other family was far away. Help them find some joy and community in the holidays by inviting them to be a part of your own community and family. It’s a big gesture but one that is sure to be genuinely appreciated.

Remember your friends and family who have lost someone this holiday season. A sympathy message could be just the thing to help them cope with grief and find some joy this year.

For more ideas, Hallmark has a number of great suggestions and appropriate phrases to include when you are crafting your sympathy message.

Cremated Remains – Regulations

Mon, 21 Nov 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Different states have different rules and regulations that govern the scattering of the cremated remains. Here are some of the common areas for scattering cremated remains , and the regulations that govern them.

Common Areas for Scattering Cremated Remains

Cemetery – Some cemeteries provide areas where you can scatter ashes, but contact the cemetery directly to learn what their individual rules are for scattering cremated remains on their grounds.

Private Land – In Virginia, you are allowed to scatter cremated remains on your own private property. If you wish to scatter the ashes on private land that you do not own, then you will be required to get the permission of the land owner.

Federal Land – Prior to scattering ashes on federal land, you should seek permission. Generally, the National Park Service will grant permission to scatter cremation remains within the boundaries of a national park if certain guidelines are followed. In the Blue Ridge Parkway, they ask that you refrain from scattering the ashes within 100 feet of any trail, road, developed facility, or body of water. They also request that cremated remains not be scattered at Craggy Gardens and Devils Courthouse because the ash builds up in the rocky crevices and can change the soil’s pH balance. Permits are required if an official ceremony is to be performed within park’s boundaries.

Sea – The Federal Clean Water Act states that cremated remains must be scattered at least three nautical miles from land, according to the Neptune Society . The Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) must be notified within 30 days of scattering the ashes at sea.

Other Body of Water – State agencies that govern clean water bodies generally require a permit before cremated remains can be dispersed into a river or lake.

Air – Ashes can be scattered in the air via a plane, hot air balloon, or during a skydiving jump. However, federal aviation laws says that you cannot drop a hard object into the air, so you must remove the ashes from any container before dispersal into the air.

Beach – The Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) does not allow cremated remains to be scattered on any public beach.

As you can see, there are many different options available for the scattering of cremated remains. Ask your funeral director to help make contact with these agencies on your behalf so that you can focus on grieving and being with your family.

For more information regarding cremation, contact Tharp Funeral Home at (434) 237-9424 .

After the Funeral Arrangements – 10 Ways to Help

Mon, 07 Nov 2016 05:00:00 GMT

The death of a family member can cause tremendous distress in a family. Each person may handle it differently, but there are a few things that you can do for the family after funeral arrangements have been made to help comfort them and ease some of their stress.

10 Ways to Help After the Funeral Arrangements

Once they get through the initial business of making funeral arrangements, a grieving family can take weeks or months to return to any semblance of a normal life. Just remind them that you’re there for them. Whether or not they accept the offer of help, they’ll appreciate knowing that you care.

4 Healthy Ways of Dealing with Death

Mon, 10 Oct 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Dealing with death can be extremely stressful and can place a strain on your health and your family relationships. Here are a few ways you can grieve in a healthy manner.

1. Don’t be Afraid to Grieve

Allow yourself to go through the entire grieving process. It can take time, but if you do not allow yourself the chance to grieve your loved one’s death, the loss will begin eating away at your happiness and peace. The Mayo Clinic says this about dealing with grief , “Grief is an inner sense of loss, sadness and emptiness. Mourning is how you express those feelings.” Give yourself whatever time you need to mourn your loss…don’t feel rushed. It is not a linear process with each day getting progressively better, but if you work to remain open to expressing your feelings—whatever they may be—you will find that over time things are improving.

2. Talk About Death

Your loved one’s death should not be something you go through alone. Consider joining a grief support group of people in a situation similar to yours, or at least be open to talking to close friends and family who are willing to lend an ear. Surround yourself with an excellent, tight-knit, positive support system that actively checks in on you to make sure you’re ok.

If you are not ready to talk, express your emotions in a journal instead. This is a more private way to communicate your feelings, but still allows you a safe, healthy outlet for your thoughts.

3. Keep a Memory Box

Use a small box to keep special mementos of your loved one, like notes, pictures, clippings, or anything else that reminds you of them. If the death is too new to reminisce, continue to save everything and tuck the box away for a time when you are ready to go through it.

4. Don’t Follow a Timeline

People will tell you that time will heal your pain. Time certainly will help, but it will not bring your loved one back. Don’t give yourself a deadline to finish grieving. Chances are, your grief will always remain to some extent. Instead, heal in your own time, at your own pace and do whatever you need to do to allow yourself to get through the process.

Remember, it’s ok to grieve. It’s ok to feel sad, angry, or frustrated. The important part is dealing with your grief, in a healthy way, constructive way. This means something different for everyone, so don’t feel like you have to follow a step by step plan that will magically make you feel better. Grieving is a process, and hopefully some of these ideas will help you through it.

Funeral and Cremation Planning in Lynchburg, VA

Tue, 27 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Nestled next to the Blue Ridge Mountains in Central Virginia, Lynchburg is a growing town with a long history. Its funeral homes and cemeteries reflect this small town, family oriented feeling with historic chapels and histories of their own that date back to the early 1900s. We’ve put together this useful guide for funeral services in the area if you are funeral or cremation planning in Lynchburg, VA.

Funeral Homes and Crematories

Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory
https://tharpfuneralhome.com/

Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory is a family-owned funeral home and crematory that has been serving Central Virginia since 1933. They have locations all over the area in Bedford, Lynchburg, Smith Mountain Lake, and Madison Heights and offer funeral and cremation services at affordable prices.

The premier funeral home in the Lynchburg area, Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory considers you family and is dedicated to providing you with unmatched service and attention to your needs. The staff at Tharp Funeral Home & Crematory is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to assist with any funeral or cremation needs.

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Funeral Homes offering similar services to the Lynchburg area

Community Funeral Home
https://www.communityfuneralhomeinc.com/home/index.cfm?fh_id=12473

Community Funeral Home is a locally owned funeral home in downtown Lynchburg. Established in 1946, they have been serving the Lynchburg area for decades.

Davis-Turner Funeral Service
https://www.meaningfulfunerals.net/home/index.cfm?action=public%3Aobituaries.default&fh_id=10417

Davis-Turner Funeral Service is owned by locals from Lynchburg. They are focused on catering to the unique needs and traditions of each family.

Diuguid Funeral Home
https://www.diuguidfuneralservice.com/about-us/history-and-staff

Diuguid Funeral Home has been serving Lynchburg for 198 years and currently has two locations in the Lynchburg area

Heritage Funeral Service & Cremation
https://www.heritagefuneralandcremation.com/

Heritage Funeral Services & Cremation has one location in Lynchburg, VA. They offer funeral and cremation services.

Whitten Funeral Home
https://www.dignitymemorial.com/whitten-funeral-home-park-avenue/en-us/index.page

Whitten Funeral Home is a Dignity Memorial Inc. provider that serves Madison Heights and Lynchburg. They offer funeral and cremation services.

Florists

When you are planning a funeral in the Lynchburg area, you may need to find a florist to provide flowers for the funeral service and maybe even for the burial. Below is a list of recommended local providers.

The Flower Basket (Madison Heights)
www.flowerbasketva.com
434-929-1960

Cheryl’s Secret Garden (Lynchburg)
www.cherylssecretgarden.biz
434-239-0247

Leo Wood Florist (Lynchburg)
www.lynchburgleowoodflorist.com
434-845-2309

Bloom by Doyle’s (Lynchburg)
www.bloombydoyles.com
434-846-6581

Arthur’s Flower Cart (Lynchburg)
https://www.arthursflowercart.com
434-239-2629

Kathryn’s Flower Shop (Downtown Lynchburg)
www.kathrynsflowerandgiftshop.com
434-846-6494

Cemeteries

Fort Hill Memorial Park
https://www.burialplanning.com/cemeteries/fort-hill-memorial-park/

Fort Hill Memorial Park is located in Lynchburg and offers in-ground burials, cremation benches and rocks, a garden mausoleum, garden crypts, private estates, flush memorials, monuments and niches.

Old City Cemetery
https://www.gravegarden.org/

Old City Cemetery was established in 1806 and is the oldest municipal cemetery in Virginia that is still in use today. While it is an active burial site, it is also a historic attraction and has a public garden and “history park.”

Presbyterian Cemetery
https://www.presbyteriancemeteryva.com/

The Presbyterian Cemetery was established in 1823 and continues to serve the Lynchburg area today. It has personal and historic burial sites, and art sculptures on the grounds.

Spring Hill Cemetery
https://www.springhillcemetery.org/

Spring Hill Cemetery was established in 1852 and was designed to feel like a park or garden. The cemetery incorporates and preserves nature throughout its grounds, offering visitors a beautifully serene experience.

Virginia Memorial Park
https://www.burialplanning.com/cemeteries/virginia-memorial-park/

Established in 1959, Virginia Memorial Park serves the Forest area. They offer in-ground burials, cremation, lawn crypts, and mausoleums.

Expressing Sympathy After the Funeral Service is Over

Tue, 20 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

The funeral service is just one of the initial steps of dealing with the death of a loved one, and those who are grieving may still be in a state of shock. In fact, sometimes dealing with loss after the funeral is even harder than the funeral service itself. So what can you do to comfort someone after the funeral is over? Here are some ideas.

What to say

Knowing what to say to someone who is dealing with the grief of a loved one passing is difficult. Mostly, they just want to know that you care, you miss their loved one too, and that you are available if they need anything. They might not need help with anything, but know that someone is willing to offer is a great support when dealing with the pain of loss.

Offer to help with the reception

If they have not hired a catering service for the reception, you could offer to make some meals, or help set up the reception area with tables and chairs. You could also offer to make tea or coffee, and serve it at the reception to the other guests. If they are hiring chairs, crockery, and cutlery, offer to fetch it for them before the funeral and return it to the hiring company afterwards.

Offer to watch their children

They may not want to be away from their family during this difficult time, but there are things that they will need to take care of, and they may need someone to watch their children. Offering to take their kids for a couple hours can be a huge help to someone after the funeral.

Send flowers

Send them some flowers in the days or weeks following the funeral, just so they know you are thinking of them. Don’t forget to attach a little greeting card with an uplifting message to the bouquet.

Visit them at home or invite them out

You don’t want to impose, but visiting the bereaved at home for just a few minutes can lift their spirits and get their minds off of their grief. They may not feel like socializing much, but you could ask them to join you for lunch or coffee when they’re ready. Maybe bring them some home-cooked food, or invite them over for dinner to get them out of their house.

It’s difficult to know how to help after the funeral is over, but the important thing is letting the bereaved know that you are there for them and available to help however you can.

Legal Questions- Before and After the Funeral Service

Tue, 20 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

There are a lot of legal questions surrounding a funeral service. The power of attorney, the will, a living trust; there are a lot of terms to know and understand. Whether you are planning for the future or trying to sort everything out after the funeral you probably have a lot of questions.

To help you understand some of the terms and distinctions, we’ve provided answers to some of the most common questions before and after the funeral.

A Living Will vs. A Living Trust

A Living Will and a Living Trust sound similar but they are actually very different things with very different purposes. A Living Will is a document that communicates your wishes regarding your medical care at the end of your life. A living trust on the other hand, holds and distributes your assets.

What is a Health Care Power of Attorney/Health Care Proxy?

Your health care power of attorney or proxy will be given the legal right to make medical decisions for you in the event that you are too ill to do so. Choose someone who can be trusted to make sensitive end-of-life decisions and who will respect your wishes.

Key Functions of a Will

You may have probably heard about all the misconceptions surrounding wills and what may or may not occur if you don’t have one. Here are some key functions of a Will.

Your assets are inherited by the person or persons you choose – Most people assume that if a husband or wife dies, everything goes to the surviving spouse. That is certainly true of jointly owned property, but in Pennsylvania (and most other states) the surviving husband or wife is entitled to only about one-half the individually owned assets of a deceased spouse with the rest of the assets passing to the children.

A Will appoints guardians for Your Children – If you die before your children reach adulthood, a Will can appoint a guardian for your children. Make sure that your chosen guardian is willing to agree before writing them into the Will.

Appoint a trustee for your children- This is the guardian overseeing your children’s estates while they are still minors. They will oversee the inheritance until the children reach adulthood.

Appointing Executors – This is the person in charge of the administration of your estate. Nominating an executor could help avoid arguments over who should locate your assets, and handle distribution, and taxes.

When a Will Doesn’t Help

A Will does not control your annuities, life insurance, or retirement funds. These do not form part of your property and the beneficiaries you nominated benefit.

What Will Happen Without a Will?

Not having a Will means that your estate will be controlled by an intestate law. The court will distribute your assets to your next of kin, and they will also appoint legal guardians and trustees to any underage children.

Proper Etiquette at Funeral Services

Thu, 15 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Sometimes someone who had established business or personal relationship with the deceased might avoid attending the wake, memorial or funeral service for them because they are afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. Unfortunately, their reluctance may be viewed as a sign of disrespect by the families and it prevents them from having the closure of saying goodbye. Here’s a short guide to attending funeral services so you can go without feeling awkward or self-conscious.

At the funeral home

Some wakes and funeral services are held at the funeral home, even when a preacher or minister presides over the services. Whether the funeral service itself is religious or secular, attendees should always be respectful of the families’ preference and behave in a courteous manner.

If you attend the wake and do not intend to stay for the service itself, you should extend your condolences, sign the guestbook and take your leave before the funeral service begins. It is considered bad form to leave in the middle of a service. Similarly, take great care to make sure that you don’t arrive late once the service has begun. You don’t want your untimely entrance or exit to distract from those who are grieving and paying their last respects to their loved one.

At a church

If the deceased was Catholic, he or she may have a funeral Mass held at their church. Mourners who are of the same faith may elect to participate fully in the Mass, including receiving the Eucharist at communion. Non-Catholics should refrain from sacramental participation and need only remain respectfully seated during that time.

Usually there will be missalettes in the pews that allow mourners to follow along with the Mass, including the proper responses to prayers. Non-Catholics can remain silent during any professions of faith during the Mass.

During secular services

If the deceased had no religious affiliation, the service itself may be more informal. Often these type of funerals include brief remembrances of special moments with the deceased during his or her lifetime by those who were close with him or her. These remarks may be prepared in advance or be more spontaneous, but should always be respectful and positive. While a lighthearted reference may be welcomed, the general tone of any remarks should remain solemn.

What to wear in funeral services

Again, respect is the guiding principle here. Dark-colored dresses and pant suits for women and navy or black suits for men are always appropriate. Never wear anything that could distract from the funeral services.

Sometimes bereaved family members choose to honor the deceased by requesting that mourners wear a certain color or style of dress. It’s appropriate to follow the families’ lead in such matters, but wearing a more traditional type of outfit as mentioned above is also respectful and within the bounds of decorum.

When attending any type of funeral service, make sure to express your condolences to the family and remember to sign the guest book before taking your leave.

If you need further assistance or have questions, please call our helpful staff at Tharp Funeral Home at (540) 586-3443

Funeral Etiquette: Visitations

Wed, 14 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Funeral visitations are a way for friends and loved ones to support the family and offer condolences in their time of grief. In today’s ever-changing society, where things are becoming more and more informal, it can be difficult to know just what the proper etiquette is when attending a funeral visitation.

Proper funeral etiquette on what to wear?

Funeral visitation can vary greatly from family to family, so most importantly, you should take your cues from the family and atmosphere to avoid any faux pas. In most situations, visitation is open to anyone who knew the person who passed, or who is a friend of someone in the family. This is generally a solemn event (unless otherwise specified), so your attire should be subdued, this is no time to be making any fashion statements.

How should I act?

It is completely appropriate to express sadness, but remember that the family is still dealing with their own grief and shock. Do your best to stay focused on them and on paying your respects.

What should I say?

What do you say to the family during a visitation? Think carefully before you speak and if you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to say, then don’t say it.

Here are some examples of things you might say:

If a member of the family doesn’t know you, be sure to introduce yourself and briefly explain your relationship with the person who has passed before you offer your sympathy and condolences. When you approach the family, say something that comes from the heart, but be brief about it. The family will appreciate hearing that the deceased is fondly remembered and missed by their friends.

If you need further assistance or have questions, please call our helpful staff at Tharp Funeral Home at (540) 586-3443

Funeral Etiquette: How to express your sympathy

Tue, 13 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Expressing your heartfelt sympathy can provide a great sense of comfort to a grieving family. While personal visits are ideal to show you care, there are times when visiting the bereaved at home is simply not possible. Here are some other ways you can express your sympathy for the family.

Email

Conveying your sympathy via email is appropriate if you knew the deceased professionally. It’s also ideal for when you’re away, or if emailing is the only means you have to send your condolences. If you’re away, you might say that you’ll visit the family as soon as you return.

Flowers

Convey your sympathy with an elegantly arranged all-white bouquet, as white represents sincerity and reverence. You may however want to opt for something more colorful to brighten the family home and add some fragrance. Flowers show you care and can also create a soothing diversion for those who are grieving. You can also send flowers directly to the funeral home.

Providing Food for the Family

The grieving family may be too busy to prepare meals, so bringing them a home cooked meal is the perfect way to express your sympathy. Prepare food that can be easily re-heated or stored in the refrigerator. Soups are ideal, as they can be frozen and reheated when necessary. The family might also appreciate dips, cold cuts, crackers and cheese for guests. Pre-cooked meals, sandwiches, or platters with bite-sized servings are ideal.

Mass Cards

For a family coming from the Catholic tradition, you could give the family a mass offering or memorial card as a reminder that their loved one will be prayed for in Mass. This serves as a token of remembrance and resembles a greeting card, which can be very uplifting to those who are grieving. These cards can also be given to remember the deceased on the anniversary of their death.

Memorial Gifts

Some choose to honor the deceased with a memorial donation. This is especially common if the deceased had a disease where funding for research and treatment is ongoing. If this is the case, ask the family which charity or organization they’d like memorial donations to go to, and don’t forget to leave the family’s details with the charity.

Phone Calls

Brevity is of the utmost importance here, as the bereaved will probably be overwhelmed with calls during this time. Convey your sympathy in a genuine and honest way, but remember that the family is dealing with their own grief. Keep the topic of the phone call about them.

Funeral Services

Attending the funeral service is an ideal way to pay your last respects. If a viewing is available, be sure to be punctual, as you may not get to see the deceased once they’ve closed the casket. You might also get the chance to speak with the family in person before the service, or during the reception.

No Matter How, Express Sympathy

It’s difficult to know what to say in the midst of grief. All you can do is your best to offer comfort and help to the family and to find closure for yourself.

If you need further assistance or have questions, please call our helpful staff at Tharp Funeral Home at (540) 586-3443

What Happens to Your Online Presence After You’re Gone?

Mon, 12 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

These days, most individuals have some kind of online presence. In fact, for many of us, much of our personal information is stored somewhere online. Our financial and business information, music, photos, and other vital documents are usually all stored digitally.

Maybe you really haven’t thought about this question yet, but you need to consider: What will happen to your online presence, to all your digital assets, after you’re gone?

Your Online Presence After You’re Gone

Will your accounts just disappear? Will others be able to access your personal information? Could someone steal your identity after your death?

Facebook has considered these questions and now offers you the option to designate someone to be your “Legacy Contact.” This person will have the authority to post information, answer friend requests, and update a profile information, in the event of your death. Unfortunately, not every company has a convenient option like this, so you need to make sure you have a digital Will, to make sure that all of your digital assets are in good hands after your death.

Create a Digital Will

A digital Will informs others of how you would like your online accounts to be handled after your death. To create one, follow these steps:

Don’t Forget These 4 Elements When Writing Your Will

Mon, 29 Aug 2016 04:00:00 GMT

People often underestimate the importance of creating a Will – an important document that lays out your final wishes and establishes directives regarding your possessions for both family and legal authorities to follow after you are gone.

Often people will delay or avoid completing this important document–perhaps thinking there is plenty of time or that there is not much to divide or leave behind. Nonetheless, it is still important to have a Will, regardless of the size of your estate, so that you can ensure that your assets are correctly divided in a quick and efficient way after you are gone.

It is also very important that your Will is up to date with all new Virginia laws and includes all the information necessary for others to clearly understand your final wishes and instructions. As with any important legal document, you should be sure to have a qualified attorney help you in its creation—especially if your estate is larger or you have heirs that may not easily work together on the distribution of your assets.

Four Key Elements to Include When Writing Your Will

For any Will, there are four important elements to remember to place in the document: 1. guardianship designations, 2. heirloom assignments, 3. financial assignments, and 4. final directives. Each provides important information for a surviving spouse and/or children. Even if one element does not apply to your specific circumstance, it should be addressed, even if just to say it is not applicable.

Guardianship Designation

Make sure to speak ahead of time to a trusted friend or family member about becoming the guardian of your children if you were to die while they were still underage. This person should be clearly defined in your Will so that arrangements can be made quickly, with as little legal difficulty as possible.

Heirloom Assignments

This element of your Will allows you to lay out plans for any heirlooms, mementos, or any objects with sentimental and/or cash value, and pass them on to a specific family member or friend. Each assignment should specifically name the individual and, if possible, provide a clear description of the object to ensure that the right person receives the correct object. Defining this in your Will helps your family avoid squabbling over prized family possessions after you pass.

Financial Assignments

The distribution of your assets should be made as specific and complete as possible. Even if all of the assets are to be left to a surviving spouse, having a clear itemization of these assets in your Will ensures that those assets will be transferred quickly and without legal complications.

Final Directives

This is a catch-all category that includes any information that doesn’t fit into any of the other elements of the Will. It can include any final messages or specific comments that you wish to convey to your surviving family members or friends. But remember, DO NOT PUT YOUR FUNERAL DIRECTIVES IN YOUR WILL. The Will is usually read AFTER your funeral ceremony has been completed, so any instructions for your funeral should be kept separate from your Will and shared with family and the funeral home of your choice BEFORE your death.

How to Find the Right Funeral Director

Mon, 25 Jul 2016 04:00:00 GMT

When it comes to discussing end of life arrangements, many family members feel uncomfortable with or may refuse to participate in planning the funeral. This is understandable…it is an extremely stressful time and most people have little experience in making funeral arrangements. However, end of life planning is not something that ultimately can be ignored or put off indefinitely. By finding the right funeral director, you can make this unavoidable responsibility go much more smoothly. Plus, finding a funeral director at a locally owned, family funeral home that is dedicated to serving the community will ensure that you receive the best, personally attentive care possible?

What Is A Funeral Director?

A funeral director is a licensed professional experienced in all aspects of the preparation and planning of a funeral service. This includes preparing the deceased for viewing, burial, or cremation, managing funeral staff, and the completion of all legal documents related to certifying the death. There are several different ways to go about looking for the right funeral director.

Where To Begin?

While the exact licensing requirements of a funeral director will vary slightly from state to state, the most important consideration is the individual’s reputation and the reputation of the funeral home where they work. Family situations vary widely, but the impression left by the funeral director is lasting and is often expressed by the families they have served. You should look for this kind of positive feedback on funeral home websites as well as general sources such as Facebook pages and Google reviews.

The Best Expressions Are From The Heart

A good example of what to look for when reading reviews is when a family makes a statement such as “ I cannot recommend you highly enough for the job you did. You made me feel we were the only family you had to take care of and put forth every effort to accommodate our requests and our funeral budget.” You want to work with a funeral director that puts you and your family first. Someone who treats your situation with the respect you deserve and not as another just another customer. Other examples might look like; “ “I just want to thank you for everything. You have helped me and my family through the worst possible time in our lives. The funeral service was absolutely beautiful and I couldn’t have asked for anything more. No detail was overlooked and our entire family was so pleased.” Losing someone you love is never easy, but a qualified funeral director will help you navigate these intricacies while also providing the support you need at a difficult time.

Being prepared for life’s eventualities is an important goal. Planning ahead for funeral arrangements provides you with the peace of mind in knowing that your wishes are clear and will be respected, and that you have reduced a heavy and heartfelt burden from your family’s shoulders. Take the time to research and find a funeral director who will help you through this process, preferably before a death occurs.

The Benefits of Cremation Services

Tue, 12 Jul 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Pre-Planning a Funeral for Baby Boomers

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

The baby boomer generation of the 50’s and 60’s is a generation that knows what they want – from organization to planning, hospitality, and comfort. Whatever they could challenge, they did. The “boomer effect” has rocked this country in the best way possible, and now it is being felt in their openness to pre-planning their funerals.

Standard funeral services are making way for more custom memorial experiences, with 80% of funerals today being designed as a healing experience for surviving family and friends.

Tharp Funeral Home gives individuals the ability to personally design their own funeral through a pre-planning guide.

The most popular trends for boomer funerals include slide shows, video tributes, and displaying personal memorabilia such as musical instruments or sports equipment. Whatever inspires them – it can be featured as a vibrant element at their memorial.

Pre-planning is a Gift

Disposition of the Body

For the real disposition of the body, many boomers prefer cremation to burial or internment. They often choose to have their ashes spread over a favorite or exotic location as opposed to preserved in an urn . After dispersal, the urn can then be turned into jewelry or some other unique keepsake.

‘Green burials’ are also gaining popularity with baby boomers. There are plenty of green options such as no-embalming methods, eco-friendly cemeteries, underwater reef memorials, and even shrouds and caskets that are made out of eco-friendly materials.

Baby Boomers Want to Make Their Own Choices

Whether they want a cocktail party, country club, lake home, or back yard funeral, baby boomers want choices and they want control. To best accommodate their wishes, it’s vital to provide a pre-planning funeral guide. This will empower them to fully customize their funeral services to match their specific desires. Furthermore, experienced funeral service providers are invaluable for support and resolving challenges that may arise. By taking these steps, the deceased will get the exact service that they desire while friends, family, and loved ones will enjoy a flawless celebration of their dearly departed.

To pre-plan your funeral now, go to our Pre-Planning Guide.

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Leave a Legacy with Funeral Pre-planning

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

A multitude of service options

You can begin by deciding where you would like to have the funeral service and possibly a memorial service afterwards. You have a multitude of options regarding how your service can occur. There are many additional events you can add to the service such as; visitation, wake, viewing, reception, or a religious event. Think about personal touches you may want to add and who you might like to officiate the service.

How your loved ones can be included

Some people can be pallbearers, deliver eulogies, recite poetry, sing songs, or read a line from your favorite book. If you like, you can have a donation sent to an organization that means a great deal to you. A beautiful service can be planned to meet your needs, no matter what your budget is. Think about anything special you would like to include in your service. Having already looked into your options, you help prevent overspending regarding the service. None of your loved ones will have to take on the task of being responsible for all of the options to choose from regarding your service.

Who would you like to be present

There are numerous other philanthropic efforts you can have made on your behalf. If there are clubs, organizations, or groups you’re a part of, you may want have them notified of your service so that they can attend. Consider making a list of individuals that you would like to be present at the service that your family does not know. A quick list of these people is so helpful to those who need to carry out the details of your plan. This way they have more time to memorialize your legacy instead of planning the details with uncertainty or even confusion.

Funeral Pre-planning makes difficult times easier

It can be difficult for your friends and loved ones to make plans during a time of emotional grief. You can spare everyone from wondering if they have met your requests or not by getting assistance with planning everything to your liking. Think about personal additions you might like to add. There may be valuable people you care about in your life that you would like to conduct certain parts of the ceremony or simply to just be present.

Funeral planning has so many benefits to everyone involved. You get to have a service that preserves your legacy, and the individuals participating in the service will know how much they mean to you. Pre-planning can be simple, plus all of your loved ones will be relieved that all they need to do is follow your plan. Planning ahead is always beneficial and will help bring peace of mind to those who receive your plans. Many issues are easily avoided that may come up regarding your funeral planning by making an appointment to begin laying out your plans. Everyone involved will be grateful and appreciative of your thoughtfulness in making a potentially difficult time much easier.

Pre-planning for Funeral Expenses

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Preplanning your funeral is a choice to give. Choosing to plan ahead frames your life in a personal design and allows family and friends to celebrate the life you shared with them.

Planning a Budget

The average cost of funerals ranges between $5,000 to $13,000, depending on the needs and the desires of the individual preplanning. In the first 24 hours after death there are about 70 details that will need addressed. Here are some of the major items to think about when planning a budget.

Why Count the Cost Now?

Taking the time to check into different resources and do some preplanning for your funeral has some cost saving values. Loved ones under emotional stress will have the tendency to make unnecessary purchases; by preplanning, you will get what you need and want as you take your time and plan in a calm hour of your life.

Inflation takes its toll on everything-even the cost of a funeral. Pay now and make sure the price is locked in for the future and save money.

The greatest gift to leave your family, besides the memories, would be to free them up of any extra financial burdens that come with the closing of our lives.

Pre-planning is a Healthy Option

There are several options available to prefund your services and lock in today’s costs. Some families set up a pre-need Trust fund with the funeral home, others purchase a special insurance policy through the funeral home to pay for funeral expenses, and still others choose to assign an existing insurance policy to be used when the time comes. There are even “same as cash” interest free payment options that allow you to pay for your services over time.

There are pros and cons to the various choices and the best plan is to meet with a preneed director at a funeral home you trust and review your options. At Tharp Funeral Home, we have preneed directors available at each of our locations. They can even meet you in the comfort of your own home. There will never be any pressure placed on you to prefund your funeral when you’re working with Tharp. Your options will be presented, and you will have time to think about what best fits your situation and make a decision only when you are ready.

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How to Have an End of Life Conversation with Your Kids

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

When your kids were little it was “the birds and the bees.”

But that was easy compared to this. Now that you are getting older, it’s time to face the reality that everyone will, eventually, pass away. And you owe it to your kids to have an end of life conversation with them so that they know what to do when you pass.

The thought of losing a parent, one of the most stable things in one’s life from birth, can be very hard to process for an adult child. This is why having that important end of life conversation with your children is a must. Not only to prepare them for it, but to help plan.

Preparing a funeral in advance can give you and your family member’s peace of mind. They will know what you want done and will be able to carry out your wishes with ease.

How to Bring it Up

This may be the most difficult part of the process. Your kids may not want to sit down and discuss something sad or difficult. It’s your job to make sure they know how important it is to you, and how serious it is that you have the conversation.

Here are a couple tips in bringing up a serious discussion about the celebration of your life after you pass:

You aren’t planning your death

Make sure they know this isn’t a death announcement. If you are healthy and plan to live a long life, make sure you lay that as your foundation for the entire conversation. Let them know it doesn’t have to mean you are terminally ill, or even that the time will come anytime soon, it’s just to be prepared incase anything does happen.

On the contrary, if you are sick, and you haven’t yet told your kids – then that should take precedence, and this conversation should wait for another day.

Tell Them Why You Want to Pre-plan

Set the tone by telling them that you want to have a serious discussion. Here are a few reasons that you might want to give them for your desire to pre-plan:

The Envelope Method

So your kids refuse to talk to you about this? You aren’t alone. Many adult children feel uncomfortable having the end of the life discussion with their parents, and just don’t want to have it.

The Changing Traditions in Funeral Planning

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Baby boomers have always strived to establish and celebrate their own unique traditions. We see it in their family lives and in the workplace, where a huge number of older professionals are exploring new opportunities and seeking a balance between work and family, and we even see it in their funeral planning.

In their funerals and memorials, this bold generation prefers to honor life in a unique way with any number of elements, including low-key cremations, videos, and even web-based components.

How Does This Affect Funeral Planning?

Pre-planned funeral services are more popular than ever before. Payment options include upfront payment, funeral insurance policies, and saving part of the estate to cover the costs of the service. Whatever options they choose, pre-planning is a huge opportunity for the family to save as much as 30% off the cost. But the cost of the memorial is only one part of the process.

Somber Affair or Party?

Everything changes over time, and funerals are no different. While there is always a place for traditional funerals and memorials, we are ushering in new choices and a new attitude. Pre-planning, technology, music, and design are all part of the modern blueprint to celebrate rather than bereave. Tharp Funeral Home adapts our services to accommodate the desires of all our clientele and all ideas.

How to Write a Sympathy Message

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

When putting together a sympathy message, it can be difficult to figure out what to say. After all, you want to make sure that the wording is just right and that your feelings are properly expressed.

If you are looking to write your own sympathy message but don’t know where to begin, here are some ideas and writing samples to help you:

1. Giving Condolences

A condolence is an expression of your sympathy for a loss. Typically when writing a condolence, the first thing that comes to your mind is the most authentic.

This doesn’t have to be a long message. You can keep your personal sympathy message short, especially if you’ve already shared your condolences in person or if you didn’t know the deceased very well. Whatever the case, you will want your message to come across as caring and warm.

You can fill in the blanks on your own condolence message:

2. Appreciation for the Deceased

Your sympathy message is also a way to express just how highly you thought of the deceased individual. Family and close friends will often take great comfort in knowing how important and beloved their loved one is. If you truly admired the deceased, this is the time to let that be known.

Some notes you can make in your message to show appreciation include:

3. Acknowledge the Loved One’s Feelings

Helping to validate the loved one’s sadness in your message can help them get through a very overwhelming time.

There are some very simple ways to say that you understand:

4. Share a Memory

Many people who lose a loved one find that sympathy messages with personal memories mixed into it bring the most comfort. Sharing memories tend to help with the whole healing process and add warmth to your message.

These memories can be a personal anecdote or something as simple as:

5. Sympathy Closing

Last but not least, you want to make sure to end off your sympathy message with a real heartfelt closing. For example, you can sign your message with phrases like:

This respectful closing is really a way to gracefully wrap up your condolences and show that they are at the center of your thoughts and prayers.

It is really tricky to write out a sympathy message that expresses everything you feel. A lot of times we can’t put our feelings into the proper words. Thankfully, by just writing up a sympathy message and sending it out to the grieving loved ones, the recipient will know you care.

Planning a Funeral on the Family Farm

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Planning a Funeral on your Family Farm

Funerals held on family farms are regaining the great popularity they enjoyed before the 1960s. As you can imagine, such memorials have a unique set of features and benefits for the family, and a unique set of challenges for the funeral professional.

Consider the Space of the Farm

It’s important for the family and the professional to fully survey the site and make note of valuable details. Is it an indoor or an outdoor memorial? Given that farms tend to have animals, are there any odors or sounds that would interfere with the solemnity of the service? Is the space large enough to accommodate all the guests? Is weather an issue? Is it safe and easy to access for everyone, including the elderly and disabled?

Look for an Expert and Reliable Funeral Director

Funerals are complicated and possibly stressful events – a skilled funeral director can help. If you’re struggling to think clearly or make decisions, you can rest assured that the funeral director will help with filing certificates, authorizations, and permits for arranging the service and ensuring that the event goes exactly according to your plan.

Choose a Casket Ideal for the Setting

Stress can lead to poor decisions. Choosing a cremation container or casket before the funeral will help you to stay on budget and ensure that your loved one gets exactly what they would like most. In the case of a farm memorial, preplanning also allows you the time and clear mind to ensure that the casket is ideal for the farm setting you chose.

You may also wish to consider a ‘green’ funeral. You won’t have to sacrifice any quality or design and it’s a positive gesture to support the environment that our next generation will inherit.

Plan Transportation

Although most of the vehicles will be driven by the attendees, the relatives of the deceased should arrange for transporting the body to the graveyard or final resting place. In most cases, the funeral service provider will present this type of service in their memorial package. However, it’s still best to call ahead to confirm that this vital part of the service is covered.

Choose Music and Songs

Pre-planning

When you are planning a funeral on the family farm, pre-planning is the best way to save time and money, and ease unnecessary stress for you and your guests.

A funeral should be personal, respectful, and safe, so take every step in advance to consider the needs of your guests and the wishes of the deceased. This way you ensure that the next chapter begins with uplifting and positive memories from a thoughtful farm funeral.

Get started now pre-planning your funeral, or just get some questions answered.

What Does a Funeral Director Do?

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

A funeral director is a licensed professional who specializes in all aspects of funeral services. They perform many tasks that take the burden off the bereaved and help them cope with the emotional upheaval that comes with such a loss.

Funeral Arrangements

First, a funeral director advises the bereaved on funeral arrangements and arranges for the transfer of bodies from private homes, hospitals, and sometimes from accident scenes.

Funeral arrangements begin with either burial or cremation and include the styles, designs, and costs of the funeral casket, cars, and flowers. Directors are also tasked with preserving, preparing, and keeping bodies for viewing before burial or cremation. In the case that religious traditions are to be followed, funeral directors liaise with clergy or religious advisers to the family of the bereaved. Directors also confirm the issue and verification of a Medical Certificate and register and obtain a Death Certificate.

Supervision of Staff and Other Funeral Services

Furthermore, their roles include coordinating and supervising funeral workers including embalmers, drivers, or clerical assistants. They even take care of the after-service reception, including the catering.

How to Make Funeral Arrangements

Tue, 10 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Laying a loved one to rest is a difficult challenge to face, but making the funeral arrangements doesn’t have to be overwhelming. At Tharp Funeral Home we pride ourselves on providing expert support and services. This ensures that your mind is free to attend your personal needs and those of your friends, family, and loved ones. We hope the following guidelines will answer any questions you may have and alleviate any anxiety about the process of laying a loved one to rest.

Call Your Funeral Home

The first step occurs soon after the passing. You should call a trusted funeral home or funeral service provider. Finding a local, family-owned provider ensures that you will receive personal and attentive care. Your funeral home can arrange for the deceased to be transported to the funeral facility. Be sure to provide clear details of what you require: transport from one funeral home to another, or from one city to another for burial. You should be able to take care of this step with just one phone call.

Make Funeral Arrangements

Make Cemetery Arrangements

Once the funeral arrangements are in place, you should discuss cemetery arrangements with your funeral director. If you do not have a funeral director, then reach out to a cemetery representative to review your options to purchase a burial or entombment space.

Purchase Necessary Components for the Funeral

With the events secured, your next step is purchasing funeral and memorial products. At Tharp Funeral Home, we offer a variety of options regarding the selection and purchase of caskets, grave markers, and other funeral merchandise. Whatever you require, we will provide it to your exacting standards and always on time.

There are a great many estate, financial, and administrative issues that arise after a death, including death reports, death benefit claims, and changing the title of the deceased’s assets. It is wise to assign a trusted individual to take charge of these matters to ensure that they don’t get brushed aside and forgotten, only to reappear later and cause major headaches.

There are a great many estate, financial, and administrative issues that arise after a death, including death reports, death benefit claims, and changing the title of the deceased’s assets. It is wise to assign a trusted individual to take charge of these matters to ensure that they don’t get brushed aside and forgotten, only to reappear later and cause major headaches.

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